Is it OK to hate the people who got in?

[husky07]

I hate them just a little bit!

[socialpsych]

Feelings are feelings! It's just not okay to act on your hateful feelings. :twisted:

[synthla]

Given that I know there are people far better qualified than me, it's hard to hate them for being admitted because they worked harder or prepared more. I certainly could have worked harder in the past.

[Tritonetelephone]

Feelings are feelings! It's just not okay to act on your hateful feelings.

Well said. Ironically, guess who else wants UCSB? Me! :twisted:

[synthla]

Well said. Ironically, guess who else wants UCSB? Me. :twisted:

Can't blame either of you for that; I was just at UCSB on Sunday for other reasons. The beauty of that campus blows me away everytime.

[Tonights]

Well, yes and no. I feel like you guys on this board are sort of my comrades - so no, I hope for good things for y'all. But the faceless "other" folks who get admitted instead of me? Well, them I hate.

[Tritonetelephone]

Well, yes and no. I feel like you guys on this board are sort of my comrades - so no, I hope for good things for y'all. But the faceless "other" folks who get admitted instead of me? Well, them I hate.

I can relate. I'm much more hateful towards the results board than I am to people on the forum.

Of course, it's still early to judge since my field hasn't really started making offers yet. If I get into at least a few schools, I probably won't hate anybody. :wink:

[ohheygradschool]

Your day will come

[ewurgler]

I won't hate anyone on the sociology forums--they all seem as anxious, periodically insecure/confident as I do.

But, if I get rejected across the board, I'm sure I could muster up some serious hatred for those with more than one offer + full funding

Or, if I am on the waitlist and jerks are taking their sweet time deciding, then i will hate with shame.

[katanianQ]

what about good old fashioned teenage angsty hate the world ness?

[dragynally]

I'm gonna take the high road and so its not ok...because hating them wastes time and makes it harder to plot revenge :twisted: Not that I approve of such actions

P.S. I agree that I hope everyone here does well. Good luck all.

[gadhelyn]

I'm jealous, I want a letter, and all the other bio people have letters. Peeps in my field need to make some decisions!

[husky07]

Of course no one should act on hating them. I even don't wish them harm. I just wish that they get into ALL the schools I am not applying to and NONE of the ones I am applying to.

[ohheygradschool]

what about good old fashioned teenage angsty hate the world ness?

That will happen if I get in, but funding somehow doesn't work out. Then I'll go all 9th grade on everyone.

[ridgey]

Well, I'll be jealous, for sure, but can't imagine hating them.

The adcoms, on the other hand, who weren't able to discern my brilliance ... :wink:

Fortunately, I have yet to receive a single result, and so I can continue to assume the world is a happy place and academia is full of wonderful future colleagues .

[nemo]

i do have a little bit of stomach churning, although i probably wouldnt call it hate. what i do hate is the fact that the board index now has a 'decisions decisions' section. i cant even bear to enter it, for fear that i wont HAVE any decisions to make... and i still have AT LEAST a month to wait. urgh.

this reminds me of that gore vidal quote though: "every time a friend succeeds, a little bit of me dies". ugly sentiment, but theres probably a bit of truth in it somewhere.

[t_ruth]

what i do hate is the fact that the board index now has a 'decisions decisions' section. i cant even bear to enter it, for fear that i wont HAVE any decisions to make... and i still have AT LEAST a month to wait. urgh.

Sorry, that's my fault. I asked the mods for that section as soon as I had my first acceptance, which bolstered my hope that there will be more.

I wouldn't worry though, everyone on this board seems to be a super star (or close to it), so I'm betting you will have plenty of decisions to make since you were obviously smart enough to find your way here!

[linden]

Yes, it is okay to feel some bitterness towards those who succeeded when you did not. It's normal. The question you have to ask yourself, though, is "Is it worth to be angry?"

[nemo]

thanks t_ruth! dont worry, i'm not holding it against you! Hell, as soon as i have the tiniest decision to make ill probably be on there every five minutes basking in the warm, golden glow of Dreams Achieved.

[pregasauraus]

Of course no one should act on hating them. I even don't wish them harm. I just wish that they get into ALL the schools I am not applying to and NONE of the ones I am applying to.

Agreed! I hope everyone gets in, but no one takes "my" spot at my top choice. If only things worked out so well. For those of you who fear that you can't take being rejected, I was rejected from both the schools I applied to last year (yeah, I only applied to two), and I'm still alive and kicking. But since we're all getting in this year (please?) that's nothing you'll have to worry about.

[deianira]

life sciences rule (probably applies to other disciplines too): do not hate anyone, at least not to their face, or their friends' faces, or their hairdresser's cousin's long-lost twin's face - you may need to ask them for a protocol/cell stock/antibody/transgenic mouse mating pair some day.