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Halek

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    2018 Fall
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    Ecology

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  1. Halek

    Venting Thread- Vent about anything.

    I'm tired to defending my adulthood to people. I worked in the "real world" before coming to grad school, you can't just take my "adult" status away from me like that. But the more I defend the more it's used against me, like a teenager saying they're an adult. I'm 24 year old, I live separate from my parents, I'm financially independent, I actually live on the opposite side of the continent from any sort of support network. I'm pretty sure I'm an adult. And yet, at least once every few weeks, I gotta have this same argument again and again.
  2. Halek

    Venting Thread- Vent about anything.

    Sometimes it feels like I don't belong in grad school because I don't like to get drunk and I don't really smoke.
  3. Halek

    Venting Thread- Vent about anything.

    I was sharing a meme about how smokey the bear is propoganda (I work in fire ecology and anthropology) with some friends. I thought it'd get some questions. I was not expecting my friend who had made a video game for the DNR to call me a liar, try to send me the emails of people who run smokey the bear in Michigan, and say that she doesn't trust academia. Everyone is now saying that the meme was "clearly" a bad choice, even though people have sent more obviously controversial things to the chat. I'm prepared for people to disagree with my research. I'm not prepared to be attacked by people that I thought were safe around. I no longer feel comfortable sharing what I'm going to spend the next six years of my life researching with my friends and I'm angry and sad about it.
  4. Halek

    State College, PA

    Avoid the area directly south east of downtown, this is where the frat houses are so it's quite a bit louder. I live on Westerly Parkway and I've seen some houses for rent over in this area, but that could be the "by room" situation that you mentioned. Overall, the area by the high school is nice and quite. I walk in, another member of my cohort bikes in, and several take the bus. So depending on how you like to commute you can make anything work at this distance.
  5. Halek

    Venting Thread- Vent about anything.

    My advisor just gave me a mock qualifying exam during lab meeting. I blanked on a concept that she helped bring from animal behavior to anthropology. She's on the panel that does my actual oral portion of the exam. I know that the way qualifying is structure is to just keep poking until they find something you don't know, and I still home a month to study, but I just feel really embarrassed and exhausted. I know I need to study more but now I have a headache from the whole thing.
  6. Halek

    Venting Thread- Vent about anything.

    My advisors daughter who I'm working with on a project doesn't communicate with me and goes directly to my advisor, which makes me look lazy and also makes me feel useless. I had no choice in this collaboration and will be very happy when she graduates and moves on.
  7. Halek

    Venting Thread- Vent about anything.

    While group therapy is really helpful, it also wipes me out for the rest of the day emotionally and it makes it difficult to get work done. That being said, if you need help, therapy is really helpful guys.
  8. Halek

    Venting Thread- Vent about anything.

    One of my professors assigned a 25 minute presentation on a paper 2 days before it was due. Thanks man.....I totally didn't have other stuff to get done plus plans that I'm trying to already fit in this weekend.
  9. Halek

    Venting Thread- Vent about anything.

    I finally decided to talk to my friends about how lonely and isolated I feel and how I can't be the only one who plans social events that I can participate in remotely. I was met largely was awkward silence. I know that it makes them feel bad. But this is the exact reaction I expect and it sucks. You can't keep saying you'll be there for me, but then mean in a "we can drive 4 hours and meet each other in the middle" kinda way. Long distance friendships exist. But I can't be the only one putting time and energy into it. And it doesn't help when you ignore me when I bring up these problems. I know we aren't face to face so it's easy to do. But it just demonstrates my point how how I feel isolated. I know it makes you feel bad when I bring these things up. But I can't pretend to be happy with the situation indefinitely.
  10. Halek

    The Positivity Thread

    I ended up accepting the nomination to be the go-between between the ecology students and general grad school. While I'd love to be president in the long term, I don't have a lot of connections within the department yet so maybe next year when I feel a little better connected (hurray first year student problems)
  11. Halek

    The Positivity Thread

    Two people (I'm assuming in my cohort) nominated me for two ecology grad student association positions (one of them being president). I'm both flattered and horrified and unsure if I should accept the nominations.
  12. Halek

    The Positivity Thread

    I'm starting to meet people in the Anthropology department, I might be teaching half of the new cohort how to play dnd, and I'm going to visit old friends next weekend~ Also research stuff is slowly moving forward. Which is both exciting and terrifying.
  13. Halek

    Venting Thread- Vent about anything.

    A few days ago I was feeling so much better about the relationship not working out and also grad school stuff. Today basically completely reversed all that. I just want to feel comfortable for a little bit. That'd be nice.
  14. Halek

    The Positivity Thread

    I ended up dropping in on a meeting an undergrad was having with my advisor about life after college. I ended up talking to her for an hour. After, my advisor said I did a good job. I'm really happy that I was able to give her some really honest advice.
  15. Halek

    The Positivity Thread

    I learned that my advisor went through the same relationship drama when she was in her first year of her phD that I'm going through now. Is the drama getting better? No. It's getting worse. Somehow. But it makes me feel better to know that someone has been in my position and has gotten through it. Even if she did say that she almost quit.....
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