My now-wife, then girlfriend, went to grad school a few years ago, only an hour or two away. We saw each other about once a week. It was fine, we were both very busy.
Last year she accepted a teaching position 900 miles away to begin Fall '08. We decided to get married (eloped) last summer, June. Two days AFTER the subsequent big party / reception the family threw for us, we were on a plane to her new place, August. I came back to work and to finish my second undergrad here, finished in Dec '08.
Jobs are not easily had where she lives/works, otherwise I would have moved there in January.
I was visiting once a month, but credit card bills are getting up there...
For grad, I applied to only two schools, the one I really wanted and the school where she teaches. I heard back from the want and I got in. It's in Cali, we're on the east coast. Cali school wanting an answer in two weeks.
Now I wait to hear from her school.
I look at my calendar and realize I have to prepare mentally and physically for a move in the next four months.
quandary is an understatement