Frustrated and feeling dejected... Wondering what to do now?

[worrypower]

So, my situation is as follows: I have been rejected from two schools and I'm still waiting to hear from two more... But I recognize that, as time goes on, the likelihood of being accepted to either of those two schools is diminished significantly (especially as the forum fills up with more and more people happily announcing their acceptances to those same schools.)

 

I'm disappointed to have received the rejections. I'm especially disappointed to have received one form-letter rejection, without comment, without personalization, and with my name spelled wrong, THREE TIMES from the same school. Three! Two emails and a letter. To say that the salt was rubbed in my wounds was an understatement. Oh, and an adorable census from a university which had already rejected my application the month prior. But, you know, I get it: you can't always get in. That's okay.

 

That said, I'm angry that neither of the remaining universities has made any effort to be transparent or reasonable about the waiting process. I have sent emails asking when decisions might be known: one went completely unanswered, even after three weeks' worth of time; the other was a snarky form letter that essentially boiled down to "you'll know when we tell you, so shut up." I've called and attempted to make communication along the relevant channels, but my messages also went completely unanswered. Nobody is even remotely interested in answering any questions, dealing with any concerns, nothing.

 

I recognize that this is a labour intensive period for admissions staff, but frankly, I'm pissed. I did not spend hundreds of dollars to be rejected without even the basic human decency of communication. I did not put myself and my work and my hopes on the line so that I could not even be placated with a "better luck next time." No: if you're an admissions employee, you should have at least some semblance of the fact that people are incredibly stressed and that their entire lives are hanging on your word. Accept, reject, whatever, but if you have people in the palm of your hand, you should treat them with the dignity they deserve. I made an effort; I deserve at least a tiny fraction of effort in return.

 

Anyway.

 

Basically, the point I'm at now is: should I essentially give up? Is it worth checking my email 40 times a day at this point, or am I only going to be confronted with another form letter, another anonymous rejection, another "haha, fuck you, thanks for the $$$ but we really don't care, please don't call us?" Is it delusional to assume that people actually get accepted at this point in the game

Basically, what I want to get a sense of is what my odds are. I don't have a sense of that. Do people get accepted at the April 15th deadline? Do people on waitlists (that they've never been able to find any information about from anyone) actually get accepted, or is it just a pacification so that they reject you in July? 

 

I'm sorry that this is whiny and shitty, but I'm just so upset. I was so optimistic that this process would turn out differently. My optimism is spent, now.

[lm2014]

I'm in a similar position. I'm waiting on decisions from a university I applied to over six months ago. The deadline was supposed to be yesterday and yet, there is nothing in my inbox or online via the portal. However, I have seen people on the results page being rejected to the same program(s). I don't know whether to email to inquire, keep waiting, or just mentally give up and assume the worst.

[smpalesh]

I don't have much info about the rest of your post but I just wanted to say that I see you've applied to all Canadian schools so I just wanted to say that we don't have an April 15 deadline in Canada, that is a US thing.  It is not abnormal for people to not have heard yet at this point depending on the program and which school it is.  My only advice is to be patient, because all the worry and stress isn't going to change the outcome.  Stop checking your email constantly and making phone calls to schools and just go live your life, they will get back to you when they have the answer.

 

So, my situation is as follows: I have been rejected from two schools and I'm still waiting to hear from two more... But I recognize that, as time goes on, the likelihood of being accepted to either of those two schools is diminished significantly (especially as the forum fills up with more and more people happily announcing their acceptances to those same schools.)

 

I'm disappointed to have received the rejections. I'm especially disappointed to have received one form-letter rejection, without comment, without personalization, and with my name spelled wrong, THREE TIMES from the same school. Three! Two emails and a letter. To say that the salt was rubbed in my wounds was an understatement. Oh, and an adorable census from a university which had already rejected my application the month prior. But, you know, I get it: you can't always get in. That's okay.

