Hey David,
Nice work! Your statement is on point as well. I find it surprising that you aren't applying to SAIC's programs as much of their programs are cross disciplinary and the community has strong queer influences. Many of my friends that have come out of the MFA programs there have loved it, maybe its worth a look? Also, if you want theory heavy I strongly recommend attending an overseas program such as RCA or Goldsmiths.
A good friend of mine is about to graduate from Yale's photography program and has had the exact difficulty you are speaking about. At Yale its all about defending yourself, and in their case, to a group of straight white men. I don't know much about their other programs however I know that Yale is pretty specific when it comes to photography. Just some food for thought.
Oh and my friends attended the photo program at SAIC but as I understand it much of that programs students are making sculpture/fiber/performance work.
Best to you!