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Hi there! This sounds a LOT like what my experience getting married & having children has been like. There were most definitely friends who disappeared or squeaked when I/we couldn't or wouldn't be available to their liking. Those people tended to weed themselves out eventually and I don't feel bad about it in retrospect--but I sure did at the time. In the end, it was a blessing in disguise because it opened doors for new, very understanding and supportive friends to enter. The kind where you don't see each other for 6 months and then getting together is just like no time has passed and you pick up where you left off. And maybe you only have 3 of them, but the complete and total lack of drama is priceless. There's so much drama to regular adult life anyway, it shouldn't come from those who love you the most. 
You have clear obligations right now and a real friend will understand. (Gosh, I'm sounding really harsh today!  )Eventually, regardless if it's med school, a new job, family or ??? she will find herself in a similar spot eventually. On the off-chance that she doesn't understand what really happens when someone writes a thesis, perhaps one coffee and a hashing out of things might make sense.Then at least you will be on the same informational playing field. I have no tolerance for name calling, so if she is calling you the b-word, that's just not okay.
I'm starting graduate school this fall after many years not in school to go live life. I've got to say how nice it is to not have to worry about if my friends will understand the new time constraints. My advice: Let this one go. If her friendship was meant to be, she'll come back around. 
Best wishes!
 
 

Hi there! This sounds a LOT like what my experience getting married & having children has been like. There were most definitely friends who disappeared or squeaked when I/we couldn't or wouldn't be available to their liking. Those people tended to weed themselves out eventually and I don't feel bad about it in retrospect--but I sure did at the time. In the end, it was a blessing in disguise because it opened doors for new, very understanding and supportive friends to enter. The kind where you don't see each other for 6 months and then getting together is just like no time has passed and you pick up where you left off. And maybe you only have 3 of them, but the complete and total lack of drama is priceless. There's so much drama to regular adult life anyway, it shouldn't come from those who love you the most. 
You have clear obligations right now and a real friend will understand. (Gosh, I'm sounding really harsh today!  )Eventually, regardless if it's med school, a new job, family or ??? she will find herself in a similar spot eventually. On the off-chance that she doesn't understand what really happens when someone writes a thesis, perhaps one coffee and a hashing out of things might make sense.Then at least you will be on the same informational playing field. I have no tolerance for name calling, so if she is calling you the b-word, that's just not okay.
I'm starting graduate school this fall after many years not in school to go live life. I've got to say how nice it is to not have to worry about if my friends will understand the new time constraints. My advice: Let this one go. If her friendship was meant to be, she'll come back around. 
Best wishes!