juilletmercredi Posted March 12, 2014 Share Posted March 12, 2014 So this isn't so much a question as it is that I'm kind of bummed and want to vent a bit, although advice is welcome. I am defending my dissertation in June and will receive my PhD in October 2014, which is the next conferral date after May. I already have a postdoc lined up that I will begin August 2014. The original plan was to walk in the May 2014 commencement ceremonies - at my university, PhD candidates whose degrees were conferred October 2013, February 2014, and who will be conferred May 2014 and October 2014 are eligible to participate in the May 2014 commencement ceremones. For me there are three, because I'm in a joint program - my two schools' (the GSAS and the SPH) ceremonies, one on Sunday, May 18 and one on Tuesday, May 20, and then the university ceremony on Wednesday, May 21. Here's the catch. My younger sister-in-law is graduating from high school this May, and wouldn't you know but her graduation is on Monday, May 19. She lives in Atlanta and I live and attend a university in New York. I'm really close to her - I've been dating her brother, my now-husband, since she was about 6 or 7 years old. I really want to see her graduate, and she'd be really bummed (and would probably cry) if I missed her graduation. I definitely don't want to fly down Monday morning and then fly back Tuesday morning; while that's technically doable (her ceremony is at 7 pm and the Tuesday one for me is at 4 pm), I'll be by myself and there's no point in doing the commencement if I'm by myself. Besides, my selfless heart reasons that I had two graduations already - high school and college - so I can afford to push mine back a bit, and I can walk in the commencement ceremonies in May 2015. My postdoc is only a 5-hour bus ride away from University City and my husband attends the same university, is graduating in May 2015, and will be participating next year, too, so really it's very practical. We'll have double the tickets and both of our families will be able to come and celebrate with us together. Rational, yes? Except that I'm kind of bummed! I'm defending in June 2014, and participating in the ceremonies in May 2014 (which will be shortly after I distribute) just seems right. By the time May 2015 rolls around, I'll have already been working in a postdoc for almost a full year, and I feel like it won't be as momentous/meaningful. I'm not like way out there totally depressed about it, but it does bum me out when I get commencement mail and I should be like renting my gown and stuff and I'm...not. Sigh. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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