Now that applications are done, this is probably the biggest stress-causing factor in my life.
On our first date, I was very frank about the fact that I would be applying to PhD programs and that I hoped to end up on the east coast. He had been very supportive during this whole process, even helped me run through the entire box of GRE flash cards before he left to work, but him coming along wasn't something that I wanted to discuss because I was afraid of his answer.
Well, we had a few drinks one night and I ended up crying about it. He said he would try to come along, unless something kept him from going, like his mom getting cancer. Duh. His mom is healthy though. He has anxiety and I think that was his way of agreeing without trapping himself. I'm not unreasonable though and I understand that life happens.
I did keep him in mind when applying to programs. For example, I didn't apply anywhere in Texas because that's where he is from and he does not want to go back. But luckily with his job, the manager of a restaurant, he has the flexibility and experience to pack up and move and be able to find employment almost anywhere. However, and I have been clear about this as well, if he doesn't go, I'm not doing long distance.
ETA: I'm sure if I get in to one of, like, 7 programs I applied to in the Boston area he would be more anxious to leave than I would. He's a huge Red Sox fan, lord knows why lol