gr8pumpkin

Which one?

I'm just dreading the day Miley decides to do a Beatles cover.

I can't repeat what some of them call me on my evals.

A world of yes, since being accepted to program A but still waiting and waiting and waiting on program B and still not knowing where I'll be hanging my hat in September. And the thing is, I haven't been lazy at all, but I *feel* lazy and unmotivated. I get myself to do what I need to do, but I feel no satisfaction in any of it.

Are you sure? ETA: Sometimes when we are depressed, we look for "reasons" just to hang our hat on something that explains why we're depressed. Like, say, "oh, it must be the town" or something like that. We assume something causes the "down" feeling, when it's really the down feeling that's just there to begin with and then we look for reasons to explain it away. Just some food for thought.

Indeed. I'm not talking to mine anymore and I've never been calmer in life.

The Beatles. I don't actually outright hate them, but there are about a million other things I'd rather do than listen to those mopheads. I never saw what was so great about them. Maybe I'd like them more if they weren't overhyped? I think sometimes I feel obliged to dislike the things of the world it is practically illegal to dislike.

I believe in math and science. Believing in math and science as I do, I believe in statistics. Statistics show, per Lisak 2010, that false rape accusations account for a mere 5.9% of rape accusations total. So that means that when a woman accuses someone of sexual assault, I'm inclined to believe her. Does this mean that the accused should not get his day in court? Of course not. Does this mean that the accused is not entitled to a vigorous defense under our system of justice? Of course not. But what it means is that for myself personally, because I believe the soundness of Dr. Lisak's peer-reviewed, journal-published study, when a woman claims that she was raped, between me, myself, I and the kitchen sink, you know, I tend to gauge her accusation with the probability of being 94% likely to be true. What I find unhelpful is to have civil liberties and the concept of the rights of the accused mansplained as though these concepts were the first anyone had ever heard of them. I'm a card-carrying ACLU member, was chair of my UG's ACLU chapter, and a staunch civil libertarian in general. I would defend to the death the rights of the accused to be observed, and that he receive a fair trial. But with a 94% accuracy rate for rape accusations? Yeah, that does influence what I may personally believe. It might mean that a helpful warning or two about so-and-so might reach the ears of women I happen to care about. Now, given that rape accusations are, on the whole, accurate, what do you suppose the odds are that accusations of a far more ubiquitous practice--- sexual harassment--- are accurate too? I have to concede that I don't have a hard number to rely on in this case, but my suspicion is that the accuracy rate of such accusations is probably pretty high too. And of course the accused should have all the due process coming to him at whatever institution he is in. No one ever said otherwise. There is a distinction between the accused's legal or quasi-legal outcome through due process--- and what other people are entitled to personally surmise based on the rational sciences of probability and statistics and reliable, peer-reviewed journal findings.

I hear you; I would only point out that participation in 'safe spaces' and participation in the dominant culture are not mutually exclusive.

The debatability of this is exactly what is at issue here.

It's just amazing how you'll wind up using books you'd think you'd never use.

I was a TA dating an undergrad in my class. We've been married for 14 years now, one son. No regrets.

Alfie Kohn concurs with this, and he's about as compassionate an education expert as they come.

Bumping for truth, and interested in the opinions of today's gradcafe cohort on this.

I ate it, stress-eating as I was still waiting to hear from my final school even then.

The 70s. Do the hustle! Da da da da dat dat da dat da.... I love the music, love the gaudy fashions, love the now-classic TV shows, game shows, a number of really great movies....

I feel more stressed out now waiting to hear from my final school than I think I ever felt in actual grad school. My eating habits have been fluctuating between total binge on girl scout cookies and not eating for two days. Not good, I know. I'm turning into a great pumpkin.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mansplaining

"Very high emotion"? Wow. Just, wow. Are you trying to offensively stereotype your female respondent? You just forfeited all "I am not a misogynist" claims, dude. I would also point out that in the grand scheme of things that the confrontation of misogyny wherever it may lurk is hardly "the popular opinion."

I think people can't be reminded "misogyny is everywhere" enough. From where I'm sitting m-ttl is being piled on for seeing "internalized misogyny" for what it is, accurately, and calling it by its name. That's not "yelling" at anyone. That's not even "not constructive." I think it's quite constructive to challenge someone to think about ways socialization can lead to that very thing, one's own internalized misogyny.

I have no idea why this absolutely correct, spot-on analysis has two down-votes. I wish my quota for up-votes wasn't filled for the day.

This is an excellent point. I dislike them both for not being liberal enough.

Think she'll ever settle on a pseudonym?

http://leftycartoons.com/the-24-types-of-libertarian/ Sums it up. Previous poster is probably "Arrogant" ("You've clearly never read the evidence").

Yeah, libertarians always holler "you can't go and simplify our [simplistic] philosophy!" like that. "We're just so complex! We're just so brilliant! You mere mortals cannot comprehend our eminence!" It's a "philosophy" that makes isolated, socially awkward teenage boys feel special (so that's why no one likes me! I'm just too good! I'm just too pure! I'm just too superior!) and then turns them into entitled assholes in their twenties, something they never seem to outgrow so they have to hold conventions with themselves in hotel ballrooms as seen on CSPAN-6. Now, isn't there a city council that's going to put flouride in the water supply that you should be protesting somewhere?