LittleDarlings

So I'm going to just end this and try not to even look at this post anymore after this but it just bums me out like literally I made a post about wanting to meet a man in school and have a traditional family and I get so much crap and like crapped on, I wasn't already pregnant, I wasn't trying to randomly get pregnant by whoever and I get crap. Everyone tells me how it's so "hard" to have kids and do school (a 2 year program mind you... Not even a PhD) and how it's nearly impossible and I need to wait until like 30 and be "selfish" in my 20s (which sounds awful to me). But all of a sudden it's perfectly fine and normal and easy to have kids in school. Literally I'm going for a Masters that shouldn't even be that hard for a field that isn't even that hard to progress in. I'm sure Bio and med school is WAY more difficult than being a social worker, but no obviously it's so wrong and difficult to be 22 and wanting a husband and babies while in school. It's just kind of crappy. I mean I'm sure a 2 year program doesn't pose as much complication as a PhD. I know a guy whose been with his gf 3 years and she's getting a PhD in clinical psych and he wouldn't dream of getting her pregnant now and she wouldn't want to be pregnant now, and he makes great money as an engineer. It's just messed up that I got crap.

I'm a troll for calling someone out as irresponsible, which their actions prove. Ok then

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Lol Ratlab... Umm I will probably still join eharmony, still have the 50s lifestyle and also have a social work degree. I have to do something until I find the husband. Haha the fact that you're actually mad is funny sorry it just is. GEO I watched Sex and the City when Charlotte became Jewish for her husband... I don't know think I want to do that. Lol

I'm not even going to sit up and lie about this anymore because it's dumb, I'm just jealous. I have no control over being so jealous. I wasn't lying about never having a scare or being responsible. For the most part I have always been fairly responsible when it came to BC and condom usage and even in the very VERY RARE times that I may not have been the absolute MOST responsible person I still didn't get pregnant, but I always did things to prevent getting pregnant like taking a Plan B if I needed. Anyways I don't even know the OP I don't really care that much. I still think that if you don't want kids then be careful but whatever. This post popped up literally like 5 mins after my friend told me she is pregnant and so it was definitely not my day. I don't feel bad about what I said though and I'm still going to school for social work and counseling. And yes I understand how "long term relationships" work and I don't care a lot about PhD programs because.. I'm never going to pursue one. Just being honest.

Ok but who got the OP into the predicament that he is in? Like honestly? I get the whole it COULD happen, I don't know anyone it has happened to but I get it, it happens but still.. It's just annoying like seriously people get themselves in these positions and then freak out, whose fault is it.. honestly. I have thought a lot about the fact that when I am working I am going to see people like this and I am obviously going to have to tell them how "oh it's ok blah blah" and that does worry me BUT there are other aspects I like and I won't have to deal with totally irresponsible people all day every single day I figure.

Lol monochrome it's a little late on the social work thing.. Like I said I'm glad I didn't make THOSE mistakes. I also never said that I was going to school to find a husband solely. I am going to school to pursue a career, finding a husband is a major want but I mean I could find that before I start a program and be just as satisfied.

Haha I have friends thanks, funny enough my friend is going through this same thing right now. She JUST found out she's pregnant and I have actually been pretty decent with her even though I think she's making the most awful decision but whatever. That's the whole reason this post even stood out to me and I felt the need to say something. People are just so irresponsible nowadays.. I'm so glad I'm not. I haven't had so much as a pregnancy scare so I just don't get it but whatever. Well I'm sorry you're infertile that's really sad... But anyways why would anyone want to be pregnant in school, in a PhD program.. Whatever

I feel like if you can pull it off and it's in good taste then go for it, you never know right? I mean it could be a standout but it could also not be. I say go for it

Ok sorry I don't make mistakes like that... Not using a backup form of contraceptive is pretty irresponsible but hey whatever. I'm sure you were there to see your friends birth control methods huh? She would never lie to save face right? I mean it looks way better to say "oh I was on all this birth control and using condoms and everything and STILL got pregnant" than to say "oops I'm irresponsible"

I think I waited like a week or 2 when I applied. Most of my LORs got them in within the first week but I waited a week to remind a few. I always tried to do it on weekends also because they have more free time. It worked for me but all this depends on your deadline,I got mine in like way before the deadline because I wanted to be done with it. Goodluck!!

Maybe you didn't notice but I was already accepted into one Anyways I didn't say you HAVE to be married to have kids, it is ideal though. The whole point is broken condoms and failed BC aren't THAT common. Like I said I have used both and I'm not pregnant so... The OP is in school and having a kid with a crap income... yeah that is super responsible..

