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Does your advisor have no funding for you or does the department have no funding for you? Those are two very different things. I applied to some places where my advisor didn't have funding for me off of a grant, but the department would still support me with a TA. Especially since you wrote "all the current measurement/statistics PhD students have TA or RA assistantships," I'm thinking that you will have funding in some form.
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I got an acceptance e-mail from Maryland that turned out to be a mistake. First, they said I was actually on the wait list, and THEN they said no admissions decision had been reached. I didn't really want to go there anyway, but I could imagine how devastated I would be if Maryland was actually my top choice... But now, I keep waiting for my official offer from UW. Yesterday, I got an e-mail saying "your preliminary offer." I was nominated for a financial award for the summer, so now I'm freaking out AGAIN hoping I can get more money. I'll be checking my e-mail every minute until I know!
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Has anyone heard about grad students applying for low income housing in Seattle? I heard a rumor that a few grad students did this and managed to live in pretty nice places for low rent. How would one even go about this process?
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My best friend used to live in a BEAUTIFUL apartment in Saxapahaw (30 minutes from UNC). I would have lived there if I didn't work in Durham!
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Hi! I've lived in Durham for the past five years, and in the central NC region for my whole life. So also feel free to ask me any questions. Cost of living here is amazingly low, I wish I wasn't moving to such an expensive city (Seattle)! The weather here is pretty bipolar. And the humidity in the summer can be killer. Other than that, Raleigh/Durham/Chapel Hill aren't big cities, but I think there's always something fun to do!
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I'm in the same boat. Delaware is giving me more money to live in a place with a low cost of living than UW is for me to live in Seattle (with a high cost of living). But the research and mentorship are a much better fit at UW. Right now, I'm just hoping I'll get my NSF GRFP so I won't have to worry about low stipends.
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Anyone else starting to freak out that we're going to find out decisions in a couple of weeks? A few days ago, I had a dream that I got the NSF. The same night, my friend who also applied had a dream that puppies were drowning. Is this foreshadowing?
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Woah that's freaky! I actually think most of our friends and family are shocked that HE won't follow me. I think he's managed to ignore it for now, but I'm sure it will get worse once I leave.
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Also, I'm sick of having to hear from everyone (from my best friend to the IT guy) that our relationship won't last. It makes me very sad.
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I am SO glad I found this thread! My boyfriend of 3 years and I are about to embark on a LDR for the foreseeable future (at least the next year, but maybe longer). We were both born and raised in NC, and he knew when we started dating that I would be going to graduate school for my PhD. At this point, I'm pretty sure that I'll be going to the University of Washington in Seattle. It was by-far the best program for me, even though it is across the country. We both recognize that a LDR relationship will be difficult, but we are willing to give it a try for a year and then re-evaluate our relationship. Right now, he's not moving because of his work (he's a music teacher and it would be difficult to rebuild his client-base with his level of experience). I think he might move in a year or so, but it's not certain. Right now, his work and his dream are in our home state, and it's not in his benefit to move just yet. My undergraduate advisor (who moved from LA to Cornell for graduate school, even though that meant leaving her boyfriend (now husband) of 5 years behind) gave me some great advice. She said at the end of the day, you have to live with YOURSELF. It's okay to be selfish, because it is your life and your dream. She said that if her husband didn't propose, then someone else would have. I don't believe in soul mates, so I definitely see and agree with what she's saying. I want to be married to someone who will love me no matter the distance, no matter what gets thrown at us. I wish graduate school wasn't a "test" in this sense, but it kind of is. Even though it's incredibly painful to think about life without my boyfriend, I know that if our relationship didn't work out, and I had stayed on the east coast just for him, I would regret that decision for the rest of my life.
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I'm pretty much dying waiting for my "official" acceptance from UW. I just want to see the $$ and tell them I'm going so this all can be over! Btw, haven't heard anything from Maryland since my "fake" acceptance letter.
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Sh*t people say when you are applying to grad school
bathingintheneon replied to Clou12's topic in Waiting it Out
My boyfriend of 3 years isn't going to move with me (at least initially) to grad school. So of course I have to deal with the "it will never last" comments from pretty much everyone I know. -
developmental psych versus HDFS
bathingintheneon replied to psychgi213's topic in Decisions, Decisions
I almost applied to human dev programs, but I stuck with developmental psych because my advisor told me it would be difficult to get into academia jobs with the other degree. Like the above poster said, they are different depending on if you are more outreach or research/academia focused. I think when in doubt, you may get more job opportunities with dev psych. -
Social Psychology Fall 2014 Applicants
bathingintheneon replied to SocialConstruction's topic in Psychology Forum
The University of Delaware's interview weekends were at the end of January. I got my official acceptance on February 10. -
That's good news! I've lived in North Carolina my whole life, so going to Seattle is a pretty big move for me. But the more I think about it the more excited I get!
