How do you feel when someone else posts that they got accepted into your first choice (top school or program)?

[martizzle]

For the third time now, I have seen someone post an acceptance to the department I applied to. The first time, I did a whole bunch of swearing, running around and pointless conversations with myself; and then I started this topic. The second time, I was very sad....went to check my emails (AGAIN), and moved on. I had already accepted defeat. Now - the third time around - I don't know what to do....I feel sad, but for some reason, there is also hope. Perhaps if someone got an admit today, that would mean they are still admitting people and since I haven't seen or heard anything about rejects....I must still be in the game.

So this one time, I'm just going to sit back and relax....as much as I can. Later, I will worry, bite off what's left of my finger nails and fingers....and despair in my lack of admits....but for now, I'll just CHILL

[adam_cs]

I feel sorry for myself.

[papayadance]

(Being hysterical) THIS IS MY LIFE, WHAT DO YOU MEAN MY POST IS REALLY FUNNY!!! lol

You are right, as applicants we have to handicap ourselves. But as people, we hope. It's basic animalistic instinct - I think .

Anyway, thanks for your post; I know what you are trying to say: we need to be honest with ourselves. It's just that a top grad program is like your significant other; you know the type of guy/girl you are most likely to hit it off with, but still....you hope for the perfect ten. I dont know if you get my point, but that's is what it feels like....at least, for me (ps. dont tell my gf I compare her to grad schools - us gradcafe users got to stick together lol)

HAHAHAHHA. I seriously just laughed aloud at work when I read this. Admissions is a perverse, sadomasochistic dating game of the worst sort. Or like 3rd grade gym and I'm the last kid picked for the dodgeball team

[urbanchic]

This has happened once so far. But my field is so small, so who knows how many other people have been accepted already.

The rest of my programs haven't said anything to anyone yet (according to gradcafe).

[martizzle]

I had first posted that I was super jealous and questioned what they had that I didn't.  However, since then, I have been accepted to one school with funding that is a very good fit.  So now, I look at those other schools and say that if they don't want me that it must not be right and feel okay about it.  Even if I had originally thought they'd be better for me.  For the record, without that acceptance, I would still be totally jealous and panicking and I don't fault anyone who still is!

Congrats to you...I'm still 'waiting it out' (good luck to me ) You are right though; with an admit in the pocket, everything changes. if you are down 14 (14 rejections) and this is your last school...and some random person posts an acceptance to that school while you are still waiting....idk...i could see how a person may feel the need to vent, curse, swear, drink and a number of other similarly 'respectable' such activities

HAHAHAHHA. I seriously just laughed aloud at work when I read this. Admissions is a perverse, sadomasochistic dating game of the worst sort. Or like 3rd grade gym and I'm the last kid picked for the dodgeball team

lol i take it that you were usually the last kid to get picked? lol

[nycrican2]

Someone on Facebook told me last week that they got accepted into the same program I am seeking admission to. I felt very happy for him but at the same time felt jealous that it was not me.

[Maxwello]

Honestly, I've been so obsessive about checking my email and the schools' sites that I have seen my rejections there before seeing anybody else's admissions on a forum. So I've been prepared for the news, so far.

After the initial twinge in my stomach, mostly I feel the need to re-evaluate my qualifications and get to shoring up deficiencies before I try for admissions again. I'd rather spend time becoming a better candidate than trying to figure out what the accepted applicant had that I didn't and whether it could have been decided in my favor more fairly. I can't control the other guys credentials. Only my own.

[martizzle]

Honestly, I've been so obsessive about checking my email and the schools' sites that I have seen my rejections there before seeing anybody else's admissions on a forum. So I've been prepared for the news, so far.

And here I was, thinking I was excessively checking my emails and programs's websites.

[Elle_]

The most intense feeling I have when I find out a stranger gets into my top school is curiosity (about their stats). Other than that, I'm generally an apathetic zombie.

However, if it's someone I know personally, my reaction is pretty melodramatic. For instance, I recently found out that an extremely vacuous acquaintance of mine has just been admitted to my dream school. I'm currently going through a stage of self-hatred and my friends are baffled by this, since I haven't been rejected...yet.

I've spent the past few days sulking and eating ridiculous amounts of Nutella.

[ootg]

Earlier on, I wasn't too concerned, since I figured that I am probably not going to make the top of the pile in any case. Now, with April coming on soon, and with numerous rejections, I am just hoping for an admit. So other people indicating that they've been accepted when I have not heard from the school is getting me down. I almost think that I should give up and go find a job.