saraConnor

Thanks for the comment @CAVALE. Acting class sounds interesting! Maybe something fun for the future. After some time has passed, I definitely think this comment is a product of this particular person and/or the fact that we present via Teams and everyone has their cameras turned off. The remark was made by my phd advisor and they have a reputation for making these kind of remarks to faculty and students. They literally told a fellow graduate student that they were boring. I also know they have gotten in trouble with another faculty member in the past (official reasons undisclosed). Unfortunately, I was not told any of this until after I accepted and started the program (after I accepted the offer their only 2 other grads dropped out without finishing their MS). Anyways, taking no action until evaluations are finalized is a good idea. I'm also hoping to pivot my research to work with other faculty (this has been working in my favor). A part of me wants to report this person because of their reputation for doing these things. But another part of me is just like, "keep cool and work with someone else" and avoid any form of backlash. Ugh. Anyways, thanks again for taking the time to comment and provide support. 

I think it is completely inappropriate.  That being said, I highly recommend taking a public speaking or acting class; be sure to research the instructor first to see if their teaching style is a good match for you, and make choices that excite you and give you a positive experience.  Fuck that professor.  Make it a win.  The next step is difficult; I would recommend taking no action until all grades are in.  If you depend on this person for letters of recommendation, etc. consider just focusing on the positive for now and imagine that any criticism is well-intended.  Keep it civil and focus on your personal definition of excellence. I am of the school that academia should build people up and not tear them down; clearly this professor has failed here.  Do you have a department advisor?  I recommend going to them first.  You've got this.  Best of luck.  (PS from what you've shared isn't it possible that she was projecting?  I'm sorry you are experiencing this.)

Just my 2 cents, We are likely to see to notice the differences rather than the similarities. Therefore, it is easier to overestimate th differences rather than the similarities. I dont know if there is a exact name for this. But here is my thought.