piquearabesque

Not sure why gr8pumpkin and TakeMyCoffeeBack feel the need to make snarky remarks about feminism. This thread really needs to be closed.

The majority of the last 5-10 pages of this thread have been sarcasm so you don't need to go all Gloria Steinem on us. 
 
Regarding the drinks thing. I'm a guy who's never bought a girl a drink at a bar unless we went to the bar together. But I have seen girls get harassed at bars so I do sympathize. One thing I would say though is, a girl should have enough common sense to refuse a drink if she doesn't want to further be bothered by this guy. Accepting a drink doesn't mean you owe him the right to take you home, but you probably should at least give him the right to converse. You don't just say, "Sure, I'll take a drink," and then walk to the other side of the bar (unless you're an alcoholic on a budget). So I don't have much sympathy for girls who accept drinks and don't want to be bothered at all. I do, however, for girls who respectfully decline a drink and still get harassed. There's no excuse for that. I would say the likelihood of you getting harassed if you respectfully decline a drink is probably much less than if you accept or disrespectfully decline. 

A lot of women I know actually find it uncomfortable when men buy them drinks because it puts pressure on them. Can't tell you how many times we have to go in and "rescue" a friend from some guy at a bar who's angry because he bought her a drink or who has the wrong idea because he bought her a drink. Or if she refused the drink altogether and he won't leave her alone.

also funny to see men think women have privilege because men buy them drinks/food. Sorry for centuries of oppression and not paying you equal wages and having an entire society built that objectifies you! But none of that is really that bad compared to HAVING TO BUY DRINKS OR DINNER (a tradition that formed because women weren't allowed to have wealth back in the day, so of course the guy had to pay).