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  1. Some schools have honor codes that mandate you report something like this if you know about it, or you're considered complicit. Everyone who helped her should've known better. I get you're worried about people you care about, but you also need to look out for yourself. Again, knowing about this and not reporting it is seen as academic dishonesty at some schools. You're playing with fire by doing nothing. You need to report this.
  2. Also, lots of MA programs have deadlines in the spring — you might be able to take the GRE again and apply this cycle for MA programs if you want to.
  3. I'm applying so I have no actual experience to offer, hence the brevity of my reply, but my first gut reaction is the GRE absolutely needs to be as high as possible given your GPA. (I personally think the GRE is a biased piece of crud that has nothing to do with intelligence, but since Soc programs still use it for applications, it unfortunately matters — especially when you have a 2.2.) It's not the most important part of the app, but it's the only thing I can judge given the information you provided — I have no idea what your writing sample, LORs, etc. will be like. Good luck!
  4. I can't answer most of your questions because I'm just applying myself, but I think it's worth trying to get your school to change that F to a W if you can. It might take some arm twisting, but honestly, the jump from a 3.7 to a 3.9 sounds worth some phone calls and strongly-worded emails to me.
  5. You don't need to apologize for seeking help! Or for posting. Heck, there should be a megathread for ranting about bad ex-advisers (or having mental health issues in grad school — I need that forum!). Do you have health insurance? Even if therapists that take insurance are rare, some insurances do cover counseling (albeit insufficiently — trust me, I'm drowning in therapy debt myself). I've also heard there are some counseling centers in some cities that will offer X amount of free peer counseling to those who cannot afford it (generally attached to teaching hospitals and the like with people who are getting hours they need to be certified). I know that's vague — I've just heard about it in New York, never tried it. My point was more trying to make sure you have enough support, and knowing this probably isn't enough. Edit: Ironically grad school might give you access to more support (e.g. school counseling centers), but that doesn't mean you should rush into it. Most people I've talked to have encouraged gap years (I've heard people recommend between 1-5; I know some who've taken a decade) before PhDs. I'm ignoring them, so I can't comment from personal experience, but it seems to be a very common thing (at least in the social sciences — I forgot what your focus is). School is exhausting; taking a break is okay!
  6. First, I ditto the response above. But second, I think this is the third (?) time you've posted a variation of this (talking about your old adviser, being hurt by the end of the friendship you had, etc.) in the Q&A forum. This post does have good specific questions at the end, but still, I know your username and can guess most of the content of your posts before reading them. This broken relationship is clearly having a profound effect on you, and it might be useful to talk with a professional about your feelings around this in the real world — there's no shame in getting help. On a virtual forum, I don't think we're equipped to help you work through and move past that relationship at this point, and you deserve to be able to put it behind you. Someone with professional experience will also be able to help you set up healthy boundaries as you form connections with new advisors (again, something we cannot help you with online, even if we share things about our relationships with our advisors). That's just my two cents. I really am rooting for you.
  7. Maybe this is just at my school, so ignore me if this isn't how your school is set up, but department chairs here don't have time to "mediate" relationships between students and professors unless it's a big deal (e.g. someone in conflict with their dissertation committee chair or retaliation for a sexual harassment complaint or something). I'm not saying I agree with this approach in academia, but it's kind of the way it works, at least at my school. I understand feeling hurt when a professor you cared about didn't respond in a way that was helpful (I've had that happen; it stinks!), but from your description, it doesn't sound to me like she did anything professionally wrong. Professors often don't have time to respond to emails, and she went out of her way to respond and tell you that she couldn't help with a project that wasn't even for a class you were taking with her. Not responding to the follow-up to that (which again had nothing to do with being enrolled in a current class) is hardly a reportable offense. It's also important to recognize the context in which your complaint was made. Women have historically had an immensely difficult time getting tenure in academic institutions that have historically been dominated by men, and are often labeled "moody" or something similar (over-emotional, bossy, etc.). If I were her, I certainly wouldn't appreciate the exchange you described turning into a matter with the dean that could tarnish her record and make future employment challenging. I'm glad you apologized for that, but I just wanted to lay this out so you can better understand why the relationship might have gone downhill. As the poster said above, moving on sounds like a good plan. I would also reconsider your approach if a situation like this happens again. If email isn't working, maybe ask to talk to the professor in person during office hours or even over the phone. Tone is hard to convey in email, if the professor has time to reply at all. Just recently, I found out during office hours that a professor who was ignoring my letter of rec request emails was actually thrilled to write me a letter, but just missed the emails in her inbox. She wasn't trying to be cold; she was just busy. I'm pretty bad with office hours, but I have to admit that face-to-face or verbal contact is super helpful, even if email is more convenient and comfortable. I hope this helps clarify some things for the future. I wish you luck in forging new relationships with other professors. ❤️ P.S. Just to add, as a student who has anxiety and has had the experience of telling professors about my situation and not getting a response, my heart does genuinely go out to you on that front. Even though I maintain my opinions above re: whether what she did was actually something she should get in trouble for, I realize that opening up to someone about personal problems is hard, and not getting a response feels bad after making yourself vulnerable. Not everyone is good at handling anxiety and other mental health stuff. Hopefully you'll find good support people who are able to work with you and respond to your situation. I finally did, but it took a lot of time and disappointment. You'll get there!
  8. Hi! I'm applying to Soc programs too, and I found the Sociology thread on these forms super helpful. People have asked a lot of great questions over the years. I recommend going through there, because a lot of people in that form also have insight about the exact programs you're applying to. Good luck!
  9. So glad you passed! Well deserved.
  10. Hang in there. We're all rooting for you. ❤️
  11. I'd contact the department head and director of the grad school, personally, to let them know what's going on re: the deadline. No harm in CC'ing General Counsel (the university's legal department) either. If they're breaking their own policies and that causes you to lose your scholarship, that makes them liable. Probably better to contact them now instead of after the deadline. I know that sounds aggressive, but advocating for yourself is really important, and it's better to be prepared by contacting people earlier than having to do it later, IMO. Wishing you luck.
  12. Several schools have M.A. program scholarships for former Peace Corps volunteers (and I think Peace Corps has some funding opportunities too?), so at least for M.A.s, it's definitely a thing!
  13. Good luck! Please let us know how it goes.
  14. Something tells me that MAPSS's 2017 Sociology WashU in St. Louis PhD placement wasn't correct. Just a guess. 😉
  15. UChicago MAPSS is known for getting a lot of people into PhD programs, if that's the goal. It's expensive (like most MAs) but they often offer scholarships for some amount off tuition. I think it's only one year, which also helps. Not sociology, but I know Wisconsin has a Gender Studies MA that might have some decent funding.
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