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ANDS! got a reaction from Ruh26 in How do we reject the schools and POIs?
Exactly. Perhaps people want to over complicate things because it is a big step in their life, and each action demands some grand gesture. Unless you're an exceptional candidate and the department went out of their way to recruit you (read: did they do anything they didn't do, or wont do again, to another candidate) a simple email suffices.
But hey I'm sure someone will come along and tell the OP what they want to hear: personalized hand written cards (perhaps scented) expressing deepest regrets and the hope that this doesn't completely shatter their graduate program.
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ANDS! got a reaction from looking_to_sea in How do we reject the schools and POIs?
There is no negative tone. It is simply me not shining you on; you asked for opinions, I gave you one which you reject out of hand which lead me to conclude you don't actually want opinions just validation for a decision you have already made. Nature of the beast.
I amended my recommendation to be more in line what you were seeking. . .did you not see?
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ANDS! got a reaction from jeffster in How do we reject the schools and POIs?
Agreed. Thankfully that's not what I said. . .at all.
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ANDS! got a reaction from intirb in How do we reject the schools and POIs?
The only way one burns bridges with the customary "Thank you for the opportunity but I've decided to go elsewhere. . ." email is if the person you are responding to is pretty petty in the first place. If an applicant had more of a connection that warranted just a "teensy bit extra" in the email, by all means have it; however (at least from the mouths of faculty I've spoken with), applicants run the risk of saying the wrong thing or simply expounding on things they don't need to.
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ANDS! got a reaction from jeffster in How do we reject the schools and POIs?
Now this is a situation that would merit a more in depth explanation of why you've decided to travel elsewhere. The person you've spoken with has obviously invested more than the average amount of time in getting to know you and your suitability for their program and working with them, and has connections to people already in your network (which isn't out of the ordinary, but if you're talking multiple connections. . .)
I would pow-wow with your current advisors, or whomever is writing your letters and ask them - since they seem to know these professors personally/professionally - what might best be the approach to take with each of these professors.
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ANDS! got a reaction from Ruh26 in How do we reject the schools and POIs?
There is no negative tone. It is simply me not shining you on; you asked for opinions, I gave you one which you reject out of hand which lead me to conclude you don't actually want opinions just validation for a decision you have already made. Nature of the beast.
I amended my recommendation to be more in line what you were seeking. . .did you not see?
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ANDS! got a reaction from looking_to_sea in How do we reject the schools and POIs?
Well then by all means, craft personalized emails for these instructors you have had these substantive conversations with who I am quite sure will remember you in 5 or 10 years.
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ANDS! got a reaction from jeffster in How do we reject the schools and POIs?
Exactly. Perhaps people want to over complicate things because it is a big step in their life, and each action demands some grand gesture. Unless you're an exceptional candidate and the department went out of their way to recruit you (read: did they do anything they didn't do, or wont do again, to another candidate) a simple email suffices.
But hey I'm sure someone will come along and tell the OP what they want to hear: personalized hand written cards (perhaps scented) expressing deepest regrets and the hope that this doesn't completely shatter their graduate program.
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ANDS! got a reaction from cynder in How do we reject the schools and POIs?
Agreed. Thankfully that's not what I said. . .at all.
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ANDS! got a reaction from Helpplease123 in How do we reject the schools and POIs?
The only way one burns bridges with the customary "Thank you for the opportunity but I've decided to go elsewhere. . ." email is if the person you are responding to is pretty petty in the first place. If an applicant had more of a connection that warranted just a "teensy bit extra" in the email, by all means have it; however (at least from the mouths of faculty I've spoken with), applicants run the risk of saying the wrong thing or simply expounding on things they don't need to.
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ANDS! got a reaction from cynder in How do we reject the schools and POIs?
Now this is a situation that would merit a more in depth explanation of why you've decided to travel elsewhere. The person you've spoken with has obviously invested more than the average amount of time in getting to know you and your suitability for their program and working with them, and has connections to people already in your network (which isn't out of the ordinary, but if you're talking multiple connections. . .)
I would pow-wow with your current advisors, or whomever is writing your letters and ask them - since they seem to know these professors personally/professionally - what might best be the approach to take with each of these professors.
