PhDorBUST
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How long?
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holy cow!
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1 hour ago, eternalwait said:
This LOR deadline issue happened to me once. It was veeeeryyy stressful, but he sent the letter just before the deadline
I wish I had some videogames, that would truly help!
Finding this forum also helps, honestly. As someone mentioned before, my friends usually say: "Don't worry, you'll get in", but they have no idea how competitive this is! :S
So I wrote the LOR for my last prof for her edits, let's she if she sends it....
Oh yeah, the whole "don't worry, you'll get in" is really starting to piss me off. Like, some of them are social workers!! They should know that one is the professional on his/her own feelings, and the use of that phrase does nothing to comfort, but serves to invalidate my very valid anxiety!!
Just be in the suck with me. Join me in the suck.
Thanks for being around guys
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fuck this
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37 minutes ago, eternalwait said:
Oh yeah, I have my smartphone to get me notified when an email arrives. I get very nervous when I hear that ring, even though my program's notifications are usually sent until January. I'm not sure if they have started reading my applications, at least in the USA.
Sorry for that rejection :S
Same for me with the email on my iphone. It makes a very specific noise for a new email. I can't tell you how many things I've unsubscribed from just so I will stop being disappointed when I check after hearing the french horn sound (email!).
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I feel dumb but gotta ask...what is POI ?
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mind fuck
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open heart
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39 minutes ago, GeorgeC07 said:
@PhDorBUST Dude, I just open mail and keep it online on my macbook. Now everytime I hear the email alert sound I'm like oh damn what it is this time. I'm sure this is getting on my nerve. But, nothing's gonna happen before the Christmas vacation's over.
Legit email never closes. Just in case. Besides life's no fun without a little masochism...
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Honestly, I hope people (in my discipline at least) only apply to the programs they are sincerely passionate about and where faculty have similar research interests. If you apply to schools you really don't care to attend, you may inadvertently take a spot (or offer of such) away from someone who really wants it. Just something to keep in mind
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Sexual violence victimization and perpetration factors specifically pertaining to revictimization; needs assessments of secondary sexual violence victims leading (hopefully) to more efficient/effective resources, shorter recovery for victims, general awareness of sexual violence and macro interventions
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Brain fart
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2 hours ago, DBear said:
@stereopticons there was actually a thread on this in the lor forum and it felt like I was the only one this happened to. Someone was talking about how unethical it was @PhDorBUST you should have a look, since you obviously don't have enough to worry about
IM SO GLAD I DIDNT SEE THIS BEFORE I WROTE THE LOR AND TOOK A NAP lol
For real, I wrote what I could, did the best I could do, and it is outta my hands now so I WILL NOT check out that rabbit hole I mean thread on LORs!
Ive only had to do this one other time for something like a scholarship application and my prof was really just trying to teach me the lesson that's like you don't see yourself clearly you're not a complete fuckup SO of course I was like great so I suck at writing about myself too LOL no but yeah I had to keep thinking SELL YOURSELF PRETEND YOURE SOMEONE ELSE AND JUST DO IT.
neurotic? Me? Psh idk what youre talking about...
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I'm so glad this was asked. I have two tats, but they're easily covered. I DO want more though, and I have the same concerns. Going into CJ/Criminology phd (hopefully, fingers crossed) I wonder if there's an issue there, especially as some profs come from law enforcement backgrounds. Wonder if this also varies by state in the US...
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12 minutes ago, DBear said:
@crugs, Ladies, just turned 36 and happy that I don't have to worry about whether or not my plans for a phd work with my husband's career goals, kids' schedules etc. That said, if Mr.Right comes along, I'll be more than happy to let him tag along *if* I get in anywhere.
Venting: it's 3;24 and I'm not sleepy argh. This whole application thing has really messed up my sleep cycle
I HAVE FINALLY FOUND MY PEOPLE yay!!!
Just got an update from my late LOR writer....she told me to write my LOR, send it to her for edits and then she'll submit it. I don't know if I should take this as a good thing, like she trusts me to write this, or bad as she really cannot care less...
Anyone else experience this?
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1 minute ago, DBear said:
I point blank just said Hi Please note the deadlines are coming up (insert neatly organized table)
Thank you so much for taking time out of your busy schedule.
>> Didn't have the heart to say YO deadline is yesterday!! You're late!
Hey, but my strategy obviously isn't working....
Hmm...okay I'm gonna try that
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4 minutes ago, DBear said:
Walking Dead
dead wrong
ghost peppers are like, supposed to be the most spicy pepper thing ever. Like looking at it sets your mouth on fire. So I've heard. I'm too chickenshit to try it.
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3 minutes ago, DBear said:
lol lol lol lol lol thank you! That just killed a couple of stress cells!
