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We all know that the GRE isn't really a good predictor of graduate school success. One's ability to do good research -- including reading, writing, and presenting in English -- is not exactly what is measured in the Verbal section of the GRE (nor the AWA but don't get me started on that one). A large portion of the test simply has to do with the size of your vocabulary, in particular as it pertains to rare and esoteric words and phrases. Another important factor is how fast you can read. Having native-speaker exposure increases your baseline starting point for studying vocab for the exam. So does reading and writing in the language on a regular basis. If you're a speaker of a language that does not use the Latin alphabet, and you don't speak a Romance or Germanic language that shares some vocab with English, your starting point is quite different from that of a native speaker. Ask yourself, how fast can you read in a second language in a less familiar alphabet? Is that really correlated with how good your science is? 
 
Once you're in a degree program, as an international student you will work harder than native speakers at developing the necessary communication skills so you can become a successful academic. Your peers who are native speakers will have an advantage and won't work as hard. Still, as you say, everyone will get the same degree. Should this extra work be counted for anything? Probably not, because it's required training for anyone who wants to be a researcher and communicate their science. But it's worth keeping in mind that holding non-native speakers to the same standard as native speakers for irrelevant tasks that favor one group over the other (and I think the GRE is exactly that) may not be the best way of select the best applicants, and I think it's entirely understandable that the groups that are disfavored by this test worry about it.

Haha nice you like to make fun of someone who might suffer from depression. You aren't going to shame me for possibly having depression or having to take an anti depressant, I came on the forum and talked about it so obviously there is no shame here. It is a shame you would make a joke out of such a serious issue though. Very sad, shame on you. To answer your question, nope. I haven't gotten them as of yet.
As far as friends, no too concerned. We all know the only friend I am looking for!! As for the other kinds, no don't need those much. My actual friends annoy me enough right now don't need more. Anyways at least I wished this person luck.. That was pretty nice

... You didn't have to address me. I do it for the same reason I'm sure you made that comment.. Because I FELT like it. at least I said good luck. People just deserve to have their parade rained on. That's life. Just as easily as you could have ignored it so could these other people.

.... Yeah ha good luck with that.

I think you need to research this yourself; no one is going to just hand you a job. Most universities/research hospitals maintain up to date job websites, so check out the sites of schools in your area, or areas you are willing to move. I got extremely lucky and got a job in a lab that was exactly in line with my interests but lab jobs are VERY competitive so you kind of have to take what you can get. For every position there could be a hundred applicants, some with years of experience and more degrees than the people they'll be working for. Most PIs will want at least 2 years of commitment. You can also email PIs whose labs you're interested in but that seems unlikely to be fruitful.

You can start by not saying things like, "I'm like super (insert verb-ing)." Let's see... Also, starting sentences with, "I mean." Phrases like, "be that super smart person who can have super intelligent conversations." And punctuation also goes a long way. And what do you mean by super smart and super intelligent conversations? Do you mean you want to have a deep knowledge of a certain academic field? Because most people who speak eloquently and deeply on a certain topic have studied (a few classes, an undergrad major, a grad degree) that field in college. You don't usually catch a group of physics students talking deeply on art history. People talk about what they know. They usually pick up a lot of the lingo and jargon in the classes they take/books they read. You can't expect to speak super intelligently on a topic if you've never bothered reading about it. It takes work to look smart. Same way it takes work to look fit. You can't sit in McDonald's, looking out the window, saying, "I wish I could have super flat abs and walk around looking super good like all these people." 

I think you need to research this yourself; no one is going to just hand you a job. Most universities/research hospitals maintain up to date job websites, so check out the sites of schools in your area, or areas you are willing to move. I got extremely lucky and got a job in a lab that was exactly in line with my interests but lab jobs are VERY competitive so you kind of have to take what you can get. For every position there could be a hundred applicants, some with years of experience and more degrees than the people they'll be working for. Most PIs will want at least 2 years of commitment. You can also email PIs whose labs you're interested in but that seems unlikely to be fruitful.

I think you need to research this yourself; no one is going to just hand you a job. Most universities/research hospitals maintain up to date job websites, so check out the sites of schools in your area, or areas you are willing to move. I got extremely lucky and got a job in a lab that was exactly in line with my interests but lab jobs are VERY competitive so you kind of have to take what you can get. For every position there could be a hundred applicants, some with years of experience and more degrees than the people they'll be working for. Most PIs will want at least 2 years of commitment. You can also email PIs whose labs you're interested in but that seems unlikely to be fruitful.

