DontHate

Girl who wears glasses: Do I need to explain why you sound like a girl? You just sound like a girl. You keep wailing that everyone is "personally attacking" you. That's 1. not true, and 2. the way you say it is just kind of female. Like I was describing before, the conflation of your opinion with your person is a very female approach. Dazed and bemused: I would hazard a guess that you are a guy.

I should probably not be telling you guys this, but I'm actually a clairvoyant. The only future I can't see is my own [cruel twist of fate!]

No, not you. I think you'll get into 2 places.

Each letter grade corresponds to a point on the scale. A = 4.0, A- = 3.7 etc

I think you'll get accepted to 4 schools, waitlisted at 1, and rejected by 2.

http://www.eeoc.gov/laws/types/sexual_harassment.cfm Sexual harassment is against the law.

Then the prof could get sued for sexual harassment, the university could get sued, there would be seriously awful repercussions for the prof's career. Having tenure doesn't mean it's okay to break the law. As far as arguing like a woman: what I was saying was that women don't seem comfortable arguing. They seem to quickly get upset, and are most comfortable agreeing about things and backing each other up, even if the agreement is somewhat put-on.

All relationships have power dynamics. And the power isn't all on the professor's side. While the professor has tenure, the student has the advantages of youth and mobility. Tenure is as much a prison as it is a permanent job security. If the student wants to switch schools, she can, while the prof might have a lot more problems doing so.

I can see that you didn't mean to sound elitist. Just be careful whenever you start talking "us" and "them," with them being everyone who isn't pursuing a PhD. Because that's entering some dangerous territory.

As usual, 1Q84 adds incredibly pertinent content to the thread.

Maybe we should all just not engage in any relationships at all. Because how can we guarantee that our emotions won't someday lead us to "a spurned and spiteful place?" And once we're in that place, who's to stop us from hiring a hitman to avenge our broken hearts?

Seriously LOL'ed I would give you a fellowship right away.

You'll be easy to identify: you're the guy who looks just like samuel beckett.

I don't think any of my grades are awarded based on points. I'm in seminars, and my papers are what determine my grade. They're just given letters.

The central conflict on this thread is that people keep resorting to irrelevant emotional responses, instead of addressing the conceptual and rhetorical issues of the argument. Like how no one has ever explained how my controversial post on page 5 was "heterosexist." Or how the language with which I discussed it could be altered to be more politically correct. Or, more essentially, how altering this language would help anyone to deal with the situation that I was initially describing. Why do women seem to argue differently from men (even on an anonymous, faceless web forum)? What is it about the way women are socialized, educated, or otherwise composed that makes them the way they tend to be? This is an interesting question and I'd love to hear anyone's take on it. I clearly don't believe that all women are like this. I'm not like this. I don't think speech should be gendered. But why is it? Why is personality somewhat gendered? What's the deal with this stuff?

I have one very specific reason to highly doubt the likelihood of this occurance.

Embarrassed? who said anything about being embarrassed? I just can tell who's a girl by how you write.

I am sooo so so so so very glad that I'm not applying to English programs. You have absolutely NO IDEA how glad I am. This forum has taught me a valuable lesson re: English programs.

I hope never to meet you either. You probably wouldn't laugh at any of my jokes. And I haven't heard you make any yourself, so our meeting would just be really boring, and then I'd probably make an excuse and leave early.

You guys are more obvious about your vaginii than you seem to realize.

My writing sample is probably not the worst in the pile, but it's definitely not publishable. Though one of my profs suggested I try to get it published. He's just a nice man.

I notice patterns, and people occasionally mention their gender in passing. I know girl who wears glasses is a girl, I know asleepawake is a girl, I know bfat is a girl, I know econosocio is a guy, I know waparys is a girl, I know rems is a girl, I know phil sparrow is a guy, eigen is a guy. Etc

Enough with the cookies! Stop being such a girl! We don't have to all paint our nails together for everything to be ok! We are feeding into their stereotypes of us right now. Please don't

Thanks. I hope you get in somewhere too. I'm sure your stats aren't as bad as you describe them to be. Plus, there are many better jobs out there even if you don't get in.

Look who's talking. You act like you're the resident expert or faculty or something when you're, what, a fourth year PhD student? And let me guess, you go to a "less competitive" school?