HumanHeatSOC

Same!

I am really sorry to hear that! Yes, Receiving my masters had no direct connection to a sociology PhD program so I take a bit of comfort in that but I will say I am all the way done with this whole thing. I’m mad at everyone and I can’t even stand myself most of all. Ive moved away from Eurocentric behaviors I’ve known my whole life, suddenly replaced with consulting tarot, dissecting my natal chart, playing rogue games of “Mash,” and trying to tap into the power of my own soul. I’ve never wanted something so badly while simultaneously being this run done with anxiety. Smh. Which in a way makes me think I don’t deserve it in the first place. I feel like becoming the worst version of yourself, in pursuit of knowledge no less, is just indecent!

I have a paper due tomorrow... but they did me so dirty. To me its the equivalent of a breakup, but then still being required to finish out a lease with the same person who doesn't want you. I'm going to be so petulant in class tomorrow... ugh. I wish I was a better person.

Was rejected by my own University today ( currently have a 4.0 at but in a different program for my masters, graduating this semester) but am still holding out for Yale's Africana/Sociology program. Congrats on all those who got in today!!!!!!

I’m not sure how the programs work out, especially for those of us who are doing combined studies.

I applied to the combined African American/Sociology program and I heard end of next week!

Thank you for this!!!

This happened during my undergrad process. I was, for the first time in my life, someone other people wanted. I was noticed. I was accepted everywhere! The complete joy I felt I have yet to feel again, but surprisingly what came after I wasn’t prepared for. I couldn’t afford to go anywhere! I didnt have the parents or the no-how to figure out finances, loans etc as I was already working like a dog to save money... but nothing was ever enough. I hear what you’re saying overall and can’t imagine the struggle with a whole family in tow! But my god, like I had mentioned before, I can’t imagine the roadblocks, the potential near miss of it all is defeating in a way most wouldn’t expect. There is “life after an acceptance.” If you do decide on Harvard and want some advice I may be able to hook you up with my cousin (also a mom) who runs a lab there. Just as a potential resource who knows her way around Boston!

Oh my... the in-house fighting! Lets blame the Universities making us wait, allowing us to grow more and more anxious each day, turning against each other in the end. "The chaos." I do want to say as an all the time middleman/Switzerland that I am over-the-moon for those who are riding that wave of acceptance. And finding it hard, almost paralyzing to think about navigating the next steps, the overall challenge of your program, expectations and so forth. The stress involved, I'm sure, is not to be underestimated. A lot of us aren't there however, some of us won't ever get there, so of course I think it's important to be so mindful of our woes. I don't know about everyone else but I feel like an exposed nerve! I mean, raise your hand if at bare minimum your skin isn't changing colors! *This is how I end all my fights since being diagnosed with vitiligo... : )

I told my work husband I am no longer allowed on grad cafe because it makes me crazy! He caught me on there this morning and threw highlighters at me (she says while checking site in ladies room).

I too saw all the history admits... I said some kind of prayer after that! Is anyone going to NCBS???

I have had sooo many temper tantrums. By nature I am impatient (I'm working on it) and incredibly anxious. Though I am not an international student (which I see a lot of people on this thread are) I just wanted to chime in and say I've been walking around feeling like the worst possible version of myself. Why does no one want me? On paper I've realized I'm not so amazing. I had no idea until I came to this site! I'm the top person in my masters program but also an older student because I took a ten year hiatus working like full blown Cappy and finishing a novel on the side. I wish we could all just feel good and wanted -as though our lives and the possibilities were endless. I hope none of us gives up even though the rejections were nothing I could have prepared for. Thank you for this!

Congrats!

@DuBois & @ALieNNatioN .... I opened a special credit card just for this... worth it, but I wish I had known about this site before hand. A lot of support has been found here -a good resource with people far more intelligent than I (as far as educational endeavors go. HELLO GRE's, come take me demon). Perhaps forming a little over-the-next-few-months-to-get-our-sh*&t-together group?!? But hey, we've been able to see people who have been/are in our position get that notification that changed their lives... and to me that's priceless, motivating even. And maybe there is still hope! I know I'm still waiting on Mississippi (and other official rejections) to come in. More (im)patiently waiting to follow.

Vanderbilt and Albany sent out notifications of acceptances but crickets over here. It's like I don't exist -am I a ghost (I've asked this question far too often in life so far). What does this mean?

Money and time my friend. I got my life together way too late (by my stAndards alone).

Me too! It was either a PhD program or buy sperm and finally become a mama. Educational pursuits did me so dirty!

SUNY Albany you say... oh god. Terror ensues. How is this life?! I didn't hear a peep and I have class there tomorrow.

Vanderbilt was the only one I applied to and nothing. What I've seen is that they take a bit... expecting end of Feb. Not sure about the other ones you have listed. Good Luck!

This is upsetting. Nobody likes me, schools, men, my mother... they don't call, or write, I'm invisible. Congrats to you though. Knock'em dead.

They want that money! It is obviously quite clever. Maybe they were hoping that you would be hypnotized by the prestige the name carries and talk yourself and family into finding a way to pay because hello, we are columbia! I can't say that if Yale did that to me that I wouldn't take the bait... But I am an INTJ Cappy : we aren't necessarily good people.

Just assumed I didn't make the first, possibly second, round of interviews as I've heard it happens in waves to find people. I'm part of the combined program however, leading with African American studies so I'm not sure how that shakes out. I have to be accepted by both programs so I've basically just been holding out hope... And feeling silly about it at the same time.

Wait, what?! I'm sorry, but that just brought the loudest most obnoxious laugh from deep inside my big old body... I woke up all my animals! Is that what they're doing now?! Must be a power thing! You can't just send out rejections all willy nilly like we don't have feelings. Are these schools talking to one another, are they laughing at us?!

I did hear from Brown but that was specifically Africana Studies... my top choice. It was crushing to have my number one turn me away before the others. *Congrats for Irvine! (Loud applause)

I thought this whole thing would feel better, BUT am genuinely happy for those who are getting their acceptances! Temper tantrum (Rejection) #2 Me: Just received my second rejection. This is terrible and I am beyond surprised. This is not what I expected at all. Prof/Mentor: Just hang in there! You haven't heard from everyone yet. I am so glad that this is surprising to you. It shows how far you've come and the confidence that... Me: I AM SURPRISED BECAUSE YOU AND COHORT TOLD ME I'D HAVE MY PICK OF OFFERS. Prof/Mentor: Would you like some tea, crazy lady? *Verbatim*... and I am devolving into the worst version of myself!