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We are recently engaged! Hooray! Now I'm trying to plan a wedding and research jobs and finish grad school. TRYING TO KEEP EVERYBODY HAPPY HERE.

So, my exam was a little different. I didn't have to take a test but I did have to propose and defend my project. The concept of a qualifying exam is terrifying, isn't it? "Prove to us you have knowledge!" That said, you know more than you think you do, especially because you just came out of coursework. Take a deep breath and, yes, take time off. The most helpful thing for me while I was preparing was to ask myself, "what would I feel stupid if I didn't know?" What are all of those BASIC and easy things that would be embarrassing to forget? That's a good place to focus for a w

I know people who have gotten into PhD programs with around a 3.2 (don't know about Master's). There is a LOT more to an application than a GPA. If you have great letters of recommendation and experience, that should take you pretty far. Go for it!

Agree with the above. Quals are stressful, but you should have guidance and help going through it. That's the whole point. Time for a new adviser!

This is something your graduate program's handbook probably clarifies. I think a D would raise some eyebrows regardless of whether you get kicked out, but you can redeem yourself. Don't beat yourself up too much. Also, you are not alone. I got great grades my whole life and had some of those weirdly frustrating and demeaning grade moments my first year of graduate school. It got to the point where the graduate director brought me into her office to talk. I had gotten a B- in one class (not a hard one!), and a C put us on academic probation (every school handles letter grades differe

Sorry to hear this! It definitely happens. At least you won't have to do the WHOLE thing next year. And just think, now you really know what it will be like going into it, so you should be a little calmer at least! Rooting for you. Remember that ice creams helps everything.

It depends on how your program works. Do you need to go into a lab/ work with an adviser right away? (not typically the case). You may be doing rotations in the first year to find the person that you want to work with. It's unlikely that the program would accept you if you didn't have people willing to work with you, so I'm not sure why you are not having luck. How are you approaching these people? Just a cold email of, "hey I'm a new student can you take me into your lab?" is not the best way to do it. Go to a talk or meet them in person somehow. They will pay more attention to an

Ugh, I feel you. That is not a fun experience at all. I ate nothing but ice cream... it helped a little :-)

The best first step for any question regarding your graduate program is to check the program's handbook. You can likely find it on their website.

FACIAL CHEMICAL PEEL I LOOK LIKE A BURN VICTIM AND IT HURTS.

Surprised nobody commented on this yet. Hope you're feeling better. It's never pointless to talk to somebody, and if you need help, reach out!

This harsh winter is causing ice damming problems on my roof and MY HOUSE WILL NOT STOP LEAKING. I want to climb in a hole and never come out.

I feel you on this one. I started dating a fellow grad student my first year. It was my first serious relationship. Three years later we are setting a timeline for marriage and my priorities are definitely shifting. I used to put ALL my energy into work and school and saw nothing but the most rigorous and prestigious academic career in my future. Now I'm more content smelling the roses, enjoying time with him, and I'm starting to value having a job in the future that allows me to free my mind when I come home from work. Love changes things. :-)

I'm surprised nobody has replied to this post already. Rooting for you ChocoLatte. Grad school is definitely not for the faint-of-heart and we have all gone through periods where we want to quit. (if you do find that you continually want to quit BIGGER things though... like life.... do consider a re-prioritization of your thought process. Your health should be a priority. Not grad school!) Try to do things to keep your mind off work every so often. Fingerpaint. Bake. It doesn't have to involve money. Always good to remind yourself that there is life outside the bubble, because

ewwwww. Yeah, nothing beats a rotten potato. I've had quite a few go rogue underneath the fridge. They smell fantastic.