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Good. Because you have offered some comically dangerous advice. 
 
He only has to get "physically aggressive" once for your advice to turn out poorly for OP.  The guy only threatened to divorce his wife because she won't let him hang a Nazi banner. He sounds really stable and like the kind of fellow who is unlikely to get physically aggressive.
 
Are you for real? 
 
Holy mother of God, no! This advice is bad enough when offered to people in non-threatening relationships ....
 
OP:  fuzzy hit the advice head on. Please take care of your physical and emotional health. If want to try to help your husband, that is great (I think). But please don't believe that it is your responsibility or that you alone can change him. 

Good. Because you have offered some comically dangerous advice. 
 
He only has to get "physically aggressive" once for your advice to turn out poorly for OP.  The guy only threatened to divorce his wife because she won't let him hang a Nazi banner. He sounds really stable and like the kind of fellow who is unlikely to get physically aggressive.
 
Are you for real? 
 
Holy mother of God, no! This advice is bad enough when offered to people in non-threatening relationships ....
 
OP:  fuzzy hit the advice head on. Please take care of your physical and emotional health. If want to try to help your husband, that is great (I think). But please don't believe that it is your responsibility or that you alone can change him. 

Good. Because you have offered some comically dangerous advice. 
 
He only has to get "physically aggressive" once for your advice to turn out poorly for OP.  The guy only threatened to divorce his wife because she won't let him hang a Nazi banner. He sounds really stable and like the kind of fellow who is unlikely to get physically aggressive.
 
Are you for real? 
 
Holy mother of God, no! This advice is bad enough when offered to people in non-threatening relationships ....
 
OP:  fuzzy hit the advice head on. Please take care of your physical and emotional health. If want to try to help your husband, that is great (I think). But please don't believe that it is your responsibility or that you alone can change him. 

Okay, I'll voice the possibly less popular opinion. Your responsibility is to yourself. You don't have to stay with him and you are not responsible for getting him better or for educating him. You need to take care of yourself. If you do decide you want to try and stay, I think it's of utmost importance to get support from others. Can you involve his family? friends? do you have a support system around you to take care of you, if you need it? If he wasn't always like this, something must have triggered this, and maybe you can help him through it. Whatever it is, though, you shouldn't do it alone, and you shouldn't let him take it out on you. This sounds like a situation that requires professional help. I know that posting here was probably already hard enough, so maybe the next step is for you to find counseling on your own, maybe through your school, before you think about talking to him. Figure out your resources and support network, then come up with a plan to confront him. I hope that there is no fear of physical violence, but if there is, let me repeat again: your responsibility is to yourself first. Make sure that you are safe, and take care of yourself, both physically and mentally. If that means you need to leave him, I think that's totally understandable and no one from the outside can judge. And if you choose to stay and try and fix it, again I hope that no one will judge and that you can find the help you need. 

Why would you apply if it wasn't worth the time and effort? 

C'mon. You know you'll get in practically everywhere ....

I think answering the following questions would give people an idea of how best to advise you:
1) Why did you not seek an industry job right after undergrad? You seem to have no real interest in graduate school aside from what you think it can do for your business aspirations. If you want to ascend to a management role, going to industry right away is your best bet.

2) Do you have any technical interests? It sounds like you applied to graduate school without a clear motivation in mind (aside from becoming a CEO). If you don't really have any technical interests, you might be interest in analyst positions at consulting firms. 
Based on what limited information you've presented, it seems like you shouldn't go to graduate school. Excelling in graduate school is hard enough without coming into it with no motivation. Get a job. You'll get good experience and learn a lot about yourself in the process. It also pays more. After a couple of years you might have a good sense for where you passion lies and can then choose between the Ph.D, MBA, starting your own business, etc .... The fact that you're so set on a management role without any real industry or management experience suggests to me that school is probably not what you need right now.
 
 
 
 
 
 

Hi everyone!
Does terahertz scanners such as www.tera-sense.com was invented in Berkeley? 
Thanks!

http://www.top-law-schools.com/
Your sub-3.0 GPA will be a more of a problem for graduate school than law school. Law schools are hurting to maintain enrollment given the terrible job prospects for lawyers who don't graduate from top schools. One of them will gladly take you loan money so long as your LSAT score isn't terrible. Graduate students aren't as willing as law students to sign up for hundreds of thousands of dollars of debt, which is why graduate schools (even the diploma mills) maintain some standards. 
The better question is whether you SHOULD go to law school. The folks on the website above will give you the advice you are seeking. It will be frank/brutal, but it will likely be accurate.
 

I am sure you would have very little trouble getting good internships (Google, FB) during the summer if you decided to go to Princeton.

Big caveat. Also, there isn't a dwindling market for academics in engineering at research institutions. It is tight, but it isn't dwindling.
 
OP, your perceived ability to bring in grants will be what gets you into academia. Since no one can truly know whether you'll flourish at bringing in $, hiring committees use proxies like citation counts, etc ... It would be foolish for me to suggest that the name on the diploma doesn't matter. However, you advisor's research output will matter much more. Or your postdoc advisor's. I am unfamiliar with your field, but I have seen doofuses in photonics turn down UC Santa Barbara for Masters diploma mills like Penn because ... Ivy! Same goes for morons who chose Yale over Colorado for optics. 
Look at the research output of your advisors. Talk to your mentors at your UG institution. Princeton might even be the better choice, but the name brand should not be the deciding reason.
 
