Hi sciencegirl - Yes, I'm making a deliberate effort to be ambiguous about my identity for now.
I'm completely with you on mixed methods, the congeniality and sincerity of the students and faculty, et al. One of the students told me a story about a fellow graduate student who needed to go on long-term medical leave, which would normally result in the suspension of her health insurance; she said that the department paid for her health insurance the whole time (I believe it).
I doubt the department that I'm leaning toward joining is so hospitable, but professionally and [due in large part to the location] socially, the path there is so clear to me. I think some Stanford Soc. faculty might appreciate my research and ambitions but I don't know that anyone there could guide them well. My interests are just too interdisciplinary and influenced by the eros and grit of cities. I was also extremely uncomfortable with the size of the Stanford campus and the fact that people without cars are at an undeniable disadvantage, and the experience of subletting in strangers' San Francisco apartments just doesn't interest me after doing the same in NYC.