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Here's my male perspective.
I would personally resent being with a spouse who thinks I am a failure.

I would love advice and perspectives from both males and females on this one.

I'm currently in a relationship with a great guy. He's applying to graduate school this fall, whereas I am finishing up my second year. I'm also currently at a top 5 program in my discipline with full funding, I just received an NSF GRFP, I have a prestigious internship this summer, and I finished my masters thesis a semester early. By most measures in my department I am considered highly successful. The fact that our grad school trajectories haven't matched up has been hard, and we've been long distance for a year. Things are still going well, and he applied to a bunch of schools nearby... but with the market the way it is, he's only gotten one offer so far. And to be honest.... it's practically slave wages. He's already got quite a few loans from undergrad (I have none) and I am very hesitant about him taking out more that he would need to survive. I'm not sure what his next move is at this point, and things are really up in the air.

Although things have been good up until now, it's hard for me to relate or give my boyfriend advice about his graduate career. Sometimes I worry that he will resent my success some day. At this rate, the way things are going, he would be the trailing spouse, the spousal hire. This is a reality that would be impossible for me to cope with, but I'm not sure he thinks of success the same way I do.

So my question is... how do other people cope with success differentials in a relationship? And to my male colleagues, would you honestly be comfortable with a partner who is more successful than you are in the long run? I'm a social scientist, I can take the reality, so don't be afraid to be truthful guys.

So glad my GA is going to be as high as it is, 35k =)

Getting a credit card doesn't make you more adult. Be very careful what you sign up for.

You're just repeating things I already shot down, only adding even more ridiculous nonsensical hyperbole. It is sad when people like you can't hold a civilized discussion, internet anonymity or no. I think the KKK is close enough to Godwin's Law for me, so congrats, you've won the internets! Enjoy grad school.

@DrFaustus666: Universities don't give credit for "fair share of life-problems". Your application is weak, from an academic point of view you've pretty much wasted your life. A perfect GRE result, whilst demonstrating your commitment, would not significantly strengthen your application. Prescience is not my strongest point, but there's no way in hell a top uni is going to accept you. It'll be tough enough to get accept *somewhere*.




sD.

C- take precalc, calc, AND study for the GRE

You're looking for a magic pill. There is no magic pill, I am sorry. If you are a "science" student who has somehow successfully avoided math, and then done badly on the quant GRE, then these two things just reinforce each other to adcoms. If you want to take a chance that you can get admitted to a science program without calc, then only do up to precalc. I wouldn't take that chance, plus it's MUCH easier to just do them one after the other than to wait a year in between. You can easily do them in two short summer sessions at a community college. I would think it would make your application look much stronger to take calc. If the programs you're applying to require linear algebra, there is no way they will admit you if you need to take 4 classes to get there. They just won't.

As others have said, there is no way around getting a good quant GRE for a science program. It's boring as hell, but you're going to have to spend time learning the test. I'm lucky to be one of these people that just do well on standardized tests. I am really thankful for that!

You know what? I'll probably get banned for this - but frankly, right now I don't care, because you are not helping anyone on this forum and we've all had it. So I'm just going to say this once and very clearly:

F-CK OFF, Mate.

Don't take this personally, it actually is intended lightheartedly/ jokingly, but REALLY.....

SOM - you're wrong because seadub says you're wrong, and this person apparently knows everything about the GRE and how it is used as a judgment tool at every program in the United States of America - just ask. Haven't you been paying any attention to his or her posties all over this board? How dare you attempt to bring real-world experiences into your explanation for why you believe what you believe about the GRE. Reality has nothing to do with it. It's all about the statistics reported on the internet and in the GRE prep manuals.

Actually, you were not accepted at Duke with your scores, even though you say you were, because Seadub says your score is too low to have gotten in. You actually hallucinated your experiences...

And personal attacks? Ha, ha, hehehehehe. You haven't yet been the recipient of this person's really personal attacks. But if you keep trying to make him or her see reason or accept that his or her view is not "THE" right view, I'm sure you will.


I suggest the "ignore" button.... :rolleyes:

You're just repeating things I already shot down, only adding even more ridiculous nonsensical hyperbole. It is sad when people like you can't hold a civilized discussion, internet anonymity or no. I think the KKK is close enough to Godwin's Law for me, so congrats, you've won the internets! Enjoy grad school.

You're just repeating things I already shot down, only adding even more ridiculous nonsensical hyperbole. It is sad when people like you can't hold a civilized discussion, internet anonymity or no. I think the KKK is close enough to Godwin's Law for me, so congrats, you've won the internets! Enjoy grad school.

I come from India. The GRE and TOEFL (which you don't have to take) cost me around $170 each (my family makes a total of $5000 annually). About ETS being a monopoly: Lets assume you had 3 different companies that operated business.. the next excuse you'd find to support not wanting to take the test would be: Look at X! He had his test easy because he took it with company B whereas I took the more difficult A. So I prefer the ETS monopoly.

I find it hard to believe that non-native speakers go through all that effort, spend the money that they don't have (third world/ "developing" countries are where we come from) to get past this requirement because its about the only score that universities can use in certain decisions (eg: university wide fellowships.. you do need some kind of standardized score!). All I see here is native speakers ranting about how weird the english section of the GRE is. Granted its weird but I'm sure the people who designed it didn't do it in their sleep. I'm sure a lot of thought and research went into it. So get over it!