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My advise to people is live the life you want to be living. You are the sum of the 5 closest people in your life. If you want a life partner, and not just a relationship, you need to live or be working towards your ideal life. That's when they'll enter your life and be drawn to you. It is certainly harder for educated minority women. It is also harder if you want both academia and a family life. But it is possible. I made an important decision in my mid-20's. I decided that being a mother was more important to me than being married. But my career and motherhood were both non-negotiable. After that, it was easier avoiding relationships that wouldn't amount to that life partner. I started dating a guy a month into graduate school (my first masters). He was a friend of friends, and we used to run a club together back in undergrad. In my case, it ended up being the most solid relationship in my entire life. Partially because we hold the same personal values - but not the same career ones. In the past I dated other academia focused guys, and they were more focused on themselves and/or making our goals competitive. With my current boyfriend, we're both equally ambitious but entirely different ways (he's an artist and content developer).

Another possible variable is that, after seeing so much negativity related to government affairs on this forum, prospective students are looking for other, more positive, support groups.

Job applications and other work responsibilities mostly. I was actively applying and interviewing for non-grad school back-up plans. I also continued reading academic literature within my research interests, etc., to prepare for academic interviews. It was honestly easier (but by no ways easy) waiting for the grad decisions than company promotional decisions because there are more tangible career-driven tasks I can occupy myself with.

Kutztown University (Pennsylvania State school) had a flat rate for any graduate assistants. It was 20 hrs a week for $7500/annually plus the tuition waiver. The installment was paid biweekly beginning late August and ending a bit after the academic year let out.

Another "it depends" based on research interests, programs of interest, budget, geographic location. Another factor can be "non academic responsibilities." For my first masters , I applied to 12 schools because I had the flexibility to upend my life. I was also not as certain about my career "end goals". When I had more direction, I applied to 5 schools (2nd masters). Now, my life has changed drastically. I have a full-time career and need to work a doctoral around those responsibilities. So my choices are limited to part-time professional doctoral degrees. Out of the 2 reasonable possibilities, 1 of them isn't what I'm looking for. So, that means when I apply for a DrPH, I'm only applying to one school. All eggs will be in one basket, but I'm at a point in my life where that's acceptable.

Oh, okay. Nevermind then. A small state school I attended offered full waiver for someone working FT for their masters in student affairs. Bad info then, sorry!

Maybe you can look to see if the department you work (or want to work at)offers a GAship. Just change you employment status to GA instead. Most student affairs departments offered a lot of graduate assistantship. Also consider, if you're an employee, you may not need the GAship to begin with. Most universities will let you take classes for free if you work for them. So you'd get money + tuition.. And more than many GAs get...

If you do not want to be a spokesperson for your minority status, you'll need to research the industry and region you're going into. That way, you can find yourself a better fit where you're not so alone. I agree that you shouldn't have to do that much work, but institutions are disproportionate across America. If that's something you're okay with doing, our institutions could use more spokespeople who are amazing (and not just loud) advocates. Either way, knowing the demographics of your coworkers, clients, and region may be more important going into any job or educational experience.

You're welcome! I'm glad it helped.

^ This ^ Psychology is becoming a increasingly rigorous scientific field. Your question seems more a philosophical and spiritual based one than psychology based one.

@Nico Corr mainly geometry, but I did a lot of refreshers along the spectrum. This is a useful grid for comparison: https://www.ets.org/gre/revised_general/prepare/khan_academy

Congrats!

I'm glad to hear this. As a mental health counselor, I can tell you that not all of us are the same caliber, nor are we interchangeable. If you've tried 1 therapist, it's like trying 1 burger and saying they're all the same. You may want to consider why it failed (what did or didn't the counselor do that you needed from the therapeutic relationship). You've had a lot of really good advice thus far speaking to this. To rebuild self-esteem you need both external and internal process switches. So, you need a positive support network around you - to help bolster what you're trying to change internally. Internal Methods: Identifying 3 accomplishments you did for the day. This can be as simple as "I read that chapter, I finished that paper, I spoke to a friend I haven't in a while, I washed my hair today, etc." Give your self credit where credit is due. Write this in a journal, or just say it out loud on repeat. Reminders about what you've done thus far. I like pictures for this. Placing pictures around your work or home from moments when you feel accomplished, connected, or just memories that make you happy. Setting small, achievable, daily goals for yourself. Often times we only set the large goals, and forget to set and praise ourselves for the little stuff Remember "no one can make you feel inferior without your consent." If someone makes you feel small, work on not letting that be personal. Maybe write down the comment, and write down ways which they might have meant it that wasn't personal. Work on desensitizing yourself to those words. External Methods: You're doing the biggest one right now! Reaching out, talking to others who are supportive. If your support is either 1) not supportive 2) not supportive in the way you need, either communicate and get that worked on... or find new supports Keeping yourself physically healthy and mentally challenged while working on the mental wellness!

First off, congratulations on being 3 years into recovery. I know how much that changes your life and becomes infused in every part of your decision making and life. It sounds life recovery has made you who you are and helped you guide your future. That being said, admissions committees do not need to know anything about your recovery, youthful indiscretions, or any other personal details of your life. If you don't discuss your "younger years" the committee will simply thing that you just needed more time to find out your passion. They really don't think that everyone should be 7 years old with their life planned out. Different people need more time. The stark contrast between associates and bachelors will only solidify that assessment. The personal statement can be crafted as a "where I want to go from here" instead of a "where I've come from." You can discuss classes that changed your life, questions or professional problems you want to solve, or anything else. As for if the recovery story can get you into grad school, depends on the program. My counseling masters program expressly asked me to discuss a time that I helped someone. Other schools want a diversity statement. The problem is the word count. When a school really wants a short concise statement saying where you want to go, the recovery story usually takes up most of the room. It's impressive, but often times irrelevant to what they want to know. When I wrote out my personal statements, I wrote several drafts. The first one was a personal summary/chronology. That helped me brainstorm. I suggest writing down your recovery story anyways - just to write it. That might help you see ideas and concepts that will strengthen your actual statement when you begin drafting it as well as being cathartic.

Most HR departments have a set timelimit for holding positions. American standard is 2 weeks, but it will depend on their company policies.