miyadoesthings

First off, I am so sorry for how long this post is. I wanted to be as thorough as possible, and I hope this shows how frustrated I am. I was accepted to five wonderful programs, and have ultimately narrowed it down to two programs, but I am struggling to determine which offer to accept. The first program (GWU) is the one my parents really want me to go to, as it's closer to home (Atlanta), and although this school was one of my top choices, I feel like if I chose to go there I would regret my decision. In the same vein, I feel like if I chose University of Washington, I would be missing out on some great opportunities. I made a huge spreadsheet comparing program costs and general stuff about each school, but I'm still stuck. Like I said, my family (parents and grandparents [my grandma is a borderline narcissist, so take that as you will]) want me to stay closer to home and attend GWU, but for the past year or so I have been fantasizing about attending UW. UW comes out as more expensive than GWU, but my family has also told me that I am not just paying for a program, but for the experience as well. In short, money is a factor, but it is not the factor. My main concern about GWU is the fact that I have to pass a foreign language proficiency exam in order to graduate, and if I fail it so many times (I think it's 2 or 3) I can get kicked from the program. I was fairly confident in my Japanese ability until I had to get a language evaluation from my professor, and he basically told me I suck but he knows I'm trying which is why I'm passing his class. I am worried that being a full-time student plus working will not allow me adequate time to improve my language ability enough to pass this exam (for reference—I have to be "intermediate-high" to pass the exam, and my professor rated me as "intermediate-low, but actually beginner-high but I know you are trying"). Additionally, UW is pretty much the school I have had my eyes on since I began my grad school search. My area concentration is Japan, and I love that they have a specific program for that, whereas GWU just has a generalized Asian Studies program. I have a friend who is a couple of years older than me who at one point considered pursuing a Japan-related degree, and she told me that she would choose UW due to the resources pertinent to my program (plus she thinks I would like UW better in general). Either way, no matter which program I choose, I will probably end up working in D.C., which is partially why I am drawn to UW—I might not get the chance to live in Seattle unless I decide to go to school there. GWU Pros ~10 hours by car from home; <2 hours by plane Received a small fellowship (a couple thousand a semester) Program director personally emailed me to congratulate me on my acceptance Wide variety of job opportunities available in this area—however, might not be what I want specifically Parents have many friends who live in the area Mildly familiar with the area (have visited D.C. a couple of times) Semester system Cons Have to pass a foreign language exam Program is more generalized Will not have a car with me (very urban location, most apartments have $100+/month parking fee) UW Pros Program is more concentrated Do not have to pass a foreign language exam, but encouraged to take FL classes (which I plan on doing) Can have my car with me (most of the apartments I have looked at have parking included) Has a specific library for my concentration (Tateuchi East Asia Library) Home of the Journal of Japanese Studies (I think it's super cool that this is the institution where this publication is published!) I have one acquaintance who lives in the area Several friends have encouraged me to choose UW Cons Far away from home (opposite side of the country, ~2 days by car, >5 hours by plane) Didn't receive any fellowships Really haven't heard much from the program other than the generic "congrats on your acceptance" Completely unfamiliar with the area Quarter system Stuff both schools have in common Accredited by the same organization (APSIA) Selected as an alternate for a fellowship at both schools Cost of living is roughly the same in both areas (slightly higher for GWU) Both schools are prestigious Both schools have hosted numerous conferences for my field Unfortunately, UW is part of the April 15 cohort, while I have until May 1 to decide on GWU. I was selected as an alternate for a fellowship (tuition + living stipend) at each school, but I will not be notified if I become a recipient of either until after April 15, of course. I have also applied to several small scholarships at UW that are specific to my program, and plan to apply to as many external scholarships as I can no matter which school I end up choosing. I am absolutely torn between both programs, and I would love some advice.

First off, I am so sorry for how long this post is. I wanted to be as thorough as possible, and I hope this shows how frustrated I am. I was accepted to five wonderful programs, and have ultimately narrowed it down to two programs, but I am struggling to determine which offer to accept. The first program (GWU) is the one my parents really want me to go to, as it's closer to home (Atlanta), and although this school was one of my top choices, I feel like if I chose to go there I would regret my decision. In the same vein, I feel like if I chose University of Washington, I would be missing out on some great opportunities. I made a huge spreadsheet comparing program costs and general stuff about each school, but I'm still stuck. Like I said, my family (parents and grandparents [my grandma is a borderline narcissist, so take that as you will]) want me to stay closer to home and attend GWU, but for the past year or so I have been fantasizing about attending UW. UW comes out as more expensive than GWU, but my family has also told me that I am not just paying for a program, but for the experience as well. In short, money is a factor, but it is not the factor. My main concern about GWU is the fact that I have to pass a foreign language proficiency exam in order to graduate, and if I fail it so many times (I think it's 2 or 3) I can get kicked from the program. I was fairly confident in my Japanese ability until I had to get a language evaluation from my professor, and he basically told me I suck but he knows I'm trying which is why I'm passing his class. I am worried that being a full-time student plus working will not allow me adequate time to improve my language ability enough to pass this exam (for reference—I have to be "intermediate-high" to pass the exam, and my professor rated me as "intermediate-low, but actually beginner-high but I know you are trying"). Additionally, UW is pretty much the school I have had my eyes on since I began my grad school search. My area concentration is Japan, and I love that they have a specific program for that, whereas GWU just has a generalized Asian Studies program. I have a friend who is a couple of years older than me who at one point considered pursuing a Japan-related degree, and she told me that she would choose UW due to the resources pertinent to my program (plus she thinks I would like UW better in general). Either way, no matter which program I choose, I will probably end up working in D.C., which is partially why I am drawn to UW—I might not get the chance to live in Seattle unless I decide to go to school there. GWU Pros ~10 hours by car from home; <2 hours by plane Received a small fellowship (a couple thousand a semester) Program director personally emailed me to congratulate me on my acceptance Wide variety of job opportunities available in this area—however, might not be what I want specifically Parents have many friends who live in the area Mildly familiar with the area (have visited D.C. a couple of times) Semester system Cons Have to pass a foreign language exam Program is more generalized Will not have a car with me (very urban location, most apartments have $100+/month parking fee) UW Pros Program is more concentrated Do not have to pass a foreign language exam, but encouraged to take FL classes (which I plan on doing) Can have my car with me (most of the apartments I have looked at have parking included) Has a specific library for my concentration (Tateuchi East Asia Library) Home of the Journal of Japanese Studies (I think it's super cool that this is the institution where this publication is published!) I have one acquaintance who lives in the area Several friends have encouraged me to choose UW Cons Far away from home (opposite side of the country, ~2 days by car, >5 hours by plane) Didn't receive any fellowships Really haven't heard much from the program other than the generic "congrats on your acceptance" Completely unfamiliar with the area Quarter system Stuff both schools have in common Accredited by the same organization (APSIA) Selected as an alternate for a fellowship at both schools Cost of living is roughly the same in both areas (slightly higher for GWU) Both schools are prestigious Both schools have hosted numerous conferences for my field Unfortunately, UW is part of the April 15 cohort, while I have until May 1 to decide on GWU. I was selected as an alternate for a fellowship (tuition + living stipend) at each school, but I will not be notified if I become a recipient of either until after April 15, of course. I have also applied to several small scholarships at UW that are specific to my program, and plan to apply to as many external scholarships as I can no matter which school I end up choosing. I am absolutely torn between both programs, and I would love some advice.