 

That said, I'm angry that neither of the remaining universities has made any effort to be transparent or reasonable about the waiting process. I have sent emails asking when decisions might be known: one went completely unanswered, even after three weeks' worth of time; the other was a snarky form letter that essentially boiled down to "you'll know when we tell you, so shut up." I've called and attempted to make communication along the relevant channels, but my messages also went completely unanswered. Nobody is even remotely interested in answering any questions, dealing with any concerns, nothing.

 

I recognize that this is a labour intensive period for admissions staff, but frankly, I'm pissed. I did not spend hundreds of dollars to be rejected without even the basic human decency of communication. I did not put myself and my work and my hopes on the line so that I could not even be placated with a "better luck next time." No: if you're an admissions employee, you should have at least some semblance of the fact that people are incredibly stressed and that their entire lives are hanging on your word. Accept, reject, whatever, but if you have people in the palm of your hand, you should treat them with the dignity they deserve. I made an effort; I deserve at least a tiny fraction of effort in return.

 

Anyway.

 

Basically, the point I'm at now is: should I essentially give up? Is it worth checking my email 40 times a day at this point, or am I only going to be confronted with another form letter, another anonymous rejection, another "haha, fuck you, thanks for the $$$ but we really don't care, please don't call us?" Is it delusional to assume that people actually get accepted at this point in the game

Basically, what I want to get a sense of is what my odds are. I don't have a sense of that. Do people get accepted at the April 15th deadline? Do people on waitlists (that they've never been able to find any information about from anyone) actually get accepted, or is it just a pacification so that they reject you in July? 

 

I'm sorry that this is whiny and shitty, but I'm just so upset. I was so optimistic that this process would turn out differently. My optimism is spent, now.

[RomulusAugustulus]

I will second the note about Canadian schools. There are acceptances in late May posted from some Canadian school's I've checked (including Toronto) even when there were earlier acceptances to the same programs. But also, for those applying to US schools: it DOES happen that people get off the waitlist last minute. I got accepted to my MA program 2 days before the April 15 deadline! So, even though it can seem very dejecting it is really not over until you have heard from every school. I've gone through a season with rejections across the board before. It is hard, but don't lose hope until it's really over. And remember that just because you don't get any acceptances one year, doesn't mean you won't ever get any in the future. Best of luck to you, OP!

[Vader Was Framed]

Don't give up. It's a strange strange process and you cannot predict was it happening on the other side of the wall. Just try and wait it out and be productive with other efforts. 

[NerwenAldarion]

Don't give up, not even if you are rejected. I was rejected last year by all of the programs I applied to and it was devestating. but I picked myself up, looked at the parts of my resume that were weak and beefed it up a bit.

 

This year I got accepted into my number 1 choice.

 

So don't give up, things can and will change.

[juxihong]

I am so sorry to hear all things you are getting through, also, I can exactly feel your feelings since I got 3 rejection without any ad or offers, and other 6 schools didn't reply my emails. I am in China, the most fucked up thing is checking email box as I opening my eyes on the morning and I find there is nothing but rejections I received before. Yeah, for sure, the process of waiting is quite hard for any of us, but we must find a way out, aren't we? my solution is getting prepare for another IBT exam, and do my final paper in rest of time, this makes me feel better, and helps me to find the feelings when I decided to go aboard to get a master degree, you know,that's good, and enable me to turn into a peace condition. While the result might be bad, the process is a sort of gift or kinda exercise, I believe we will gain more than we expected.

Martin Luther King, Jr. said we must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope.

And my words are "good things take time, so be patient."

This my first post in this forum, I hope my those words could be helpful, and good luck.

[worrypower]

 

Martin Luther King, Jr. said we must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope.

And my words are "good things take time, so be patient."

This my first post in this forum, I hope my those words could be helpful, and good luck.

 

 

Thank you-- it means a lot to me that you decided to post these words of encouragement as your very first comment. I wish you the best of luck too... Hopefully there is good news around the corner for the both of us!