Gaaaaah is right abt the LOR writer!! The one who's causing me trouble is also my most important LOR. He's the only one of my LOR writers who's known me since undergrad and since I have a big gap in my academic career doing completely non-academic work that has absolutely nothing to do with research or what I want to do for my phd, I really need him to say "y'all, it's not completely random she's wanting to do a phd, trust me"
I've sent him all the reminders on a daily basis and texted him almost daily leading up to the first set of deadlines. On the day of the deadline, he finally texted back saying he'd do it that night (that was nearly a week ago) so I left it for a couple of days and texted him twice today saying it's been a week... He said he'd do it tonight. It's currently 1 am here in the boonies outside Seoul and he still hasn't uploaded any! He even wrote me a lor a few months ago for a fellowship and I've been doing everything I can to make it easy for him, just like you... Only thing left in my bag of tricks is to call him, crying and not hang up til he uploads the letters. Please don't let it come to that..... Gaaah!
Glad to be of service lol I regularly and inadvertently provide the comic relief for my cohort so yeah. Maybe they should start paying me. Anyway.
I started an email to this writer yesterday, wrote like half of the first sentence, stared at it, deleted it, stared at it, wrote it again basically verbatim....Umm I don't want to sound plaintive, accusatory, whiny, ungrateful, selfish, etc etc. but dear LAWD I keep sounding in these emails like a completely different person! "Umm hi yes, would you mind, I mean, you said you would write a LOR, but like, I know you're busy, research and grants and grades and everything, oh happy holidays!, but umm...could you maybe, umm, maybe start the letters cuz like, umm they're kinda due like soonish..." I resent her for turning me into my complete opposite!! GAAAAH!
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11 minutes ago, eternalwait said:
Everyday I check the Search section, and I get really happy for the people accepted. It helps.
That is amazingly kind and big-hearted of you. I can't do it or else I start idk making up dark voodoo spells or something.
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2 hours ago, DBear said:
hehe, this made me giggle because constantly checking my application is one of those things I seem to have no control over. It's like a nervous tick.
In my defense one of my LOR writers has yet to upload his letter so I actually do need to check at least once a day to send reminders etc.
Omg yes one of my LOR writers still hasn't submitted any of mine and it sucks cuz I had her first semester for sw research, I'm her gra, and she's like who I want to be when I grow up. I asked for her to write an LOR like back in August/September to which she was like of course!! and now everything is submitted except for THAT. She said she'd do it after finals (that was 2 weeks ago) still nothing. I did everything she asked to make it as easy as possible and idk how to politely remind her now while also conveying the urgency. Her LOR is just so important to me I learned a lot about spss from her and helped a bunch with her huge SAMHSA grant....gaaaaah
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candy apple
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15 hours ago, Puffer Fish said:
Since I reused my application from last year and only one of my transcripts changed, my app was verified very early on.
ALL I'm waiting on now is one letter of rec from a professor who said he'd have it turned in by Last Thursday. >_>However...my doubts haven't gone away since they came to light in October. I'm starting to feel like this isn't the way for me to go after all. But I don't feel comfortable pursuing what I want to actually be doing unless I get rejected or can decline without receiving any junk in the physical mail about it.
Part of me even wants to withdraw my applications after I've spent at least $700 this season on them, just so in the spring I can go 'oh, darn, didn't get in anywhere. Time for plan B!'
I'm more afraid of getting in to school for SLP than I am for being rejected, now. And that's...a weird feeling. I don't know if it will persist, but at least I have time to figure it out...
My unsolicited advice? Do NOT waste any more time or money on this if it is not what you want to do. I know it can be daunting and difficult, and hard to explain to loved ones, but if you KNOW that you want to do something else...go DO IT. Seriously.
Sorry. I met a 25 year old woman diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer recently and now I pretty much walk around screaming CARPE DIEM MOTHERFUCKERS
Cheers!
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1 hour ago, misswope said:
Finally someone who went to TN Knoxville! Do you happen to know if we have to send our transcripts to them directly or if they take them from CSDCAS? It's not very clear on either website.
Oh WOW lol okay well first, hi! (I say wow because this has never happened to me so here goes...)
Second, I hope you like orange.
Third, a LOT of things were in flux when I was graduating (like onestop, the thing the registrar has now, that used to not be a thing and I was so confused when I had to order transcripts 2.5 years ago) so I will do my best here.
Idk what CSDCAS is and it is 2am so I'm not googling that lol, but I would actually contact the admissions person for your program to ask them directly. Get used to the website not being clear. It's part of the Big Orange Screw.
If you have other questions, please feel free to ask. I lived there for about 6 years as I went part-time for a while, and even though it took me a while to adjust to the culture (I'm from PA), it can be a pretty cool place. The professors are great, administration.....not so much.
I hope this helps!
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4 hours ago, crugs said:
I'm the middle--but 30, so pretty much in the same boat!!!
AND I FEEL THE SAME WAY. the wait is just murder.
Truer words have never been said girl
Someone is reading my application right now
in Waiting it Out
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Nooooo that's the WORST. When that happened to me I changed my email notification sound to the most distinctive one I could find