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thank you so much LaurenA!! Now I'm so glad I didn't just go ahead and accept to go visit school B. I think what you said makes A LOT OF sense. I'm really glad I asked before deciding what to do since I do find myself handling situations like these pretty poorly sometimes. Thanks again so much!

So here's what happened: I got invited to an interview weekend at University A back in January, which (of course) I said yes to. I recently heard from another school and my POI made me an unofficial offer (lets call is University B. The visiting weekend of Univ.B happens to be the same weekend of Univ.A, both of which I would really like to attend. I think the best thing for me to do is to attend the interviews (the actual interviews) at Univ.A and skip the rest of the weekend (activities and such) to go to Univ.B? However, what I don't know is what to say to Univ A. Should I be completely honest with them about getting an offer from another school? Will that hurt my chance of getting accepted at Univ A since I already said I'd attend their full interview weekend. p.s. these are two of my favorite schools and I really won't be able to decide until I visit both schools.

So here's what happened: I got invited to an interview weekend at University A back in January, which (of course) I said yes to. I recently heard from another school and my POI made me an unofficial offer (lets call is University . The visiting weekend of Univ.B happens to be the same weekend of Univ.A, both of which I would really like to attend. I think the best thing for me to do is to attend the interviews (the actual interviews) at Univ.A and skip the rest of the weekend (activities and such) to go to Univ.B? However, what I don't know is what to say to Univ A. Should I be completely honest with them about getting an offer from another school? Will that hurt my chance of getting accepted at Univ A since I already said I'd attend their full interview weekend. p.s. these are two of my favorite schools and I really won't be able to decide until I visit both schools.

whos your POI at texas?

yeah congrats!!! if people are already getting offers then i guess im out for UVA.

i think its the latter case for NYU. their social program invited 20 people for the interview weekend so those that don't get in will prob be waitlisted.

thats good to know! thanks! and good luck with the rest of your interview!!

thats so helpful LaurenA thanks! i'll def look for a suit then. i've been thinking about getting a suit for a while since i'll need one sooner or later so now its time to finally invest in one and im pretty sure flats are what im gonna go with since i walk weird in heels lol

well like i said, i usually tend to dress down rather than dress up i literally dont even own a suit...what i normally do is i wear black dress pants with a cardigan. i personally love cardigans and have them in various colors and i feel completely comfortable in them. but i've told (many many times) that i dont look formal/professional at all in them...thats why im debating whether to go with a suit

thanks! so what exactly r u all planning to wear to the actual interviews?

thanks for the advice LaurenA:D normally i try to stay away from heels when theres a lot of walking (or any walking really...) involved. i think thats been my biggest problem when i try to look for formal than how im usually dressed

hello fellow psychologists! like i said i know there are topics like this elsewhere about what to wear to interviews etc. but from what i've seen, the norms tend to differ depending what fields your talking about. so i thought it'd be nice to have one specifically for psychology program interviews:) i have an upcoming interview weekend, and am kinda at a loss as to what i should wear to the different activities scheduled for the weekend. i've been given very different advice by some friends (none of whom are in psychology) so i thought i'd check with people in thie field. i roughly know what i'll be wearing to the actual *interviews* with faculty members, but cant figure out what to wear to the other activities, e.g. dinner with grad students, party at faculty's home, campus and facilities tours, etc. i normally dress pretty casually and usually tend to dress down rather than dress up when im not so sure about the dress codes. i know i might be overthinking about this but personally, being dressed appropriately is very important to me mostly because it helps me feel more comfortable AND confident, which is certainly how i would like to be at interviews. plus, thinking about what to wear kinda takes the pressure away from thinking too much about what to say:) so, what do you think?

congrats!!! i got rejected by UCLA today as well..

glad to see another undergrad here. im also still in college and applying for the fall admissions. i dont know how others feel about this, but when i think of the fact that i might be teaching undergrads (so people roughly my age) in a couple years (or even sooner than that), i get this weird feeling...its kinda exciting on one hand, but then again, how much more do i know to teach them??..anyways, i know it will still be a while from now that i will actually be teaching, and by then i might feel totally different about this. but just thought i'd hear what other people think:D

so glad i saw this thread. i was actually kinda struggling over this question recently. im going to grad school in the fall, and technically i havent been accepted at one of the schools im talking about right now but thought i'd throw this out there and see what people think. right now i go to a small liberal arts school with an extremely friendly atmosphere. im seriously considering two schools for grad school, both of which i like very much for many reasons (program, faculty, location, etc.). one thing im trying to debate with myself between these two schools is that at Univ.A, i'll potentially be working with a young-ish prof who's very friendly and personable, and the feeling i get is that she is the kind of person that becomes very good friends with her grad students outside of the lab. however, the potential mentor at Univ.B, is definitely the kind of person that will be an excellent mentor but stays away from students' personal life pretty much. for me its really a dillemma since i've always been close to my undergrad profs but im not sure if its gonna be the same case in grad school... any advice?

im applying straight out of undergrad this year, and will be 23 when i start in the fall (bday in sep.). the thing is, i've always felt a little older than people i go to school with since most of them are 21/22 when they get out of college. this is prob the first time i've felt younger than the rest of the cohort. however, like another poster said previously, i've been trying very hard not to center the conversations on my age/working experience etc., simply because it makes me feel immature/inexperienced/not knowing whats going on, etc. not sure how the professors see this, i've been assured by my potential mentor at one school that although i'll be competing with people whose CVs could get them a faculty position, i should rest assured that i am not at a disadvantage simply because i am still in college. they look more at potential rather than simply comparing CVs and experience. That certainly made me feel better, but still, going to interview weekends where most people are so much more experienced than i am still makes me feel (at least slightly) out of place in college i've always felt like im the mature one among my peers and friends, but now its suddently switched. feel like people are only involving me in their conversations about their stressful careers (and many many more) only to be polite, not like i have anything to contribute to those discussions...

so seems like you are applying for similar research areas as I am. do you mind telling where else you applied?

that is REALLY late. i wonder if they interview applicants before they make the offer? anyways, at this point i dont mind waiting till early march since i have an interview at the end of Feb so i wont be making any decisions at least until march

thanks! when i spoke with my POI she told me that she MIGHT take a student this year so i wasnt expecting the offer at all. i guess there was good match in research interests, which was why i applied in the first place. but the sense i got is that the economic situation IS pretty bad this year...

i dont know who you applied to work with at Umass but i actually got an offer from umass about a week ago, but since then i've had no news from anywhere else...

its so true...i havent got any rejections either, but sometimes i wish i had...at least then i wouldn't be checking the status on those schools so obssessively everyday...

i have an upcoming interview so thanks so much for the info:D

just curious what do people think of school A: one prof with really well matched research + other profs with relatively poor match vs. school B: several profs with fairly good match

i know...i only applied because i thought the match was really good and thought i'd give it a try...but anyways, wont be too upset if i dont get in.