Declining offers...

[DTY]

It took me over an hour to hit send on the email declining an offer I knew I didn't want, but still, it was hard! Even now, when I have pretty much made up my mind (99% going to accept a particular offer), I'm still not quite ready to decline my second choice. I don't know why that decision is so difficult... To be fair, I am waiting on some funding details confirmation from the school I've all but chosen to cement the deal, so I don't feel I should make the final final decision yet, but still, it's stressful! 

 

I think part of it is a touch of imposter syndrome... worrying my other schools will rescind their offers, and then I'll be stuck with none after having multiple, which I know is ridiculous, but my brain isn't always rational.

 

Has anyone else been experiencing this?

[kathena]

It seems you are going to the south! It's strange to think about that a school will rescind an offer, but sometimes I feel worried too.

 

I would like to accept the school I'm most likely to go, and then begin to turn down others.

 

I'm wondering whether it hurts relationships with the school if  turn down a master offer...

[MathCat]

I already declined all the other programs, but I am now worried that something will go wrong with the I-20 paperwork and I won't be able to attend the one I accepted. It's highly unlikely, but I can't help but think up nightmare scenarios....

 

I don't think I'll stop being at least a bit worried about that until I actually start.

[DTY]

I turned down a MA offer, but they were very nice about it, and were aware I had other PhD offers.

[SublimePZ]

I had a similar situation to you. Typed up the email at work and just left it for the entire day. I finally hit send at the end of the day, after struggling to hit that blue button.

 

Definitely experiencing a bit of buyer's remorse in the sense that after committing to one program, I start to question that decision.

 

I think the important thing to remember is that you chose the program you chose for specific reasons and it might be helpful to reflect on why you chose that school! Obviously it had a lot of positives about it, try getting excited about those positives 

[Ahlam]

yes it is stressful

I have made my decision and I accepted an offer so I have to decline the others,, but literally I do not dare to type the decline email

I have bad thoughts and I am afraid of the I-20 paperwork, and thoughts like " what if something happened and i could not go for this university"