I am in need of a vent session:
I am torn between 2 phd programs. One is a top school, everything I need/want, offered full funding, and is close to my hometown. The other has equally great researchers but did not offer me any funding. However, my boyfriend would be able to move with me to that location because of his work, but not to the better top school. If we moved together, it would take a significant burden off me for navigating through being unfunded, and the program admissions team seemed extremely optimistic in my ability to achieve funding (the tuition waver is really the most important if my boyfriend covers rent and living for a year until I can get funding), however nothing is guaranteed. I feel like I'm in a teen romantic movie where I drop everything and go to the school that allows my boyfriend and I to be together, but for some reason, the notion seems to depress me. Also, he seems very much against long distance, consistently giving me mixed messages that "we will get through it together!" and "ugh, you know LDR are really hard..." Blah!! Alright I'm done complaining.