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  1. Oh heavens, I can't recommend Patrick Rothfuss's (as yet incomplete) Kingkiller trilogy enough- The Name of the Wind made me fall in love with the fantasy genre all over again. It succeeds at being both funny and compelling, and it can be so difficult to find an author who can write such a story.
  2. grad student, a nocturnal creature

    1. crazygirl2012

      crazygirl2012

      So true, except for when we evolve into "no sleeping ever" creatures

  3. grad student, a nocturnal creature

  4. OH MY GOD WE HAVE ALMOST THE SAME PROBLEM. Sorry. It's seriously super close. Kind of. My partner and I are both trying to go for PhD, he already has his MA and has been teaching for a few years here, while I'm finishing my MA up now (why yes, I should be working on my thesis right now, shush). The problem for us is that I've gotten in at a great program with fantastic funding, but he hasn't. And it's like 800ish miles away. If just I go, we probably separate because if he doesn't get in next year, we're stuck. If we both go, he HAS to try to attend that university, won't have other options in the area. If I defer or decline and stay here for a year, I die a bit on the inside, get stuck with student loan payments way earlier than anticipated, and have to go through the application and waiting process all over again. None of them are great options, and we're also pretty candid about that. Family, friends, and advisors are all pushing and pulling me in different directions. I haven't got an answer for you, it's just nice (or less gut-wrenchingly miserable) sometimes to know you're not alone. I hope that whatever you pick, it makes you happy.
  5. I'm still waiting on one school, but I already got one fantastic offer, but my situation is a bit complicated and incredibly frustrating, and loath as I am to defer, it might be happening, because I don't want to lose the offer entirely. I've talked briefly to the grad coordinator about that possibility, and she said it's not really a thing, that they had someone defer who joined the cohort last fall and it was all fine. This program guarantees funding for all PhD students, so losing funding isn't an issue. BUT. Is deferring an offer essentially a contract to attend the next fall? My partner and I are both planning for PhD, but we didn't get into the right places this year - can I defer my good offer and still apply to other places in the fall, and possibly accept one of those? This offer isn't my dream school, and while it is a good one, it's not ideally situated. Can I defer and apply other places? Is it tacky/bad faith? I've been looking online and can't seem to find whether or not deferring is binding, so I turn to you all. Help?
  6. I had a similar feeling. It was also my first semester of being a grad student and a TA, and once everything was handed in I napped, and stayed out late, but the next day I had NO IDEA what to do. I spent the afternoon dozing on the couch watching the Indiana Jones marathon on tv. My classes don't start up til next week, but just thinking of TAing last semester, how only a few students cared, and most were doing it for the requirement, I'm a bit shaky on how this spring will go. I didn't check what discipline you're in, but I think we need to focus on our work and why THAT is important, rather than focusing on how strangely repetitive teaching life is going to be. I certainly hope so, because that's what I'm telling myself.
  7. I'm moving from Pennsylvania this summer to attend a grad program at the University of Mississippi, and seeing as how most of the people I know are north of the Mason-Dixon line, I'm wondering if anyone here is going to find themselves at Ole Miss in the fall. So... anyone?
  8. is super excited