I think you need to research this yourself; no one is going to just hand you a job. Most universities/research hospitals maintain up to date job websites, so check out the sites of schools in your area, or areas you are willing to move. I got extremely lucky and got a job in a lab that was exactly in line with my interests but lab jobs are VERY competitive so you kind of have to take what you can get. For every position there could be a hundred applicants, some with years of experience and more degrees than the people they'll be working for. Most PIs will want at least 2 years of commitment. You can also email PIs whose labs you're interested in but that seems unlikely to be fruitful.

Getting rejected by your bottom choice program. 

Living in a country where there isn't any clean water to drink, and you can't afford to buy filtered bottled water.

I agree since if I know the exact reason then I have a chance to improve in a particular point and make my application better for next year.
If adcom just says we have unprecedented number, then this doesn't help at all since the number of applicants won't change a lot and we don't know what can we do to make our application stand out.

I think the fact that you got some interviews means that you are qualified. Did you have anyone (preferably from your lab) go over your statement of purpose? Did your mentor help you practice for your interviews? I really don't think getting a masters is necessary--especially if it will cause you to go into debt. But if you can get a full ride/your parents are footing the bill then by all means. I personally think that all you need is another year of research and to spend a little more time honing your SOP and interview skills.

Acceptance to Yale BBS MMPP track! Seriously beyond excited - world's greatest birthday gift!! I will be accepting and heading to New Haven in the fall! I hope to see some of you there!
 
*wanders off to buy Yale merchandise*

Right, I always forget that feminism is a dirty word and that any attempt to raise the level of discussion (or provoke new considerations, even if the same conclusions are reached by the deliberating individual) should be discouraged.

Hate to say it, but it sounds like you have a fairly shallow group of friends. I don't think anyone I've ever known has ever made comments like that, so I would I fact consider them uncommon, esp considering that most people in this thread also don't believe such things.

But since you seem to believe in it so much, let me point this out to you: what does it mean about your own looks if you are not attracting the kind of attractive men that you want? If you were a 9 you would attract 9s. As you said, people tend to date within roughly equivalent levels of attractiveness. So maybe you should take a good look in the mirror and recalibrate your expectations.

You keep asking why you don't deserve a relationship when we say NO ONE deserves a relationship. This is true because no one deserves ANYTHING. None of us are entitled to anything - you can try to accomplish what you want in life and to better yourself but that doesn't mean some karmic force will automatically give you what you want. Sometimes bad people get what they want, sometimes good people don't get what they want. Life has never operated out of some cosmic justice or fairness. It just doesn't work that way because so many things are out of our control.

Also, you say you want a relationship and are willing to work to get one but it sounds like you have very high standards. Not that that's a bad thing but you have to recognize that practically, if you have a picky filter, you will be less likely to find someone who meets your standards and thus less likely to begin a relationship at all. We are trying to point out different approaches because logically, if what you have been doing has not been working in the past then it is unlikely to work in the future. A new approach may be necessary and we are just observing that you are not really willing to entertain them.

Your soul has brown teeth.

You kind of are.. When I go to a party... I am fun!!  I am playing the drinking games or dancing and singing in the bar.  I am a fairly fun person.  It does depend on the bars though.  One of my friends took me to a bar and I just wasn't liking the atmosphere, so I did sit there and text and I took a ton of pics.  If I am at a bar that I like or a night club where theres dancing, I am pretty fun . I love to sing so I am that annoying person in the bar singing every song I know really loud and making a scene.  
 
I don't totally suck in life. 

In the end it doesn't even matter, I'm going to keep dating, I am kind of broadening my dating the new guy I'm talking to who seems really nice is... Bigger. I don't know how I feel about that because it just isn't attractive to me but at the same time he is nice, wants a girlfriend and I want a nice boyfriend so yay that's fitting. He likes to shoot I like to shoot and he's country which is cool. He could always lose the weight, we could work out together that would be cute. So I guess I am picky and a little superficial but I just want what I want. I feel like its so unfair that I don't get to be a cute couple. My friends have attractive boyfriends, former college football players and baseball plays and athletes and I want attractiveness. Status is important to me in all aspects of my life.

