Hi ponylevel
What I meant was not to generalize as in assuming that your experience, or the experiences of people you have known (and therefore experienced vicariously) should not be taken as the de facto norm, in graduate school.
There are so many variables at play here, and you know as well as I do how varied graduate school programs can be across different faculties/departments, much less different schools. So my point is that it is really a rather complex scenario that we're talking about here, and I'm sorry if you or someone you knew had a bad experience relationship-wise, but I strongly feel that you should not use that negative experience as a stumbling block, ie to discourage other people on this forum from pursuing relationships while in graduate school.
This forum is about giving and seeking advice, not ranting (per se) or expression of bigotry/misogyny (at all).
Just my 2 cents worth.