LittleDarlings

You all make it seem so difficult to find someone to marry. I mean I know you should be selective and find a good fit and if could possibly not work but I know some of the most awful people who are married or engaged... It cannot be THIS hard. I mean honestly. I don't want to be pessimistic about it (well anymore than I already am)

... Gee thanks. I hope I'm married if I do marriage counseling

I think it depends on the school? When I applied to OSU I submitted the app and waited for the letters, I couldn't see my status of who sent and who didn't until I submitted the app. At least they can start processing it.

I mean I know marriage is hard work, my parents have been married 26 years I've seen the struggle but they made it through. I know when I get married I'm sure there will be some conflict but I just don't think (and I hope) it isn't major. I would think whole dating someone I would find out a lot about them and I would know that my marriage is compatible. I mean how hard can this scenario be? I know some of the most selfish awful people who are engaged or married.

I don't know if I would mind having to compromise more. I want to be a supportive wife, as long as I have the flexibility to adjust. I mean I would expect him to adjust too though I think. I can't say how I would react I just hope that doesn't happen

Well my friends obviously let their relationships overtake their lives. I just make the choice to not talk about that stuff I don't want to hear it and I honestly don't have to, I can choose to do something else. We check in with eachother and that's good enough for me. I just want friends who are single and we can go out and pick up on guys people in relationships don't try to pickup on guys they also don't help me pick up on guys so that is no fun. ^your friend just randomly moved in with you? Wow

I don't know I mean I guess anything can be a single people topic or married people topic... Either way I don't want to hang out with them

I don't want to spend a whole meal talking about how my friends boyfriend is moving out of state and how she needs to now find a job here to save up and move there with him, or how he have her permission to start looking for jobs out there, or how he told her not to make plans on her birthday and how she wonders if he is going to propose or take her out of state.. None of those things are things I care about in the slightest.

I just don't want to hang out with friends in relationships all they want to do is talk about their significant other and I just sit there and act interested. I don't enjoy that. I just want single friends who are fun and want to talk about single people things. When I'm in a relationship too then I can hang out with those people. It's just too difficult for me so I avoid those situations. I have my 3 close friends but we aren't THAT close anymore because of boyfriends and college and stuff like that.

I don't want kids outside of marriage, I'm old fashioned I guess in that sense. I know its common and a lot of people I went to school with have had their kids and not been married but I kind of think that's looked down on. I don't want that. If it happened I wouldn't be upset but I would rather be married. I can't say he and I would have had a bad or unhappy marriage I mean in the time we were together he was a good boyfriend we just didn't have common goals. Example, I am 22 he was 20 when we were together and he always said he wanted to wait to have kids until he was 30.. MAJOR issues for me because I want kids like immediately. We just had different goals but I did all that I could to keep the relationship, just like I would for any relationship.

I do worry about that. The last relationship I was in was reality short (3 months including the meeting, dating and officialness) and when it ended I was more sad about not being a girlfriend anymore and (as bad as this sounds) having to change my status on FB from "in a relationship" to "single" it was like an embarrassment. Being single is embarrassing to me. Anyways I realized that I liked the guy I was with as a person but when we broke up I didn't care as much, I didn't take it really harshly, if that makes sense? However he broke up with me (it wasn't my fault, he just said he didn't want a girlfriend) but I knew we weren't compatible at all. Our views about things were so different, and he was in the Marines and had this specific idea for what he wanted to do with his life and I never felt like I fit into that BUT I figured if we got serious we would figure it out. Had he not broken up with me, despite all that incompatibleness, I would still be with him. I would have still married him and had a family, because I want to be married and have a family and I would do whatever I had to do to make it (a marriage) work. I don't need to be married tomorrow but I definitely want to get Into a relationship that is serious and leads to marriage now. I don't want to end up 25 and still looking for a guy

Mine is dumb, a Victorias PINK commercial was on and I just went with it, and I love Marilyn Monroe.

