I feel your pain. I had to break up recently with my lover because graduate school was looming over our relationship. She just couldn't get over the uncertainty of the future and it took away from the quality of our relationship and the way she felt about me. It was really difficult and a part of me wanted to leave academia behind and just be in love. When she broke up with me I was just telling myself "I don't want this life (in academia), I don't know what I'm doing here." In my opinion academia makes the break up even more desolate because as researcher, we spend the majority of our time, alone, doing research. It's such a lonely career. Anyways, I'll stop rambling :/