kmcal

hey Tams, I'm in a pretty similar situation as you. I was accepted to a great program at UCSD and also SF State. After a really painful decision making process that ended only this past weekend, I decided to accept the fully funded SF State program in favor of accumulating approx. $50K of debt at UCSD. I had my heart set on UCSD for two years, and even deferred admission last year. I was pretty sad about it, but the more I think about it, the more I realize SF State will probably be just as good an experience. I was concerned that SF State would not provide me with everything I imagined I would get at UCSD (great faculty and classes, internship and career services) but I started talking to some students and got a pretty positive response about the school and program. I think your experience is all of what you make of it, and even if I have to seek out the opportunities that would have been perhaps a little easier to get at UCSD, that itself will be a good experience. Also, the classes will be smaller and I'll get more time interacting with students and professors. Plus the thought of not living like a poor college student again and having to make loan payments for the next 10 years is pretty awesome. A month ago I thought I would be heading into poverty this summer in San Diego- instead I'm planning an otherwise unaffordable vacation!! And San Francisco is a great place to live! FYI I have friends who completed undergrad Psych degrees at SF State and they generally enjoyed their courses and professors. I don't know about grad, but it seemed like there was a pretty diverse course offering for undergrad (I majored in psych and wished I had been able to take some of the classes they did).

Has anyone been in my situation...I was accepted to my dream program last year. My SO was reluctant to move with me because of lack of time to find a new job, which was understandable. However, he was unemployed at the time and was only looking for jobs in the city we currently lived. I agreed to defer my acceptance for a year and he agreed to look for a job earlier so he could go with me. Six months later, when he realized I was still serious about attending graduate school the next year, he told me that he really didn't see moving with me and would not be trying to find a job. I was crushed. He is very attached to the city we live in (which by the way I moved to to be with him two years ago), yet the place we would be going is great as well. He even lived there for a while and loves it, and we both have many friends there. So now, I was reaccepted to this program and SO is pretty much saying see you in two years, if you move back here. I feel like I already wasted some time waiting for him, and I just need to go. We did long distance for a year previously and I vowed to not put myself in that situation again. Part of me wonders if he would ever be willing to move for me. He is currently doing freelance jobs and gets paid pretty well, but is not working full time. He says he'll look for a job but I haven't really seen any evidence of that yet. I don't want him to hold me back, but I don't want to have to feel like I'm choosing my career over him, or vice versa.