Which is worse...

[anxiouslyawaiting]

Well how about both??

My SO (of 4 years) will be attending a PhD program 700 miles away from mine (i did get into a good school, but not my very top choice).

I think losing your SO and not getting into your top choice is probably the worst outcome :/

How about losing your SO and not getting in anywhere? I think that's where I'm headed...

[NiTi_Wizard]

Interesting story for you anxious... I was an undergrad last year at Davis. I applied to seven schools and got rejected from five. My SO was looking for a job at the time and we were struggling to want to be close together to make the relationship work. Eventually I took a job in my hometown as an engineer, which was the best choice instead of grad school. I got way more experience and guidance for when I reapplied this year not to mention career growth when college kids these days aren't getting jobs. She got a job in a city 20 mins away from my hometown. I was living back home with my folks... she was in an apt. We weren't together all the time like back in school. Some stuff happened and we broke up pretty badly right after I finished applying to grad school a 2nd time. So I lost my SO and looks like I still haven't heard from my last school... so I know where you might be going. It sucks but the way I look at it sometimes people just need to get there own life on track and sometimes dragging someone else along for the ride can be pretty tough. Once my life is set on track again maybe I can reconnect with her, but for now I got to worry about myself and my future.

How about losing your SO and not getting in anywhere? I think that's where I'm headed...

[Sara_Rachel]

Interesting story for you anxious... I was an undergrad last year at Davis. I applied to seven schools and got rejected from five. My SO was looking for a job at the time and we were struggling to want to be close together to make the relationship work. Eventually I took a job in my hometown as an engineer, which was the best choice instead of grad school. I got way more experience and guidance for when I reapplied this year not to mention career growth when college kids these days aren't getting jobs. She got a job in a city 20 mins away from my hometown. I was living back home with my folks... she was in an apt. We weren't together all the time like back in school. Some stuff happened and we broke up pretty badly right after I finished applying to grad school a 2nd time. So I lost my SO and looks like I still haven't heard from my last school... so I know where you might be going. It sucks but the way I look at it sometimes people just need to get there own life on track and sometimes dragging someone else along for the ride can be pretty tough. Once my life is set on track again maybe I can reconnect with her, but for now I got to worry about myself and my future.

This topic is making me really worried.. I was rejected from my top school and every other school as well..except the one where I am waitlisted...FOR NOW..

And I think it sucks to be rejected from every school you applied to. I spent almost 20 days in agony..20 days of my life!!! ruined over one decision made by adcoms..Anyway, going to grad school would have meant moving half way across the world (from India to USA) and my SO wouldn't have liked it one bit. When I had applied, she was actually praying that I do not get in. But after looking at my gloomy face for the past 20 days, she is praying that I get into the one school where I have been waitlisted.

So all i can say is, not going to grad school is definitely sad..but I don't know if losing a SO whom you see in your future is worse or not.

[mscongeniality1]

Both would hurt like crazy, but I'm pretty sure I would take a breakup much harder. The admissions committees don't really know me besides my numbers and rec letters and personal statements...so yeah, they don't really know me since they haven't interacted with me. Being rejected by someone who knows all the good things about you (but also a few icky bad things that adcoms also don't see)...yeah, no. I would take being rejected by a school over being dumped any day. Besides, I'm a pretty big believer in "everything happens for a reason" so if that school didn't accept me then maybe I wasn't the best fit for them anyway, even if I don't see it til 5/10/15 years down the road.