velvetramen
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6 hours ago, Shutterbug21 said:
Congrats to all! Such an exciting time!
I will be making this summer about me by creating a list and doing many of the things I've wanted to do like plan a few trips and spend time with family. I have some PTO from my full time job to use up before I leave, so what a perfect way to spend it. Which brings me to a question for you all:
If you are currently employed, when are planning to tell your employer that you will be leaving?
Unfortunately my direct supervisor does know that I applied to schools. I asked an indirect supervisor to be a letter writer in confidence and unfortunately that confidence was broken and my direct supervisor found out I was applying. My relationship with my direct supervisor has been tense ever since as I feel I am being written out of my job already, though there was no guarantee I was leaving. I plan on working until early August but I don't want to be pushed out before then, so I'm hesitant of informing anyone too far in advance. Not exactly sure what to do here.
This is a great question! I am honestly confused about this too. The job I'm working in now is in a large psychiatric hospital with a population that is the same that I'll be studying in graduate school. The wonderful thing is that I'm currently working on a study where I'm getting to know my other collaborators who are leaders in research in that population (developed significant scales, etc). However, the bad part of that is that I never told my supervisor I applied when I got hired in December (she never asked and there's an understanding that many people go off to school so I never told her - also I'm unionized so wasn't super worried). I think she will be professional about it but I've been thinking alot about the best way to approach it as I want to ensure I keep a positive relationship with this research centre as I KNOW I will be back here at some point during graduate school. My plan is to tell her in a couple months (at least a couple months before I plan to leave in Sept) to allow her enough time to find a suitable replacement as I know she is very picky with hires. I guess one good thing about where I work is because it's such a big mental health centre, they get HUNDREDS of applications for positions so I know there will at least be a lot of interest. While getting into a clinical psychology program is HUGE news, the sucky part is I havent told ANYONE at work because I want her to know first so it's just been this huge secret I'm keeping.
I would say it's still good to give them a few weeks notice (over 2 weeks) to ensure you're on good terms. It also depends - will you be working with these people in the future? In that case you may want to tread even more carefully. I'm sorry to hear about your relationship with your supervisor. Hopefully with you being open with her and allowing time to find a replacement, she will be understanding of your situation and your request to stay until August.
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2 minutes ago, Psych20 said:
Yes! I am in a similar situation, accepted a spot at my first choice program this year and now I have no idea what I'm going to do. I knew it was Imposter Syndrome but I also recently had it described to be as an anxiety hangover: I've been so gosh darn stressed the past few months (a year even) that now that I've gotten in that anxiety has no where to go and I feel almost empty. So I've been subconsciously looking for things to stress out over (like getting on grad cafe, for instance lol). Don't get me wrong, I'm still thrilled to have gotten in! But now that the excitement is starting to wane, I've begun to feel that emptiness creep in since this is something I've been anxious about for a long time and that anxiety is now gone. Pretty sure this is a fairly normal thing, and I would also recommend going to talk to someone if that's something you can feasibly seek out.
THIS!!! Also I am stealing the phrase "anxiety hangover" because that is a perfect way to describe. I went on grad cafe more AFTER i got in than before just as something to do to revel in that admissions process again. It is so crazy! I'm just going to take it day by day and try to invest some time in hobbies...
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8 minutes ago, springxsummer said:
Yes I feel this. I'm sitting on an offer at my top choice that I intend to accept very soon. I have this weird anxiety that they'll take it away.... It makes no sense.
Yes, exactly! Hopefully you'll feel better after you submit your acceptance!
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1 hour ago, ClinicalApplicant2019 said:
Reading all of that, I couldn’t help but be so impressed with how everything played out for you. You seem very aware of how insanely competitive this process is, and the validation you’ve gotten from your supervisor and admissions is truly incredible.
To address your anxiety, though, because I don’t want to minimize your feelings: it sounds like you have a classic case of Imposter Syndrome. Perhaps? Feeling you shouldn’t have gotten in or that your offer will be revoked. You made it this far because of all the work you put into this and feeling like an imposter is an unfortunate beast to tackle. Trust in yourself that you got yourself here through hard work and you deserve a spot. Also, try to be in the present moment more because it’ll keep you ground and steady while you get ready to take on your top program!Thank you, I appreciate that ☺️☺️
Definitely feel like I have the imposter syndrome. I think trying to be more present sounds like a good idea.. it's so weird, I never thought I'd feel this way. Generally when people get into grad programs like this, I've more so heard of them being anxious about being able to tackle the workload.
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1 hour ago, Clinapp2017 said:
Like all emotions, this will pass with time. It sounds like you are mindful of your experiences (both negative in the past and positive) and aware of what you are feeling. Though the anxiety now may feel “weird” to you, I think it’s a normal thing anyone feels when they make a big choice, like accepting a PhD offer or new job. I don’t have any specific tips, but your new reality will set in with time. It’s hard to fathom, and I feel like reminding yourself that you worked hard to get here is a good thing to say.
