Anyone else applying at the same time as SO?

[renea]

Both my fiance and I are applying to graduate school this season. We'll be getting married in the summer and plan on starting school in the Fall together. The process has been difficult, we're applying to the same schools but different departments and I've been accepted into two programs and he's been rejected from 3. It's really hard to feel happy about acceptances when he hasn't had any. Is anyone else currently applying with a SO that plans to move with you or is applying as well? Have you started talking about backup plans? He's very supportive of me, and excited, but I just received my second admission from a school he was rejected from- and I wasn't really looking forward to telling him. Even though we're not competing, it's hard to be happy for myself when he's so anxious. Additionally, I'm extremely anxious, we have a (very, very) safety school, but now that I've been accepted into two, far more prestigious programs I fear that going there (if we are accepted, which I'm 99.9% we will be) will make me bitter/not be the best decision career wise. How are other people dealing with the added stress of twice the applications and decisions?

[bribricakes17]

That's a tough situation to be in. It's hard enough deciding on a school nevermind making that choice for two that works for both of you. My SO isn't applying to grad school but is coming with me and is graduating this year so our issue is finding balance between my program and his ability to get a job in his field. The places he can get work easier and for better pay don't necessarily align with my top choices for grad school. He's being very supportive and told me to go for the program that i want and not worry about him but it's hard not to! Good luck to you both I hope you hear good news for him soon so you can both get what you want.