my second time as well. the first time, two of my LORs weren't great (i later found out that one was actually writing not-so-great letters for multiple students and the faculty in the department weren't happy). this time around, i applied to fewer programs (5 Ph.D and 1 MA)...and the fit with each school was definitely better. i heard back from one school (positive news) and emailed/talked to POIs for two of the remaining five programs. the news there wasn't great, so i'm assuming a rejection for both. as for the other three, i have yet to hear back.
i think i'm dealing with it better this time around by reminding myself of the external factors that i have absolutely no control over (funding, which POI is accepting students, etc.). when my advisor asked me early in the year if there were other careers i was interested in, i couldn't come up with anything. i want, more than anything, to get my Ph.D. so that i can conduct research, teach and mentor. and i will make that happen. perhaps the road there will be different than what i initially imagined (and a bit longer), but you know what they say about delayed gratification! also, this is good preparation for the perseverance needed in academia! :-)
hang in there and stay positive!!