I'm going to have to disagree with 000. Relationships are about compromise, and the "best" program is not always the ones that fit for you (and this isn't just having the right supervisor, but also family, financial, friends etc. etc.). It is amazing that he can move to be with you, and shows a lot that he will (and has before). I understand your concerns, as I am also in a long-term relationship (6 years; have a house, dog together), and have been accepted into PhD programs in the US (from Canada). While there are lots of great programs that could have fit for me, I only applied to those in the same time zone, so that a long-distance relationship could work... he has a very location specific job that he LOVES. So there is always room for compromise. Long-distance (crappy but doable), going to the best school with a bad location, or somewhere you both want to be and has a good program. So much of your experience will be dictated by your home life and your ability to enjoy and focus on school, and that may be a lot easier in a place where he is also happy. Given that he is making some big sacrifices to support your dreams, it's not "outrageous" for him to express some of his own opinions on where you go TOGETHER.