I understand it's frustrating to feel like you didn't get the heads-up in advance that your odds were even more uphill than before. FWIW, I'm a woman in phil of math/formal epistemology (even more heavily gender skewed than regular phil) and I didn't get an offer from Irvine (or an interview, so it's definitely over for me, as they interview all admitted and most waitlisted LPS kids). Try to focus on the positive--you've already got a great offer, and I'm sure more will come in!