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@SLPgradstudent that is really adorable! So, at least amidst all this hectic messiness, you will have your anniversary to look forward to, right?

I feel like we should come up with alternate Valentine's Day plans depending on the news we get. I know I, for one, will be going out the day after V-Day to buy discounted chocolates and wine to later consume in copious amounts. Related, I was talking to my 13-year-old neighbor about this whole process, and I likened it to having a crush on someone: "I like them, and I like to think they like me, but I don't know if they LIKE like me." As such, getting results around Valentine's Dy seems....oddly appropriate, if a bit darkly comic.

I'm in a similar position, @BooksCoffeeBeards, and it feels...tenuous at best. I hope your birthday has been happy! If you ever want to chat about that NTT life (e.g. whine/wine/talk about hoping for the best), I'd be happy to listen. Did you do something fun for your birthday? Like watch MST3K?

Oh geez I feel so irrelevant in not having an account.....is it worth going through the process? @A Librarian For some reason my brain tends to think that checking my email with magically make a letter appear! It is totally, completely irrational, and yet I find myself casually checking it like, 50 times every day.

Resurrection Hospital (it's in Chicago)

According to the results page, it seems like UCSD and U Michigan haven't sent out any notifications as of yet; you may want to scroll through previous years to see when they typically send out notifications (although it seems like this varies wildly from year to year for each program). Congrats on your acceptance, and hopefully you can stay strong during the waiting game.

@gingin6789 had a lovely response to this, and I second looking up the spoon theory. There is only so much each of us can handle, and feeling guilty about not being able to move on; well, you have so many things going on in your life, and brushing them off easily would signal maybe a lack of empathy––clearly you care, with good reason, about each of these issues, and about the people around you. If there is anyone you can reach out to for support, be it your family, friends, and/or community on here, I hope you can do so. If you want to PM me to talk, or not, please know you've got people who are with you on this.

I understand the feeling! I often wish the process would be more transparent, and that ad comms would have more....sensical rejection letters, like "Hey! Here is something really specific that wasn't quite working out with our program/faculty/fit" instead of the "LOL NOPE ONLY TEH BESTEST FOR DIS UNIVERSITY!"-type rejections. I wish I could say it gets easier, and perhaps it does a negligible amount, but rejection seems to be always hard. I hope your weekend brings with it cool things!

If it makes you feel any better (which, it may not), getting rejected isn't necessarily a reflection on you as a student, researcher, human, or educator. There can be seemingly arbitrary considerations as to who gets admitted, such as the personalities on the ad comm, number of current students and their focus, funding, etc.––this is my third year applying to programs, so it's not like I'm saying this from the warm throne of acceptance, but rather the cold sidewalk of rejection. It's a disheartening reality, but please, please don't let that stop you from doing and being what you want.

I'm at the tail end of an intensive course; a few of my students are pulling the "may I pleaaaaaaaaase have an A? I feel like I deserve it as I worked hard!" and part of my feels bad for sighing, taking a sip (or gulp) of cheap wine and emailing back "no."

Hey everyone––I've been lurking around this forum for a while, but my stress combined with everyone's warmth encouraged me to sign up. Today I was notified that I'm on the waitlist for the University of Oregon's Media Studies program. I was wondering if there were any users who were accepted but might attend elsewhere? This whole process is so stressful! I spent half an hour today following my cat around the house, trying to get her to cuddle.