collegesista

accepted to Cornell this past Sunday. Letter will come in the mail next week!

I just scheduled an interview with an employer, wish me luck guys!

It's even more crazy to enter a PhD program when you don't want to do it.

I would choose B because it is better and has provided funding. There is no reason to choose A.
 
If you decline A, there is no problem because they themselves know that they have not provided funding.
 
I don't see any confusion here.

Hi, I set up this account especially for you. 
First of all, I am so sorry for the plight that you are in. Please don't leave your husband at this moment; if you do, I'm worried that he will turn into something more radical. However, if you have tried everything to talk sense into him but fail or if he becomes physically aggressive, that's another story. 
Have you considered taking your husband to a psychologist? Or do you know some of his close friends/relatives who are not racist? Try to get your husband talk to them. 
Or try to (discreetly) make him read real stories of the Holocaust - to let him understand what Nazism really means. 
As a last resort, anti-depressants such as Prozac, Celexa, may drastically reduce his aggression/hatred towards "other races" or women. 
You must stand your ground firmly and must never be swayed by your husband's attitudes/behaviours. If there's anyone who can change him, it's you. I understand how frustrating it is to battle against someone who holds drastically different (and wrong) values, especially if it's someone close to you. But please, please, please, don't give up on them without trying. I guess you don't need my reminder, but never forget that what you are standing for is 100% correct: women = men; white = Asian = black = Hispanics, etc. 
Kudos. It will get better, and I hope to hear any updates from you later on.

Hello,
This is a bit of a personal/off-topic thread.
I've often been told that as a woman of color in graduate school, it will be harder for me to find a partner. Because the things that I represent don't fit the image that most people have of black women. And yes, I have to admit that I have been single my entire life. I am about to turn 25 in a month and I haven't been successful in my romantic life in the same way that I  am perceived to be in my professional/academic life. I have never been in a committed relationship with anyone. But I am still young, so I try to remain hopeful but as I see all of my friends getting married, engaged or having children, I would be lying if I said that I am starting to lose hope. Even if I am truly passionate about my career and the projects I am involved in, I don't want my life to be only that.
A friend of mine was telling me the other day that all the work that I do, the activism that I am involved in outside of the classroom and the media attention that I get might make it difficult for a man to approach me because I don't "fit" in. The thing is that I don't want to change the things that I am involved in because they make me happy and keep me grounded and sane. But I get these kinds of reflections from friends and adults since my teenage years. It's starting to hurt to get this feeling that I have to choose between being myself and finding a partner. I just want someone who accepts me as I am and with whom I can have interesting conversations with but it seems to be too much to ask.
Do you think that finding love is harder for people pursuing graduate studies or with graduate diplomas, especially if they are part of a minority group? Do you think the whole idea of a woman being successful makes it harder to her to find a partner?
I am happy in my life and I have never been happier but yes, sometimes, I do feel some kind of void in the sense that I fear to fail my personal life. I am able to manage that fear by trying to focus on the things that I already have in my life, and yes, I do have a lot already and I recognize that with great humility. And I try to cherish that because nothing can be taken for granted. I'm in a good place in my life and it has not always been the case. However, I'm afraid of turning into the kind of unattached woman who just works and has her career for sole purpose in her life. 
 

I studied abroad in Budapest this past year and was fortunate to travel to many European countries. I spent part of my Spring Break in Paris and enjoyed it. I stayed in the 12th arrondissement and felt relatively safe. I walked around a lot (Louvre, Eiffel Tower areas), even at night - but I remained vigilant at all times. I stayed in a shitty airbnb, but would recommend single or women-only hostel rooms if you are aiming for the most protection at night.
In all my travels, I've had the fortune of never being harassed, so I can't speak much on that. I literally have a full can of mace that I've never used. I always walked around with my DSLR and a small backpack but made sure to keep them close and unsusceptible to theft. As a Black woman travelling in predominantly heterogeneous places, I experienced a lot of staring but that was it.
My biggest travel tip is to always download offline maps in Google Maps and Maps.me. If you don't have free data/wifi hotspot this saves the trouble of asking strangers for help or desperately trying to find wifi. This saved me a lot because I only had a Hungarian sim card and didn't want to rack up too many roaming charges. I also used Google Trips because they have a nice planning feature where you can map out your travels for the day.
France was definitely the most diverse place I visited, so I almost felt at home. I enjoyed Paris and would go again!