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ANDS! got a reaction from jeffster in How do we reject the schools and POIs?
There is no negative tone. It is simply me not shining you on; you asked for opinions, I gave you one which you reject out of hand which lead me to conclude you don't actually want opinions just validation for a decision you have already made. Nature of the beast.
I amended my recommendation to be more in line what you were seeking. . .did you not see?
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ANDS! got a reaction from 1Q84 in How do we reject the schools and POIs?
Well then by all means, craft personalized emails for these instructors you have had these substantive conversations with who I am quite sure will remember you in 5 or 10 years.
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ANDS! got a reaction from CageFree in How do we reject the schools and POIs?
Exactly. Perhaps people want to over complicate things because it is a big step in their life, and each action demands some grand gesture. Unless you're an exceptional candidate and the department went out of their way to recruit you (read: did they do anything they didn't do, or wont do again, to another candidate) a simple email suffices.
But hey I'm sure someone will come along and tell the OP what they want to hear: personalized hand written cards (perhaps scented) expressing deepest regrets and the hope that this doesn't completely shatter their graduate program.
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ANDS! got a reaction from Ruh26 in How do we reject the schools and POIs?
Well then by all means, craft personalized emails for these instructors you have had these substantive conversations with who I am quite sure will remember you in 5 or 10 years.
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ANDS! got a reaction from the007expert in How do we reject the schools and POIs?
Exactly. Perhaps people want to over complicate things because it is a big step in their life, and each action demands some grand gesture. Unless you're an exceptional candidate and the department went out of their way to recruit you (read: did they do anything they didn't do, or wont do again, to another candidate) a simple email suffices.
But hey I'm sure someone will come along and tell the OP what they want to hear: personalized hand written cards (perhaps scented) expressing deepest regrets and the hope that this doesn't completely shatter their graduate program.
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ANDS! got a reaction from CageFree in How do we reject the schools and POIs?
There is no negative tone. It is simply me not shining you on; you asked for opinions, I gave you one which you reject out of hand which lead me to conclude you don't actually want opinions just validation for a decision you have already made. Nature of the beast.
I amended my recommendation to be more in line what you were seeking. . .did you not see?
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ANDS! got a reaction from EasyDeezy in How do we reject the schools and POIs?
Exactly. Perhaps people want to over complicate things because it is a big step in their life, and each action demands some grand gesture. Unless you're an exceptional candidate and the department went out of their way to recruit you (read: did they do anything they didn't do, or wont do again, to another candidate) a simple email suffices.
But hey I'm sure someone will come along and tell the OP what they want to hear: personalized hand written cards (perhaps scented) expressing deepest regrets and the hope that this doesn't completely shatter their graduate program.
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ANDS! got a reaction from jeffster in How do we reject the schools and POIs?
Well then by all means, craft personalized emails for these instructors you have had these substantive conversations with who I am quite sure will remember you in 5 or 10 years.
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ANDS! got a reaction from the007expert in How do we reject the schools and POIs?
Agreed. Thankfully that's not what I said. . .at all.
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ANDS! got a reaction from the007expert in How do we reject the schools and POIs?
There is no negative tone. It is simply me not shining you on; you asked for opinions, I gave you one which you reject out of hand which lead me to conclude you don't actually want opinions just validation for a decision you have already made. Nature of the beast.
I amended my recommendation to be more in line what you were seeking. . .did you not see?
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ANDS! got a reaction from CageFree in How do we reject the schools and POIs?
Well then by all means, craft personalized emails for these instructors you have had these substantive conversations with who I am quite sure will remember you in 5 or 10 years.
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ANDS! got a reaction from Sigaba in give me some help. I got 3 admissions.
NYU. Cultural and political center. No brainer really.
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ANDS! got a reaction from TheCheat_IsMyHero in How to phrase a declining letter?
"Dear Sally,
I am unable to personally fund (though loans or otherwise) a doctoral program. I thank you for the offer, however I will have to decline your offer of admission."
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ANDS! reacted to habanero in How do we reject the schools and POIs?
I accepted an offer at a school, and now I need to decline other schools! What is the most respectful way to do this? I found a few other threads, but I'd like to get some new & fresh ideas.