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"Perfect fit" Program versus More Highly Ranked Program?
bathingintheneon replied to LeoBixby's topic in Decisions, Decisions
It also depends what field you're applying to. In psychology, research fit trumps rank any day. I didn't even apply to most "top ranked" psychology programs, because no one there was doing the research I wanted to do. Remember, you'll be doing this for the next five years of your life. -
I wouldn't feel horrible! When I received my acceptances from a few schools, I didn't want to respond right away, since I was still weighing other offers. So in my replies I said, "Thank you so much for the offer. I am still considering all my options, but I'll let you know about my decision as soon as possible." I didn't name-drop schools though, since I thought that would be weird. But I'm sure I mentioned I had more than one offer. Also, if you're applying to top programs, the schools REALIZE this, because they're only recruiting the best applicants, and they know that you probably have multiple offers.
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Unreasonable decisions and lack of transparency
bathingintheneon replied to aryt13's topic in Decisions, Decisions
I agree with all the previous comments about the OP. I went to undergrad (and currently work at) an elite university where most of the students feel "entitled" to their grades, so this way of thinking from a young student comes as no surprise. With that said, I consider myself to be a top applicant. Great grades, awards, presentations, and lots of research experience. I was still rejected from three schools. Why? Research fit mostly, but I was also trying to carve out a research niche that few have done before. And I wasn't always met with welcoming arms. Not everyone wanted to collaborate in the ways I wanted to. I wasn't rejected from these programs because I was less of a great applicant, it's just not want the PIs wanted to do. Remember, THEY are the FACULTY and YOU are the STUDENT. You don't have a PH.D. Or your own lab. You haven't earned those yet, so it makes little sense to act like "I should have got in, and they need to justify to me why I wasn't admitted." Being rejected is okay. At the end of the day, I'm going to the program that was the best fit for myself and my future advisor, and everyone's happy. -
What surprised you the most going through this whole process?
bathingintheneon replied to budgie's topic in 2010-2015 Archive
What surprised me... How much my initial "rankings" changed as I went on interviews. I was certain UVA was my first choice, and that Delaware and Maryland were at the bottom of my list. My the PIs at UVA were allowed to take graduate students this year, and Delaware actually offered me admission! And then all of the California schools I applied to rejected me... But I'm definitely the most surprised about how I'll be attending UW next year, which I never dreamed would happen. -
Where to start researching about grad school?
bathingintheneon replied to ehershey's topic in Decisions, Decisions
In my field, you apply to do research with a particular professor. I just read articles about topics that were interesting to me, and then found the programs where those authors worked. -
Living away from your spouse for grad school?
bathingintheneon replied to ballerina18's topic in Decisions, Decisions
My SO and I have been together about 3 years. We were both born and raised in North Carolina, but now I'm highly considering going to graduate school in Seattle, Washington. The University of Washington was by-far the best program for me, and I'm really excited to go. I think it's a little different when you're married or have children, but if that's not the case, I say you just have to make the decision that's best for you. If I made a decision to go to another school just because of the distance, and then our relationship DIDN'T work out, I would probably regret it for the rest of my life. -
That awkward moment when you receive an acceptance letter from Maryland and then find out it was a mistake, and you weren't actually accepted... (I heard about this happening to other people, and I always thought "wow, that sucks.") Here's what happened. I received my acceptance letter via e-mail from a staff member. Then I received another e-mail from her saying "please disregard my last e-mail, it was a mistake on our end." Of course, I'm thinking "uh, what kind of response is that?? did I get into the program or not?" and I e-mail her back asking for clarification. She says I've been put on the wait list. Then I receive ANOTHER e-mail from another staff member saying NO DECISION had been reached about my application yet. Apparently when he was approving the acceptance letters, he got my name mixed up with another applicant's. He said if I had more questions I could contact the Developmental Psychology chair (which of course was the PI I had applied to). BTW, I still haven't heard anything from the PI in all this mess. I think this whole situation has essentially taken Maryland out of the running for me... it just seems like a bad way to start grad school. Plus, no one can even make up their mind whether to admit me. Ughhh.
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Yep. But I told them I wasn't going to take their position, because I really want to start graduate school in the fall. I'll probably end up going to UW.
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Developmental Psychology PHD Applicants
bathingintheneon replied to twinkletwinkle's topic in Psychology Forum
I posted this on the Fall 2014 Applicant Thread, but I wanted to see what developmental folks thought. So I finally heard back from UVA. The professors I applied to work with weren't allowed any grad students this year (since they are just starting work in Fall 2014), but they offered me a lab manager position with the certainty that I could start grad school in 2015. Not super excited about this idea, since I have offers from other schools, and I'm a lab manager now (and very very ready to start grad school in a few months). Maybe they'll let me be a post-doc in five years...? -
Finally heard back from UVA. The professors I applied to work with weren't allowed any grad students this year (since they are just starting work in Fall 2014), but they offered me a lab manager position with the certainty that I could start grad school in 2015. Not super excited about this idea, since I have offers from other schools, and I'm a lab manager now (and very very ready to start grad school in a few months). Maybe they'll let me be a post-doc in five years...