kaleisi

It feels like a lot of people tend to go for a PhD because it seems like the obvious/expected path to take after a certain point - NOT because they're into intense research.
 
(In my field, it's also because they can't teach/open a clinic without a PhD.)

It feels like a lot of people tend to go for a PhD because it seems like the obvious/expected path to take after a certain point - NOT because they're into intense research.
 
(In my field, it's also because they can't teach/open a clinic without a PhD.)

Yes, you're in. Congrats!
I've never heard of someone being admitted by the department and rejected by the graduate school, probably because departments don't recommend inadequate candidates for admissions.

I was once a master procrastinator. Two years ago, my psych professor said the secret to stop procrastinating...is to stop doing it. ;-)  It is a CHOICE. Grad school is definitely not the place for that, especially if you want to do well.

I started to schedule my days...was it easy to follow a schedule? No. But you get drunk off the feeling of having everything done and not losing sleep, time, and the potential for an A by just following that schedule.

Schedule your days out from now on until grad school and get into the habit...either a schedule or a To Do List...find out what works for you. Look at your schedule/To Do list at the end of each day and determine how well you were able to follow it...then keep improving. This did not take me weeks to accomplish but i recognized that I NEEDED to get my act together.

Procrastination can bring down the best of us, but it is not a life skill that we want to keep with us during certain stages of our lives, that's for sure. Hope this helps.

Remember...schedule and give yourself breaks...BREAKS are important or you start to lose attention to what you're doing...and then the procrastination begins. Start to do your BEST to follow a schedule so that you can form the necessary discipline.
 
Honestly, you may never get rid of your procrastination urges entirely but they will minimize - significantly. You'll have your moments but OVERALL they will minimize SIGNIFICANTLY and THAT is the place you want to aim to get to. For right now.

There are plenty of us still here years after our initial applications. Perhaps for the schadenfreude, but also because getting in is just the beginning.

I generally referred to them as "Exalted Magus".  

I think you should consider that there are other types of families out there before calling someone childish. Freedom of choice does not come as easily for some people. I didn't even want to mention it, so please refrain from any comment regarding my life, or my choices. You need to get some perspective.
 
 
 
 
Thank you so much for saying this.

Considering that schools often change their mind about (revoke) admissions offers all the time, I would imagine we would be well within our rights to change our mind before the deadline.

Let's try not to judge the OP. She originally didn't even want to mention the reason why she wants to do this so I don't think she intended to open this particular point up for discussion. Clearly she is a thoughtful and intelligent woman (as she got into a competitive academic program) who has probably given this situation a lot of thought and can predict the way that her family will respond. Families can operate quite differently from a cultural context, ways in which people from an individualistic society (such as the American way of life) may find challenging to comprehend (particularly when compared to collectivist societies or societies in which elders are given more respect for their experience and wisdom).
 
Best of luck to the OP. I hope the situation turns out favorably.