EDIT: You might find this useful regarding faculty hiring - (http://armani.usc.edu/advice/)

Well, it just seemed like we're missing the biggest piece of the puzzle, no? Your fiance might be perfectly fine with a move to Boston and then the decision really just comes down to staying within BigFed or going up to Boston.
Also, should we infer that Boston's program is better for your career. It is not 100% clear, but sounds like it is.

It sounds like you've asked a bunch of people on what to do except you fiance. With the federal government hiring freeze, I would probably stay in DC since it sounds like you would get to keep you employment. I also don't understand BU offers that you even want to consider it. Is it better or would just prefer a bigger program?
Also, anything your fiance's opinion should probably trump what randos on the internet say.

It sounds like you've asked a bunch of people on what to do except you fiance. With the federal government hiring freeze, I would probably stay in DC since it sounds like you would get to keep you employment. I also don't understand BU offers that you even want to consider it. Is it better or would just prefer a bigger program?
Also, anything your fiance's opinion should probably trump what randos on the internet say.

Don't worry. If there's anything NYU is good at it is loading up students with debt on schedule.

Seems a little optimistic to except quality input from a post so lacking in context/effort.

Don't worry. If there's anything NYU is good at it is loading up students with debt on schedule.

On second thought, this is a really good question. I doubt that this is the case for condensed matter at UIUC (I assume they are #1 given their history), but in electrical engineering there are definitely some dumpster fires (USC, Penn) that are ranked higher by US News than they truly deserve. On the flip side, Princeton and UCSB are very well regarded in academic circles compared to where the goobers at US News have them.
 
 

UIUC is ranked higher. Cornell is more reputed. wut?

UIUC is ranked higher. Cornell is more reputed. wut?

Seems like there's blame to go around here. 
OP kept leading on the advisor to this point (wants to stay, top choice, yadda, yadda) while the advisor was on sabbatical. Now the advisor needs to recruit a new student to fill a void they didn't think they had. Given how late it is in the season, the advisor probably lost out on the chance to recruit someone who would have fit well.
On the other hand, since OP applied to other programs, the advisor should not have been surprised that OP wanted go elsewhere. The is part of the business and you'd think the professor could be the grown up. 
Hopefully, the advisor gets over it.
 

Are you in engineering or MSW? 

OP, you say you are interested in academia and I assume you mean at a research university. If you are, you might want to do a little more legwork by talking to professors at you alma mater. Barring that, you might some faculty pages like this one from Andrea Armani [LINK], which offer advice on searching for a faculty position.
You should definitely do more than listen to one rando on the internet like me, but here are a couple of things I would suggest.
- See if the schools you are interested in have a program that purports to train future faculty.
- Hiring a new engineering professor is a big investment for a research institution. Usually they pony up $300k-$1M to help the professor buy equipment, credit at a nanofabrication facility, funding for 2-4 students, etc ... If they are going to make that investment, they want to know that you can pull in grant money. A couple of proxies for ability to rope in grant money (as I've been told) are: (a) 2-3 first authored papers in high impact journals (Nature, Science, PRL), (b) high number of citations of one's work, (c) their impression of your ability to market yourself and your work.

What I have told you might only be true for my sub-field, but I would be surprised if it didn't apply to yours as well. Don't fall for the prestige trap. Your advisor is going to be much more important than the name on your diploma. 
 

I have looked at alumni. The Wisconsin PIs send people to top labs and industry. The UMich PI is a wildcard since he has only graduated one student (who will do a postdoc). But Umich PI is putting out some well cited papers.
As far as brand name, I can tell you it means almost nothing for national labs. I worked for one before. If brand name matters it is only because a lot of PIs doing cutting edge work are in well ranked schools. The Wisconsin PIs are up there with anyone. However, industry is another matter. No idea how the research arms of Intel and IBM choose people.

QoP: Seems like Wisconsin wins here if you truly aren't interested in the 'hot topic'.
Ment: Wisconsin seems to win but don't discount younger professors, they usually are very energetic in getting new and impactful projects done. Connections are nice, but it is possible someone putting out highly cited work is also forming those connections.
Rest: Michigan seems to have a clear edge here (other than no first year fellowship and proximity to Detroit, but RA is good experience). I think taking your spouses QoL and career into account is important (I only applied to places where mine could get good work so no small college towns for me) and visiting AP/Fellow won't dampen their career goals as much as not being able to find anything close to what they want to do.
You probably can't go wrong with the research experience and education you are going to get from both universities, so if you make your final decision on what is best for both of you, you might be happier with the result.

(http://profiles.asee.org/profiles/7281/screen/33?school_name=University+of+Pennsylvania)
The "national average" is a meaningless. Comparison between competitor programs is what matters. I assume you've been offered a fellowship and are trying to get them to throw in a little more money?