I'm not sure if there is a thread for this already - I have seen a couple similar ones. But I am looking for advice on how to handle an advisor/PI that has too much on their plate and is always busy, and thus is always giving feedback last minute or not at all - but then acting like it's my fault when things are down to the line in terms of time.
For example: I was working on a grant last term (a grant that was suggested by my advisor). We were both well aware of the deadline. I made it very clear that I didn't want to spend my Thanksgiving working on the grant, so I made every effort to have it done before then. My draft was ready two weeks beforehand, we sat down and went through the budget together, etc. However, my advisor continued to send last minute edits, changes, and feedback for the grant after I had already left campus for break instead of updating me prior to departing. This is because he was also submitting a grant to the same organization for a similar project and hadn't drafted his grant application yet (since his was due later, and could be emailed). I suppose he didn't want them to be too similar? I ended up working through Thanksgiving to have it finished and mailed out on time. It couldn't be submitted online, and instead had to be mailed (and received by a certain date - not postmarked by a certain date. Therefore, I had to pay to overnight mail the paperwork so that it arrived on time.
Another example: my dissertation proposal draft was in a shared Dropbox folder, so that both my PI and I had access to it the entire time I was working on it, from start to finish. As I completed certain parts, I not only emailed the draft to him, but reminded him that it was also available in his Dropbox to view at any time so that he could offer feedback. The proposal draft was completed and available a full three weeks before he needed it. I made it very clear to him that I would like some feedback before submitting my proposal to the committee (a week prior to my defense, as is required by the department). I didn't end up getting ANY feedback on my proposal until about 8:00pm the night that it was due to my committee - and I received two or three emails with well over 100 edits combined. I worked on my proposal for four or five hours that night but couldn't complete everything he asked for. So I sent him an email asking what changes were most important out of the remaining ones, and he basically blasted me for not having sent it out to the committee when it was due, saying "your proposal is now one day late" - which was true, but not wholly my fault...? I ended up having to send my proposal 'as is' to the committee for my defense the following week.
Most recently: I have a poster presentation for a university symposium at the end of the term. As a lab group, we had a meeting about how to design our posters, how to cut back on text, layout choices, color schemes, sizing, etc. He expected to see all of our posters before they were submitted to offer feedback. I sent him my poster at the beginning of the week, expecting him to glance briefly at it to make sure that all my text/columns were aligned appropriately and that there weren't any glaring mistakes. The day that I sent it to him, he emailed me saying that he wouldn't get to it until that night. Two days later, I still hadn't heard anything. I emailed him again, asking for feedback because I was getting close to the printing deadline and I wanted to make sure I had plenty of time to get the poster printed. Still nothing. So I submitted my poster for printing without feedback like I told him I would. I got an email the next day with a page full of comments, edits, and suggestions.
I understand that PIs don't need to give feedback on every little detail. But he has specifically requested to see things to give feedback before they go out - and I have been burned by this three times now in one year (for major assignments/projects). I have tried reminding him of deadlines via email and mentioning things to him when I see him in lab or in the office. I have simply started telling him that if I haven't heard from him by a certain point with feedback, that I am submitting documents 'as is' for conferences, symposiums, dissertation work, etc. I'm not sure what else to do at this point, since he doesn't seem to budget his time well at all. I get the sense that he is incredibly disorganized and forgetful, and that is just how he operates. But it's not how I work at all. I am working my butt off to make sure I am meeting the deadlines I set (which are well before the ACTUAL deadlines) so that he has plenty of time to go over things, but he consistently waits until the last minute, and then gets upset when I haven't followed through on editing appropriately.
What is the best way to handle this situation?