Congrats! I’m glad to hear this second time worked out so well in the end after a pretty crappy run-around your first time.
Thank you! Yes, I'm hoping time will help ... it almost feels like time is dragging on though because I still have 6 months to go before I start and I want to start now!
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53 minutes ago, Mickey26 said:
Hey
I was in your shoes last year. Applied and got in to my top school right before Christmas (and before some of my other applications were due!) I remember feeling joy, a sense of wonder/shock...and then? Now what? Now that I've achieved my goal, what now? After everything I've done/all the hard work and sacrifices in, I made it, but what now? It's an odd sense of fulfillment, and... emptiness?
My advice to you is ENJOY what you're experiencing right now--that giddyness, the fact that you've achieved your goal. You DESERVE it. Know that You MADE it. Congratulations
Happy to chat more if you'd like. Just shoot me a PM
(and congrats, you did it!!)
Thank you, YES, this is EXACTLY how I'm feeling. While this was just my second time applying, I've been preparing for this goal for the past 5 years. It feels like everything I did was working toward it and now its just... over? I mean it's great but I have no idea what to do with my spare time. I'm working full-time but at the same time I'm used to working FT and then planning for grad apps/studying for GRES in the PM. It's hard to believe it' all over.
But that you, I'll try my best to enjoy and remind myself of my accomplishment ?
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Hi everyone,
So I recently got accepted to my top school for clinical psychology and for some reason I'm stressing the f--- out. Let me back up a bit. So, this is my second year applying. Last year I applied to a bunch of schools, got to the interview phase for one school, and got rejected.
It was a mindfuck. Throughout my correspondence with my POIs I received consistent feedback that I was an excellent applicant and they seemed genuinely interested in taking me on. In fact, when I met with my primary supervisor we met and talked for over 2 HOURS! Fast forward to interview day, my interview with the committee went decent, but throughout the day I got consistent feedback from my supervisors again saying "I have a really good feeling about your application" and with the last thing one of my supervisors saying being "I think you're an excellent fit and I hope you choose [name of school]. Not I hope you get in but I hope you choose our school because with your calibre of application I'm sure you'll receive multiple offers.
After the interview, I heard that acceptances get sent out within days. So I emailed a thank you note to the committee and once again got a very positive response from my supervisor ("I look forward to being in touch in the future"). In fact, my other supervisor literally emailed me and asked me when I'd like to come for a lab tour and start a publication. I started to freak out and asked her - does this mean I got accepted?? At which point she backtracked and told me I'd need to hear from the committee. So, I waited two weeks... with my anxiety mounting every day... and got rejected. It didn't make any sense and it basically scarred me. I was depressed for months afterwords because it felt so close and I felt like I had just been played with.
So this year, I applied to about half the schools as I did for my first application, and I got an interview at a school I didn't even think I had a shot at. This school takes 3-5 applicants a year, its students have INSANE CVs, and a significant proportion of them win VERY competitive scholarships. I had connected with my supervisor earlier that year so I made it through an initial skype interview and came in for the department interview. There were a couple other people interviewing for a spot in my lab but my supervisor spent significantly more time with me during the free time that was scheduled. My interviews went better and better throughout the day with my final interview (with the admissions coordinator) telling me straight up that my application really stands out compared to everyone else's and that I should be proud of myself. The point of this whole spiel is not to brag, but just to help you understand what an undoubtedly positive experience I had (I'm very fortunate) for this interview.
And two weeks later I found out that... I got in! I was also informed very close after the committee admissions meeting leading me to believe i was at/near the top of the admissions list. So this all probably sounds great but basically I've been incredibly stressed for the past week or so (since I found out and accepted the offer).
First, after I received the offer and the department called to inform me, I literally didn't believe it. After I got off the phone, I started second guessing myself. I knew it had to be true but I couldn't bring myself to accept the good news. Fast forward two days later I got my official offer letter. And I felt better cause now I had it in writing. So I signed and celebrated. And now I'm freaking out again!! I've had nothing but a positive application process this year but in the back of my mind I still think it'll be revoked. I'm not even stressed about the work associated with the program but just that something is off and I didn't actually get in. I even feel guilty telling people that I got in!! Everything seems to be triggering my anxiety and I worked with individuals with GAD so I know what I'm feeling is COMPLETELY excessive.
Has anyone else who got accepted into their top program felt this? Does ANYONE have any tips on how to deal with this? I just feel so incredibly silly. ?
*I is stressed* venting thread for Fall 2020 Applicants
in Psychology Forum
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Also how I heard about my acceptance (same time frame as well)! The way I see it its very unlikely they would take time out of their day to reject you. High hopes for you - good luck!!