I feel like I get so much crap for this thread, when I was just a lurker I saw so many posts asking about how to find a relationship in grad school or how to make time for finding a relationship in grad school. I took it a little further and asked about finding a husband. I don't expect to meet someone one day and marry them the next then get pregnant the next. However I don't think it is unreasonable to try find a relationship in grad school, especially when I will be around so many new people. I mean the perfect time would be grad school I would think? I just don't see how this got so overblown? I mean who doesn't want to be in a relationship? And married at some point? No one wants to be nearly 40 pushing a baby stroller up and down the street, that's not cool. No one wants to be the bridesmaid in all their friends weddings and still single at nearly 30, that's not cool. Half the people who even replied on here and have advice (or talked crap) are in relationships, long term relationships that will likely lead to marriage or are married/engaged and are MY AGE!! So telling me I need to wait or not want it is ridiculous. You have it so of course you wouldn't stress about getting what you have, you can check that off the list, one less thing to have to worry about. I just don't get it.

Lol umm I call a spade a spade. If I person is blatantly a 2 then sorry that's their problem but don't be a 2 and dating a 10 it's just not ok. So yes I have no problem labeling someone a 2 or a 10. Sorry not sorry. I totally think you can be attracted to someone who isn't as attractive. I dated someone that my friends would have not considered attractive at all, I didn't even consider him attractive until we talked and out conversations just clicked perfectly and flowed and he became more and more attractive. I know it can happen but at the same time it just doesn't sit well with me when I am walking through the mall and I see it.

You have to eventually be compatible with someone. I do think I deserve a relationship, I have been through so much shit in the last few years from dating I don't see why I wouldn't deserve a relationship? I don't see how other people can easily fall into them and I can't. I'm not some terrible person and I would be a much better person as a girlfriend than I am not being one. If you don't like the post then you can easily leave and never read it or reply again.

That could be possible but I don't mention wanting kids and a family to men I go out with. My ex and I really only talked about that a few times and each time he was saying "if I got you pregnant I wouldn't want you to get rid of it but being a aren't right now would suck". Which I agreed with, even though secretly I think being a parent right now would be AWESOME! It was odd though he would make jokes or comment about our babies but when he ended it, actually suggested we take a break which I wasn't into, he said "I am not ready to get married, when you date someone they are either the person you marry or you break up". He was weird about marriage but I honestly was never the one bringing it up, he said he didn't want to get married or have kids until his 30s... He was 20, 10 years is way longer than I will wait for marriage and kids, I never said that to him though. I am not trying to skate around my responsibility in the break up, maybe I did something, maybe we weren't compatible, I admit I had major insecure moments with him but he knew and we talked about it and he would get pissed but he got over it. I just feel like one day he and I were fine and happy and he missed me and couldn't wait to see me, then the next he was suggesting a break. I do go on a lot of dates but they spring from online dating or tinder and I just feel like you have less of a chance of compatibility using that method. Specifically tinder, the 2 guys I have gone out with from there I literally pretty much knew nothing about besides their names. They just went what I expected, well the one Friday. Maybe I am a little picky but I want someone attractive who I will want to be with and go out with and have cute Facebook pics with and not someone my friends would be like "oh that's your boyfriend? Hmm". I believe in couples having matching attractive levels. It is dumb but I just hate seeing a guy who is a 10 with a girl that's a 2, unbalanced is not ok.

Yesterday my therapist suggested I reevaluate myself and I can and will but at the same time there are people in relationships who are way more mentally screwed than I am, so there is still no reason for me to not be in a relationship.

Well first of all there is WAY more to that response that you wouldn't know. It was directed to that specific person and I'm sure they know why. Secondly you don't think that going out of your way to pull up this thread in your class for a laugh is trying to bring someone down? Ok well that's your opinion, I disagree but that's me. I get eat ever one is saying. I don't think everyone gets what I am saying. I'm sorry if you think it's funny or I'm trolling but I'm not and I am not going to go out of my way to prove that to you. If you don't like the thread then there are a million others on this website, I'm sure you can find something more interesting.

Lol I'm totally famous now so thanks!
I hope some of your students are hot guys.

In all honesty though it is so sad that you go out of your way to make fun of me and make smart comments about how dumb I am or desperate or pathetic or whatever. I wish I could edit this so the specific person knows I am speaking directly to them BUT I'm sure they have an idea. Anyways you can say what you want, in the end you aren't better than me. I got into every school I applied to also, obviously I am somewhat smart. So have fun teaching your class about me, and making fun or whatever. At least I am honest with myself and other people, I have been extremely candid on this topic and I say kudos to me. Going out of your way to bring me down or make me feel bad is really sad. Anyways good luck in school and teaching and all that. Next time I would like an entire lesson plan about me;) actually collect your hottest students numbers and send them my way! I like tall athletic blondies... Ok go! Haha

Wildly intelligent?