LittleDarlings

Well that makes me feel even worse lol I REALLY need to find someone. I am almost 23 and it is hard to tell the good fish and bad fish.

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Exactly once I graduate and start working I am going to be even less likely to meet men so I think now is the time to really try

I have to bump this because I have worried so much that going into a female dominated field will make meeting guys so hard, and I have a hard time going out alone. I am afraid I won't make friends to go out with then I won't be able to meet anyone, let alone someone to date! And to me It is important that I meet someone soon. I don't want to graduate from grad school single... I have been single my whole live pretty much except for 2 very short relationships this year.

I just put in my app for OSU and I am already anxious. I want to get into this school so much! It is my number one, then Kentucky. So any OSU MSW students. I was lucky enough to meet a few but just wondering what were your stats (if you don't mind sharing). I think I have a decent chance of getting in, I had strong LORs and a good SOP my GPA was a 3.4. No work experience but I interned at a few places and tied those experiences into why I want to pursue this career. How long after submitting your app did you hear back from then? It's only been about 2 days. ))

I wish I would have ignored the words, and paid attention to actions first. It would have saved me a lot of trouble.

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I want a traditional marriage and family. I think if I met a guy and it was serious or we got married and he got a job in one state I would move there with him. I would either look for a job where he is or depending on his job and salary I would just be a stay at home wife and mother. I would eventually work but if I had kids I wouldn't mind staying at home with them until they are school aged. I want to go to grad school because I want this career and at least if I go to school now if I do find the husband and end up staying home I will have the ability to have this career eventually. Does that make sense? Joey as far as who I would pick I mean I would go with who I love. I think I can make certain sacrifices and make a conventional life for us. My friend met his gf in grad school, they were living in Kentucky, she got into school here in Ohio and he moved her with her he found an engineering job and works while she goes to school. It worked for them, I just want a situation like that to happen to me. They have a good relationship and they both are in/getting into careers that make good money, and he has said that she is the person he is going to eventually marry.

I say if you personally don't feel ready at the moment then just wait. Gain experience and research where you intend to go

Lol I was never a huge partier. I go out to meet guys and when I don't my life is a fail lol. When I was with my ex he was ok with me going out and in all honestly I like going out more when I was in a relationship because there was no stress on me. I had a boyfriend and I didn't have to have the most perfect sexy outfit or perfect hair and makeup. I could wear jeans and a nice top and not a short short dress lol it was less pressure. I will be happy to not have that pressure anymore lol I do enjoy going to bars occasionally but I could do that with a boyfriend. So yeah I'm pretty much done partying. I will be 23 in December, it's time to give it up.

Question, everyone basically has said when I am not looking for it it'll find me. Some also suggested dating sites. I have been on and off dating websites since I was like 19, I can't even imagine not being on one. I said at one point I would delete all of them and I did then like 2 weeks later I got bored and made them again. If I am not looking and it is going to find me then dating websites would be considered me looking right? But people actually find their soulmates sometimes on dating websites. So idk what I should do. I can't imagine not looking I don't even know if I have enough stuff to keep me busy enough to not look. What does "not looking" look like?

Lol I thought the same thing.

I want to go to to OSU way more. Honestly Pitt is last on the list especially with their prereq requirements that I would have to fulfill before being admitted. So I am just gonna hope I get accepted to OSU or UK

Well we all know my life desires and being 23 not knowing what to do with myself is not exciting is annoying and scary and frustrating

If I don't go to grad school I have no idea what I will be doing with my life

I regret not going to a school away from home. I would be a totally different person (and probably have a boyfriend) if I had that independence. I would know how to do stuff for myself instead of my parents doing everything for me. The school itself that I went to I have no regrets beyond that. It was a decent school and I had decent grads and I loved it but I wish I personally would have made my experience different

Ok see now here is the tricky part. You all are (or most of you who replied) in relationships. And by 22 you were in those relationships or 23. I will be 23 in December. I honestly respect all of your opinions but it is easy to tell me not to rush and stuff when you are in a relationship that will likely less to marriage. That is one less thing that you have to worry about. I don't want to seem like I don't get it because I do but you all are in relationships and long term relationships or married or married with kids so of course you don't care about the plight of single me. To me it is something you already have but if you didn't have it you would probably worry assuming it's something you care about. Does that make sense?? Anyways I just know I will hopefully go to grad school out of state and it gives me a chance to grow up and meet new people and I hope that some of those new people I meet are single men who want relationships

Lol yes I've seen that episode, she found a husband though... It didn't last though lol I feel like maybe I worded the topic badly or something but I am NOT going to grad school solely to find a husband, if I met someone I wouldn't drop out of grad school. That's a huge time and money commitment to just throw away if someone pops up. The whole point of my post was grad school will pose more opportunities to meet a husband compared to working... Especially since I haven't been able to find a job after graduation. That was the point not me just going to school to meet men I want more out of it than that.