  9. This is an exciting debate. I was already considering Europe after I get my Masters, and still am, but I am thinking it might be nice to go into it with minimal debt. Or possibly none. StrokeofMidnight was talking about my funding not even covering housing, which is true, but the professor who went there told me the other day that he has "alerted the Friends Network" and has a possible housing opportunity for me down there. And really, I'm not in much of a position to refuse all my offers right now. I'm excited about Mississippi (which sounds kind of silly, I know), and if I don' t go there I'm just stuck in my parents house all year working for Bath and Body Works for $7.71 an hour while all my friends there get promoted or leave for their "real" jobs. So that's not really a viable option.
  10. Yeah.. after listening to people here, and talking with other real-life people as well, I'm starting to get really excited about University of Mississippi. The chair of the department has been emailing me personally, and so has the coordinator, and they also assured me I'd get the Honors Fellowship if I went there. I'm much more of a small town person than I am a big city type, and my greatest fear about NSSR was that I'd basically get stuck in NYC, and that is something I definitely do NOT want. Thanks for being so helpful, everyone, and thanks for the offer Seth, but it looks like you'll have to find someone else to go in on ramen with you
  11. I spoke to my adviser today, and suddenly he was a lot more positive about the school. The flip-flopping is driving me nuts, and I still want to talk to a few more professors about it, but with what I'm reading about it, and with what people are saying here (thanks jonjalin and Katzenmusik!) I'm actually getting kind of excited about the program. The chair of the soc dept has been emailing me, and things are looking pretty great right now. And honestly, I have no undergrad debt, and I'd really really like to come out of this with no or minimal debt, especially if the alternative is being in just so deep. And it's really kind of nice for a school to finally acknowledge everything I've done (I just turned twenty, so I'm graduating two years early).
  12. I certainly don't think you're being selfish, you don't seem to think he's being selfish for having gone where he is. Sacrificing your career aspirations isn't fair to you, especially if you'd be the only one sacrificing. If you want to go to a top school in your field, and they want you, I'd say go for it, especially if you and the boyfriend have already grown accustomed to the distance. If finances are more of a concern, then by all means go to his school, but I would say go where you want to go.
  13. Yeah, I should have explained a bit more. I'm going for my masters in Sociology right now. A PhD down the road probably, but I'm trying to take things one step at a time. As for background, I'm twenty, and I'm technically paying for grad school on my own. My parents might help out a bit, but the financial responsibility really falls to me. Right now I'm only worth about 5 grand, so Ole Miss is sorely tempting me, even though one of my advisers called it something along the lines of an intellectual wasteland. dant.gwyrdd, you liked Ole Miss? I know you said you went there as undergrad, but that makes me feel so much better. Oh, they also said they nominated me for an Honors Fellowship, which would get me another thousand per semester. So minus the bit of tuition, they'd be paying me about 4 grand a year if I get the fellowship. Which still isn't enough to live on, but it's still more than I make now (part time at Bath and Body Works), and my parents could probably help out. Either way, I'd still be in significantly less debt than New School. jonjalin, would you say NSSR is worth it though? I would be living on campus, so that would add another like 16 grand each year, which seems kind of ridiculous.
  14. Full funding comes from the $3600 stipend - they'd still be in effect paying me to go there. I may also get an Honors fellowship, which would mean they'd be giving me about 4 grand a year to go there.
  15. Okay, so two weeks ago the New School for Social Research accepted me into the Soc MA program, with a merit 25% tuition scholarship. It's about 30 grand a year, plus another 16 grand for housing (stupid Manhattan), so I'd be pretty in debt by the end of this, but I've been really excited because it could be worth it. Today (about ten minutes ago, actually), I got an email from University of Mississippi, one of my safetys, and they appear to have made a better offer. I'm just putting it in quotes because I'm in no state to summarize. " This offer includes full funding through our departmental assistantship. Your assistantship will amount to $3,600 per academic year. That will entitle you to full non-resident fee scholarship worth $7,938 per academic year and a 75% reduction of your resident tuition worth $3,827 per academic year. We will guarantee funding for two years as long as you make satisfactory progress toward graduation. The total package is worth $30,730 (($3,600+$7,938+$3,827)x2). Putting it another way, you will receive a yearly $3,600 cash stipend and will only pay 25% of the in-state tuition per semester for two years. The tuition you will have to pay is $637 per semester." I still haven't heard from Texas A&M (yes, I know I applied to weird schools for my subject, shush), so the freaking out and decision making might be a bit premature. Can someone please help me figure out a way to balance money v school, and would either path be worth it? I will be talking to my advisers about this, but one of them went to NSSR, and the other went to Ole Miss, so they're both kind of prejudiced.
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