SPS1000

Hello, I am a graduate student at a small rural school. I seem to have gotten myself in a situation that has me freaking out. Currently I am working on a project with grant money I recieved from the university and am doing a survey. Sounds good, right? I am actually pretty far behind on my timeline that I put forward on my application for the grant due to an event that was completely out of my control. Anyhow for the last two months I have been working very closely with my advisor on getting this survey out there and ready. Well I made some minor changes and finally distributed the survey. Something I should have done a month or so ago. My advisor sent me at least five e-mails in two hours and called me once (there's even a phantom voicemail which I can prove I didn't recieve). I didn't recieve the e-mails til about 8PM last night and didn't see that my advisor called me til 8:30. I called my advisor afterwards forgetting my manners, and not even knowing it was my advisor's cell phone that called me. Now I have to have a so far unscheduled meeting with the department head and my advisor (because it happened so late). Anybody been in this situation before? Any advice? My advisor is known by former advisees as a pain in the butt to work with and has been called a totalitarian jerk (more colorful language). My advisor does not respect anyone's opinion but thier own and has yelled at me for bringing in the advice of another professor who has had students apply for this grant before. My advisor is always too busy to do anything and takes completely unreasonable timeframes to get drafts back (upwards of a month), and does not give updates but flips out when you ask for one. They have delayed both of their previous advisees that I know of. One by over a year. It has constantly been a fight between them and I (like one out of 4 of our weekly meetings per month). I am really kicking myself for not going with my gut and chosing my professor friend as at least I would've got on well with that Sorry about the rant at the end there. EDIT: Oh I forgot to mention I have not even started my theis yet and plan on applying to PhD programs in the fall.