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dikaion2016

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  1. As you pointed out, I noticed that many schools accept late LoRs. But the fact that admission committees did not raise any issues regarding late LoRs in the past does not necessarily mean that they will take the same action this year. This is why I sent the email to those three schools. Your explanation about why my professor was upset was very helpful to understand her perspective. But, as you said, I still believe it is true that she did not fulfill her duty to write the letter (if she does not want, she should have clearly told me that she could not write the letter, so that I could find other referees) and her reaction was not reasonable at all. Your story was interesting, but I feel that your professor's reaction was more reasonable and proportionate than mine haha.. I know that she was not that much helpful, nor communicative, but since she was my master thesis supervisor, I had no choice but to getting the letter from her. I thought it would be awkward to get letters from other referees, except from her. I appreciate your comments to encourage me to view this horrible experience from a more constructive angle, by enumerating lessons that I can learn - developing empathy seems to me the most valuable one. I think another valuable lesson from this experience is to find a better/nicer thesis supervisor at the doctoral school. She was not that much good in the class that I met her - many of my friends told me she's not good, but I asked her to be my supervisor because her research interests are similar to mine. But yeah, it was a huge mistake. Regarding whether to file a complaint, your caution seems quite correct. As you said, it could be harmful for me since she must have dealt with this type of conflicts, considering her behavior towards students including me. At this moment, I feel obliged to file a complaint against the school, not just for myself, but for other people as well. I will contemplate on this issue by next April. Overall, I appreciate your help to view this from a different perspective.
  2. As you suggested, I asked some of my professors about whether to send an email to the admission committee or not. They said I should, so I sent out emails to three schools a few days ago. One of those schools replied to me that they did receive that professor's email of blaming me, but assured that they would not attach that letter to my application. No replies from the other two schools though. By the way, your direction for how to write this email was very much helpful. I really appreciate it.
  3. Thanks for your reply. I secured five profs/employer, so I could quickly replace her. Your comments of A and B about her are correct, and I agree with your saying that feeling rude is subjective. But ccing school admission staff in that blaming email was way too much. I feel, as she felt I was rude, that this is obviously a form of abusing her power/status as a professor and recognize it as a violence. You are right. I guess opening the fight against her will be more harmful to me than to her. So my thought now is to contact to the vice president/president of the school/university after I receive all the results from the applications probably in March. One question is whether it is effective to write that statement (explaining the situation) to the admission office at the three schools that were cced by her. I am not sure about the application procedure, but I don't think the staff (graduate program coordinator or so) will participate in the admission process. My concern is if sending this brief statement will bring the attention from the admission committee to the factor that could have been neglected. It will be very helpful if you can give me your thoughts on this point. Overall, I sincerely appreciate your reply. It is really comforting and allows me to reflect from a distance. Thank you a lot!
  4. Hi all. I did my master's program in France and this year, I applied to PhD schools in the US. During the application process, however, I had a very experience with my master thesis supervisor (French, research prof), so I am wondering how to deal with this issue. At the end of November, she said she would submit the recommendation letter that I drafted whenever she could. But even after the deadline on Dec 15th, she did not upload the letter to several schools. I sent her reminders through the schools' application systems, wrote her a personal email, but she did not answer. A day after, I contacted those schools' admission offices to ask whether it is fine for my prof to submit the letter even after the deadline. Many schools said yes, and the earliest deadline would be Dec 20th. So I sent her an email, saying that the letter should be arrive by then, with attaching screenshots of the replies that I received from those schools. Then she replied to me, with ccing these schools admission staff, blaming that I was very rude, inconsiderate, and she was not committed to submitting the letter. She argued that she gave me a huge favor by submitting the letter three years in a row (yes true, but all drafted by me), and blamed that I did not invest enough time on my research proposal. I was shocked at her email, so I just replied to all that I am sorry if there's any misunderstanding, but I understood, based on our correspondence, that she would write the letter. I replaced her with another prof right away, and I am almost finishing the application procedure. Now I feel that she falsely blamed me of being rude, and her reaction was not proportionate at all. She could have just replied to me that she could not submit the letter anymore, instead of ignoring my emails for the 15 days since she said she would submit a letter, nor ccing the school staff. I want to file a complaint against her, so that she would not interact with students in the future, for fear that someone can experience what I just had. Does anyone know how to do so in France? I am also open to your thoughts and ideas about how to deal with this issue. Thanks.
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