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CageFree: I can honestly say I would not leave my grad program for a marriage offer. I feel like whoever I was with would realize I am in school for a reason and would want me to pursue my goals. MSW is a 2 year program so I can't see why that would even be an option, but no I would not leave. I think in dating you obviously have to sacrifice and make stuff work and they would just have to make it work for 2 years. Jenste: In all honesty it is so weird that I have feelings like this because my parents got married at 30 had me at 35 and my brother at 39 and they have been married 27 years. That should be my inspiration for why waiting and holding off can and does work right? I don't know where I get my ideas from, I think a lot of it has to do with friends who have boyfriends. In high school I was never like this super confident girl I had a disability (obviously I don't want to use that as an excuse or anything) but I can acknowledge that it makes me feel less than. I feel like if I get someone who actually is nice and accepts me and my disability I have to cling onto them and not let go because if they leave me then who else will want me. It is so stupid of me because there is always someone who is ok with it but to me it does not feel that way. Anyways I have just grown up and my friends have all been or are in serious relationships so I felt like that was the norm. I definitely don't want to rush into something because I want it to last. Ideally I would have a family like my own.

Did anyone not have the required classes to the school you applied to? I applied to the University of Pitt and they have a statistic requirement that has to be accomplished before admittance. I emailed the admission officer and she said it would be cheaper for me to take the course at a community college than at Pitt because I will be coded as a grad student. Ugh I'm worried now. I honestly feel like I should just wait until I get my other 2 applications in and then see where I get in and decide. I have no idea how I would pay for a community college course so I don't know what to do. I am getting so overwhelmed already. My question is has anyone been in this position where they did not have all the prerequisites? How did your situation work out?

I want a lasting relationship. One that eventually leads to marriage and a family. My panic more than anything is because I think by 22 almost 23 you should have had a serious relationship. I've been through a ton of crap with a ton of not so good guys, Joeyboy you mentioned the whole getting used which has happen a lot. I just think most people have had at least one serious relationship by now. What if I finally meet someone we date and it doesn't work? Then what will happen to me? A friend told me about her friend who is 38 lives in ca and is an attorney. She has this awesome life but she's single.. She was engaged and they recently called it off. Now what happens to that lady? To me that is the worst thing that could happen, I can't even imagine it. So yes I want a lasting relationship but I would hope it would happen soon so if the relationship fails I won't have wasted a huge amount of time. Does that make sense? I don't want to seem difficult because I understand what everyone is saying, I truly do. This is something I have gone back and forth about for a REALLY long time (in all honesty probably since I was 15) it wasn't as intense at 15 I just knew one day I wanted to get married and start a family and hopefully I would be young when that happened but now the pressure feels like it is on. I can't accept the idea that it will NEVER happen, that is way too much right now. Who would want to/be happy about being in your 40s (as a woman) and single with no children I just feel like that isn't something to be happy about and I personally can't imagine being happy about that. Everyone is different but I just want a family so much. I don't want people to think I am going to grad school specifically to find a husband, that would be stupid and a HUGE investment for just that. I want to go to grad school and complete it and have a career that I love but ideally while I am doing that I hope to meet someone and start a serious relationship. A lot of professionals are older when they get married and have kids but I really would prefer if that wasn't me. I am not saying I want to get married tomorrow but I would hope by 30 I would be married at least if nothing else.

Oh I honestly thought you were just making fun of me. I mean I know that telling a guy off the bat that I want to be married with a kid by 30 is crazy (which is why I would rather not do it) I just figure that if I get into a good relationship it will eventually lead to that. The first guy I dated who said he didn't want a LDR was all about marriage and kids. After our third date he told me he could see himself marrying me and starting a family in a few years, I even down played it when he said it, I didn't act all giddy even though inside I was relieved and pretty much doing back flips. I played it cool, and we were great together. I have no idea what happened, one day it was fine and the next he took this job working insane hours and he moved back to his hometown 45 mins away and said that was "too long distance for him". The second guy I don't know if we even had potential to work, I was just happy to be in a relationship honestly. He was 20 in the Marines and he really didn't know what he wanted. Everything was great at first and then he decided he wanted to move back to his dad's and work there (2 hours away) and go to school and he just didn't want a gf anymore. I know had I been honest with him about immediately wanting marriage and kids he would have left immediately. He said told me right before we broke up "I feel like now that I have a gf I am on a one way track to marriage and I don't want to marry you right now" which was understandable but he talked about like 10 years and honestly 10 years from now I plan to be married with at least 2 kids I hope. Anyways Mandarin, do you ever worry a little that you won't find someone? I don't know how old you are but you said in your 30's, do you want a family? I totally understand not everyone does, I used to work for Planned Parenthood and all those women said "I want to just have a career and I will worry about a husband and kids when I am in my 30s" which to me was like Earth shattering, the idea of being single in my 30s. Everyone is different though

I understand. I honestly do, I guess I will just have to wait and see what happens