Lol a PhD in bio and unable to protect yourself from an unplanned pregnancy... That a shame.

Common situation? Umm sorry that doesn't commonly happen to me or people I know. Again I can only go by what I know and have seen. We all know how babies are made (at least I would think we do) so I don't understand the excuses. I honestly don't. I can acknowledge that pregnancy can happen when using contraceptives (rarely but it happens) I didn't ignore scientific proof, I'm saying it doesn't happen as much as people claim. We don't even know that happened to the OP. As far as his options he sounds like he intends to keep it he asked how hard it would be or something like that... So obviously he intends to have a kid now. I'm sure he will figure out if it's doable... If he is already in the program and already got a pregnant girlfriend at some point he will figure out if it's doable right? So no he doesn't have a ton of options. I get that it was probably wrong to say but I mean sorry the truth sucks sometimes.

I know what social work entails I always used to work at a family planning clinic so I saw people like this all the time and it was fine. I have the ability to put my personal feelings aside BUT at this moment I'm not a Social worker so.... I can say what I want. Even my therapist has blatantly questioned stuff I have said to her and she has a high client base so I'm not SUPER worried. You can't just co-sign what everyone says, if you are looking for guidance then you have to give an opinion. I'm not going to lie I didn't provide a ton of guidance to the OP but I'm sure he will figure it out.. I mean honestly what are his options? He HAS to figure it out. "Jelly"... Ok then. More like honest

Didn't know it was bad to want to be MARRIED and RESPONSIBLE before getting pregnant.. Hmmm what an awful goal. Anyways I think I said it was possible for the OP to do this I just said it wasn't responsible to do.. Is that wrong? I mean in my post so many people said "oh wait wait" so.... Yeah. Like I said I'm sure he can do it, he has no choice at this point so I'm sure he will figure it out.

Believe me I know the stats of contraceptives, the chances of getting pregnant while correctly using them is not that high. Is it my fault that people aren't responsible, don't ask their doctors questions etc...? No. Like I said I haven't been pregnant from BC I don't personally know people who have. Most of my friends have been on BC for years and not gotten pregnant. I'm not saying it doesn't happen obviously I understand it does but I'm saying people use that as an excuse way more than it should be. I don't even know that that's is the OPs situation, either way it was irresponsible. Support? Umm I think I was pretty supportive in the first post. I said "good luck" that's about as supportive as I can be with such irresponsible behavior.

Of you can ask your doctor about drug interactions (that is what I always did), you should probably remember to take your pill everyday because... that is what it is for, and yes I understand condoms rip BUT if you have a back up birth control that shouldn't really matter as much:/ so I still think that people make a lot of excuses. Again, I managed to avoid pregnancy all this time...

Well since I am not pursing a PhD I don't think that is a problem... I am going for a MSW. The schools I picked have great clinical social work programs and that was important, THAT is why I picked them. I also wanted to gain certification in mental health and developmental disabilities, after researching none of the professors that I saw had certification in DD which was a major thing in my SOP. I didn't say everyone should do what I did, I am saying I did it and I don't think it made a huge difference (I guess I will know in a few months). I made a post like this while I was applying and a few people said it is better to not mention a prof than to just throw some random name in there. In all honesty I don't even think you do a lot of research/lab studies in clinical social work...? I could be wrong.

And you were using it correctly? I have a hard time believing people who actually use forms of BC correctly are THAT likely to get pregnant it just isn't likely. I think it's an excuse, I have been on BC a while and about 3 different types of pills and other forms and not once have I gotten pregnant, tr had a scare so... Just saying.

I avoided putting a professor in my SOP for that reason. I went through and researched the staff and honestly none of their research pertained to what I wanted to do. I mentioned a lot of the certification programs that I was interested in but I didn't mention a specific professor. I think it's better to not mention one and not look like you just threw a name in there with basically no research, that's just my opinion though.

... Yes it would be so smart of me to get pregnant at this moment when I am single and applying to grad school. Sorry but I make better decisions than that. Like I said I'm not irresponsible. As far as waiting until you want a baby for sex... Umm I didn't know they STOPPED the production of condoms and birth control in the last year? Hmmm

.... I know the whole "birth control fails, condoms fail" argument (even though I have NEVER once met someone with that as their excuse but ok). Anyways like I said if you don't want a baby or aren't READY for one then we all know how they are created.

Jealous of???? Believe me if I wanted to be pregnant right now I am sure I could.. not that hard to be irresponsible, obviously Out of curiosity how old is the OP?

I always address them by their title. It is just a habit I'm also like that with calling people sir and ma'am and stuff