ZeChocMoose: I live less than an hour from Cleveland but I would never consider living there I hate the area lol I did apply to Case but if I got in and decided to attend that school I would live at home (it would save a ton of money since that school is so expensive, yet it would keep me in this area which is a MAJOR downside). As far as the interviews I have gone to like 7, mostly jobs that were commission based a lot of insurance companies and courthouse jobs, a lot of them have nothing to do with my field of study. I know I want to go back to school. If I don't go this year I will wait and reapply, I'm FOR SURE going back to grad school for Social Work. I like the counseling aspect, being able to talk to other people and help them with their issues. I knew for a while I wanted to do counseling but I was so far in my degree that I didn't want to change and be set back a year so I just waited and learned more about getting a MSW and just applied.

I have never has a professor sign anything like that lol

I only applied to 4, now I feel like I should have applied to a few more

I'm single, I don't like hanging out with people who have boyfriends, fiances or husbands. I'm THAT bitter person at the moment. I want to be married and I guess you can be fun and married but I don't want to sit around and talk about married life and husbands and kids especially when I am single. Once I am married I'm sure I will be kind of fun, but I will be "married fun" not single fun. I would rather just have all my fun with my husband doing stuff with my husband, going out with him I don't know if I would maintain friendships if I was married, and if I did it wouldn't be with single women I don't think. I feel like my priorities at that point will change so I wouldn't want to hang out with single people. I could be wrong, Lord knows by the time I actually find someone to marry my views will probably change a ton... in the next like 50 years lol FML

Ohio State is far enough away from home that I can't go back every weekend, but it is still in Ohio I can still make it to my brothers games occasionally and go home if I want. I want to get away from this area and meet new people which CBus would provide. As far as my roommate, I mean I assume I will kind of get to pick who I live with. I wouldn't pick to live with someone who isn't fun and is a hermit because I'm not like that. I would hope I like my roommate and they would want to be friends, I mean it would make the year super long if she didn't. Or I will just live alone

That seems so bleak, I am going to make friends with older married women who more than likely don't have attractive male friends. I don't like hanging out with married people, it's not fun at all. Oh well I am sure I can find something to get involved with I don't really have a lot of hobbies but I'm sure I will figure it out.

I lived at home during undergrad and commuted I had my high school friends and that was who I hung out with or I was a loner. I only applied to school far from home so any school I go to I will have to live on my own and make new friends. I know I'm capable of making friends and even if I couldn't I hope I would just have an awesome roommate to hang out with who will have friends and we can go to bars and pick up on guys or whatever.

I can't really find any work, I've gone on so many interviews but nothing. Also my degree is in criminal justice so there isn't much a can do with that. I don't necessarily put finding a relationship before grad school, to me they are equal. I look at grad school kind of as a means to get the other, I didn't meet anyone during undergrad, I didn't put myself out there much this is like my second chance. I get to move out and go to school and actually be an adult. The Social Work thing I have thought about for a while, I know I want to go into this field, I don't know anything else I would even want to do. If I worked and lived in the city for a year or 2 and didn't meet someone then I just waste a year or 2 of my life. With grad school I have 2 years I will have a degree if nothing else and then get a better job and hopefully meet someone. Even though like I said I'm going to try really hard to meet someone during grad school so I can get married after.

I can't see myself ever being fully happy with being single, it's just the worse thing to me. Maybe I just have way too much free time to worry about it and hopefully when I go to school I will be so distracted and hopefully have other friends but right now I just don't see myself being happy and single. Those 2 things don't go together for me. I'm turning 23 in a few weeks and I'm scared because I'm 23 and haven't accomplished anything. I have no relationship for the holidays, it just really sucks and I'm not getting younger which means the dating pool isn't getting bigger. Idk However I will try to be positive! So one happy thing I learned about myself I actually have a good personality like people like me and I can hold good conversations and that's good in a partner I also learned a new hobby, I can crochet

Gossip Magazine

Ew no people pick up prostitutes on there lol gross.

A ton of people mentioned online dating, I've been doing that since like 19 and idk if northeast Ohio is just filled with the most awful people or what but it's been a big fail. I was thinking last night though maybe once I settle on a school or even before then, like right now, going on Eharmony. I read that it creates more marriages and it is a more marriage based website compared to others. Does anyone have online dating experience? What sites were successful?

I so hope the MSW program has some decent guys or I make friends with people who have decent guy friends in other programs