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  1. Love, Academia and Success

    So... some of this is youth, I think. There's really no reason to wonder about what others are doing that you aren't because so much of it is about your timing. Maybe there just happened to be two people in the right place at the right time and you haven't had that moment yet. Maybe they read loads of dating advice online and follow it to a T. Maybe they have a secret talent for mind-reading and use that to find the right person. You'll never really know. And I'd say to stop worrying or wondering about it altogether because it doesn't serve much of a purpose. But also, you grow and change throughout graduate school and as you age (and, sometimes both at once!). What I wanted in a relationship at the beginning of my MA is quite different than what I want now that I'm done with my PhD. Similarly, the dating landscape has changed (e.g., Tinder wasn't a thing when I was dating online years ago). In terms of the online scene, some apps are known more for those seeking long-term/serious relationships than others (Match, eHarmony, and Jdate come to mind). Others (Bumble, Tinder) are typically used more casually though sometimes these lead to long-term relationships. There are also meetup groups for singles in many cities so you could try that. Or try volunteering for a nonprofit and connecting with people that way. @Adelaide9216, if you're concerned about the potential for dates to basically be racist, you could try using apps where people have to answer questions and then weed out the ones who are racist. I've used OkCupid in the past so I know that there are questions in their database about one's willingness to date someone outside their own race/ethnicity and about one's attitude toward racist jokes, just to give two examples. If you go that route, then you can weight those questions as extremely important to you and then look at other people's answers and hide/block them based on their response. It's not a perfect method, but it is one way to reduce the potential for bad dates. That said, I think going on bad dates is just part of the process. I also think it's important to get outside one's comfort zone and date someone who may not be your usual type. I've dated several people that are not my usual type. Sometimes it works out and other times it's an absolute disaster but, you live and learn. Thinking of all the dates as a learning experience (turn on your critical social science lens but only after the fact) can be valuable. It also gives you a chance to learn about yourself and the things that are or will become dealbreakers for you. I hope some of this helps!
  2. Independent research w/o supervisor (Criminology)

    Are there professors in sociology you could meet with to discuss your interests? Have you talked to those running the law program to get a sense of what people normally do for supervision?
  3. Finals Week Getting the Best of Me

    At this point, it'll be difficult for your professors to give you any accommodation, especially since the deadline is coming up so quickly. The best approach is to do the best you kind (don't worry about being a perfectionist; just turn things in) and in the future, seek accommodations through the DRC. Good luck!
  4. I'm so intimidated by my advisor.

    Reframing things in a positive light is definitely difficult sometimes (frequently). What may help is to give yourself permission to be angry and fed up first, and then try to see what your advisor was trying to say. Alternately, are there other students of your advisor who you can go to for feedback/advice before or after your one-on-one meetings? I found that more senior students were able to anticipate the criticism my advisor would give me and help me prepare for it... Might be something to try if you haven't already.
  5. Extracurricular commitments?

    In grad school, I trained a martial art (umm... 5-6 times a week for 1.5-2 hours a day) and had a weekly trivia game with friends. We also did regular game nights, happy hours, and several other things. So yes, it's definitely possible to have extracurricular commitments. Something like marching band which might involve travel all weekend (Friday-Sunday) might be more difficult to juggle with classes, colloquium, and the other requirements of grad school.
  6. Transferring to another program

    You shouldn't hide what you're currently doing and you should address why you want to attend this other program in your SOP (and have your rec writers mention it too). I don't know that it makes sense to highlight those other things in your SOP unless you're tying them into the broader narrative about what it is you want to study and why.
  7. Research teams and language abilities

    It's not the professor's job to correct your grammar. That's when you hire or work with a copyeditor. If you're that concerned about your English grammar/writing up front, why not start working with someone in the writing center to improve your skills? I'd also share your concerns with the professor.
  8. favoritism in seminar

    I... wouldn't bother addressing it. I also wouldn't plan to work closely with this person in the future if you already dislike the way you're being treated. And, more significantly, I wouldn't care that much about what a professor thinks of my comments in seminar or how "enthusiastically" they respond to my comments.
  9. Apply to more than one program?

    My advice would be to keep looking for additional programs. There are environmental science programs at dozens of institutions so I'm a little surprised that you could only find three that you might be interested in. Also, there can be a huge difference between broader state politics and the politics in a particular city. For example, Texas is a conservative state but Austin is incredibly liberal and progressive.
  10. Do you know for sure that those edits they were pleased with came during the first round of editing? If not, then you're putting yourself at risk of having to pay for multiple rounds of copyediting...
  11. It most definitely falls under Title IX in the USA. This is 100% something where you should consult with a number of offices on campus: women's center; human resources; ombudsmen; and equity/inclusion are the first offices which come to mind for me. I'm sorry you're in such an awful situation.
  12. I'm confused. Why wouldn't you work out a contract with the copyeditor? Ideally, the contract would describe the type of work to be done, say something about the financial obligations (e.g., how much you'll pay and when), have deadlines by which you'll receive edited work, and possibly offer some insight into what's to be done if you don't agree witht he edits or if you deem them unacceptable. In addition to all of that, you could have something in there about maintaining confidentiality in regards to your work and not using her work with you as an example/sample for her portfolio without your explicit written approval.
  13. To me, this all depends on what field you're applying in. If you're applying in a field where you'll need to work across language and/or cultural barriers, then such a letter could be valuable. This might be field-specific. In STEM, it probably doesn't matter. In the social sciences, especially for someone wanting to do field work or qualitative research, it could be helpful to demonstrate such characteristics in one's application. Also, if it's showing skill the OP will need in order to complete their degree and the academic letters can't tlk about it, then why not get the army officer to talk about instead?
  14. IRB between institutions

    Yea, I would definitely try to talk to them in person. It seems kinda insane that anyone would expect signed and mailed hard copy forms to accompany an online method of data collection. Would it be possible to collect virtual signatures from your participants (e.g., type your name here to indicate agreement with the above consent form)?
  15. Primary instructor

    This is really discipline specific. At most institutions, you can't teach a course as instructor of record without having a master's in hand. That said, even then there are exceptions and differences. My experience is that folks in the humanities (particularly English and modern language programs) tend to teach a class of their own starting early on. In my own grad program (social sciences), you needed a MA in order to teach a full 3-credit course by yourself. But MA students commonly taught labs (1 credit courses for which they were instructor of record) or led discussion sections. AKA, it's a difficult thing to generalize across institutions in the US.