NatureGurl

Yeah, I feel this way, too. I did my undergrad in the sciences--a field dominated by men--and I would say that you do have to work harder than males do to achieve the same level of respect. The only way we're going to change things is to keep going and eventually become the ones in charge (although, even females hold implicit biases against females, so we really need to work at a conscious level to promote equity).

Wow, I think this is the silliest and funniest thread. I just sign my name. No more, no less.

Hello littlesunshine--cute name! Well, I'm sorry you're feeling depressed. Grad school is tough enough! I have three thoughts to share with you. First, no, I do not think you should share about this classmate with your professors. The reason is that I was in a similar situation--and a more experienced graduate student told me that unless this person is explicitly, directly, and intentionally causing you harm, it could come off as "complaining" or "whining" if you tell your professor and make you seem like the immature one. I'm glad I followed this advice because it worked out. Just let time do its thing. Second, with all my 30+ years of wisdom, I would have to say that you should not be so quick to judge others (I myself try to follow this rule all the time). Everyone is on their own journey. Focus on what your journey is, and as others say, perhaps you should get to know this person better, or if you truly feel as if this person is "out to get you," then stay away. However, I would add that rarely are people in grad school "out to get you." It could just be that this person is clueless about how they're making you feel. Or it could be that being young and new to grad school, you are taking it all too personally. I'm just trying to offer you different perspectives. Third, is there anyone you've become friends with that you can talk to? Some of my best confidantes have been my fellow grad students--they understand what I'm going through better than anyone else. Good luck! Hope you feel better soon.