Calmly_Waiting Posted March 4, 2019 Share Posted March 4, 2019 Brutal. Had a call with a professor for a potential PhD program earlier today to discuss whether I was still interested in the program (I am) and at the end of the call, she said a letter with official offer details would be coming my way soon. I only applied to 3 programs (1 reject/1 pending) so this would have been my first accept. Then a couple hours later, I received an email where the professor clarified that I am actually not accepted - just on the waitlist. Very sad. How to respond without sounding crushed? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
itheproofofstupidity Posted March 5, 2019 Share Posted March 5, 2019 Currently going through something similar. A professor told me she would recommend me for admission (but was definitely clear it was just a recommendation to the adcom, not an offer of admission). Few days later got a response telling me I was waitlisted. When I told her she said, "good, i think you have a good chance of getting in" I think some schools just use waitlists differently. I know some programs, a waitlist is basically a second round admit and just used as a safety measure not to over admit students beyond funding allocation. I would keep hope. I have been responding to my waitlists as "Thank you for your consideration. While I have not yet been admitted to XYZ program, I remain very interested in conducting my graduate studies at ABC university. Please let me know if there is anything else I can provide or if there are updates to my application status. Best regards, Calmly_Waiting." Keep hope! You are not out of the running yet. I am currently sitting on 11 rejections and 4 waitlists. I understand your pain! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rohan5141 Posted March 5, 2019 Share Posted March 5, 2019 On the same boat. Prof said he recommended me thrice to the admission committee. Haven't heard back from them yet. May be on waitlist, maybe rejected. Applied only at 3 places, all more ambitious than this one. Now looking to apply in european universities so that I do not have to waste another year. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Calmly_Waiting Posted March 5, 2019 Author Share Posted March 5, 2019 Thanks! Good language suggestions and helps to know I'm not the only one having their hopes raised and dashed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ternwild Posted March 5, 2019 Share Posted March 5, 2019 4 hours ago, Calmly_Waiting said: How to respond without sounding crushed? This is an appropriate response. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ternwild Posted March 5, 2019 Share Posted March 5, 2019 2 hours ago, rohan5141 said: On the same boat. Prof said he recommended me thrice to the admission committee. Haven't heard back from them yet. I've been rejected from a university with a professor who said this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bandanajack Posted March 5, 2019 Share Posted March 5, 2019 20 hours ago, Calmly_Waiting said: Brutal. Had a call with a professor for a potential PhD program earlier today to discuss whether I was still interested in the program (I am) and at the end of the call, she said a letter with official offer details would be coming my way soon. I only applied to 3 programs (1 reject/1 pending) so this would have been my first accept. Then a couple hours later, I received an email where the professor clarified that I am actually not accepted - just on the waitlist. Very sad. How to respond without sounding crushed? I'm really sorry to hear that! As much as you may be upset or even angry, just reply back that you happy you are being considered and look forward to hearing from them again. And I see a day has passed, so you probably responded. Did go well? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Calmly_Waiting Posted March 18, 2019 Author Share Posted March 18, 2019 Happy update to this thread - The POI got back in touch today to say I would be receiving an official letter of admission soon! crazycheese8, itheproofofstupidity, yukichi and 8 others 11 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bookworm2 Posted March 18, 2019 Share Posted March 18, 2019 2 hours ago, Calmly_Waiting said: Happy update to this thread - The POI got back in touch today to say I would be receiving an official letter of admission soon! Bust out the happy dance! Congratulations to you!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
itheproofofstupidity Posted March 19, 2019 Share Posted March 19, 2019 20 hours ago, Calmly_Waiting said: Happy update to this thread - The POI got back in touch today to say I would be receiving an official letter of admission soon! I am very happy to hear this. Hope some of your good fortune rubs off on me! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ternwild Posted March 19, 2019 Share Posted March 19, 2019 (edited) 23 hours ago, Calmly_Waiting said: Happy update to this thread - The POI got back in touch today to say I would be receiving an official letter of admission soon! I guess those new grey hairs are worth it, eh? Unless you got an email shortly later that said "I meant rejection letter...my bad". Edited March 19, 2019 by Ternwild Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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